Uploaded June 2025 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
What gets in the way of truly intimate, healthy relationships…and what can we do about it? Renowned couples therapist @realterryreal joins me to explore how we can get past our conditioning and build deeper, more meaningful connections. Part of the episode is an experiential process where Terry guides me through some inner child work, it's probably the most revealed I've been on the show. Let me know what you think.
About our Guest: Terry Real is a family therapist, speaker, and bestselling author known for his groundbreaking work on men, masculinity, and relationships. He is the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and the author of several bestselling books.
Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
1:34 Systemic thinking in therapy, and the cultural forces that shape relationships
9:00 RLT and confrontation in therapy
12:58 The Adaptive Child, Wise Adult, and how internal parts shape how we relate
17:13 Relational mindfulness, and moving from 'me' to 'us'
25:12 Fierce intimacy: why telling the truth is more loving than being “nice”
30:55 Psychological patriarchy, and how it ruins our relationships
40:20 Trauma work, and loving confrontation
42:28 Experiential process: Terry guides Forrest through inner child work
51:40 How patriarchal norms get in the way of emotional connection for men
1:02:24 Recap
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Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.
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What gets in the way of truly intimate, healthy relationships…and what can we do about it? Renowned couples therapist @realterryreal joins me to explore how we can get past our conditioning and build deeper, more meaningful connections. Part of the episode is an experiential process where Terry guides me through some inner child work, it's probably the most revealed I've been on the show. Let me know what you think.
About our Guest: Terry Real is a family therapist, speaker, and bestselling author known for his groundbreaking work on men, masculinity, and relationships. He is the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and the author of several bestselling books.
Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
1:34 Systemic thinking in therapy, and the cultural forces that shape relationships
9:00 RLT and confrontation in therapy
12:58 The Adaptive Child, Wise Adult, and how internal parts shape how we relate
17:13 Relational mindfulness, and moving from 'me' to 'us'
25:12 Fierce intimacy: why telling the truth is more loving than being “nice”
30:55 Psychological patriarchy, and how it ruins our relationships
40:20 Trauma work, and loving confrontation
42:28 Experiential process: Terry guides Forrest through inner child work
51:40 How patriarchal norms get in the way of emotional connection for men
1:02:24 Recap
Subscribe to Being Well on:
Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/being-well-with-dr-rick-hanson/id1120885936
Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1XY0fpdYNSEwXLVQ
Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.
Subscribe to Rick on YouTube: youtube.com/@RickHanson?sub_confirmation=1
Get Rick's Free Newsletters: rickhanson.com/writings/newsletters-from-dr-rick-hanson
Follow Rick Here:
🌍 rickhanson.com
📸 instagram.com/rickhansonphd
I'm not a clinician, and what I say on this channel should not be taken as medical advice.
You can follow me here:
🎤 apple.co/38ufGG0
🌍 forresthanson.com
📸 instagram.com/f.hanson
