Father's Day - Regardless of Your Relationship With Your Father @estherperel

Uploaded June 2026 | Updated September 2026, 4 hours ago

What is the significance of the ritual of Father's Day; and what is its significance in the absence of closeness to a biological father?

On a Substack live earlier this month, I chatted with Bruce Feiler, my dear friend and colleague. From The Council of Dads, Bruce’s account of asking six friends to serve as surrogate fathers for his twin daughters after he received a cancer diagnosis, to A Time To Gather, Bruce is well-versed on life’s transitions and how to navigate them. His extensive body of work stands out as one that will not only carry you through life, but help you to experience it tenderly, intentionally, and among others.

Beyond this short clip, you can watch the full live by subscribing to my Substack, Entre Nous: https://estherperel.substack.com?utm_medium=social

Fathers Day - Regardless of Your Relationship With Your Father

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