Uploaded November 2025 | Updated September 2026, 1 week ago
👋 What happens to your church relationships when you finally get out of a destructive marriage? (Because it's not always hugs and casseroles.)
In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, I'm joined by three of my favorite people, Diana, Stacey, and Marie, as we talk about:
✅ How our churches responded when we got divorced
✅ The difference between God and the scary little “gods” people worship in His name
✅ Why you don’t need to stay and educate your pastor (you can just LEAVE, sis)
✅ What true spiritual community looks like
✅ Forgiveness, boundaries, and why "restoration" isn't always the goal
✅ How to help your kids spiritually when you're deconstructing everything
If you’ve felt judged, abandoned, or confused about your faith after divorce, this is your permission slip to rethink and reclaim what was always yours: your connection with God.
📚Feel like a hot mess after divorce? My FREE 5-Day Workshop (flyingfreenow.com/five-day-workshop/) will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.
📒 Read the full show notes at flyingfreenow.com/dcw28
#ChurchAfterDivorce #Deconstruction #FlyingFree #NatalieHoffman #SpiritualAbuse #ChristianDivorce #ReligiousTrauma #FaithAfterDivorce #LeavingChurch #WomensVoices #ChristianPodcast #FlyingHigher
👋 What happens to your church relationships when you finally get out of a destructive marriage? (Because it's not always hugs and casseroles.)
In this episode of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, I'm joined by three of my favorite people, Diana, Stacey, and Marie, as we talk about:
✅ How our churches responded when we got divorced
✅ The difference between God and the scary little “gods” people worship in His name
✅ Why you don’t need to stay and educate your pastor (you can just LEAVE, sis)
✅ What true spiritual community looks like
✅ Forgiveness, boundaries, and why "restoration" isn't always the goal
✅ How to help your kids spiritually when you're deconstructing everything
If you’ve felt judged, abandoned, or confused about your faith after divorce, this is your permission slip to rethink and reclaim what was always yours: your connection with God.
📚Feel like a hot mess after divorce? My FREE 5-Day Workshop (flyingfreenow.com/five-day-workshop/) will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.
📒 Read the full show notes at flyingfreenow.com/dcw28
#ChurchAfterDivorce #Deconstruction #FlyingFree #NatalieHoffman #SpiritualAbuse #ChristianDivorce #ReligiousTrauma #FaithAfterDivorce #LeavingChurch #WomensVoices #ChristianPodcast #FlyingHigher
![Whats Gaslighting? How to Spot the Subtle Signs Youre Being Manipulated Part One [382]](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/iIOAThqCzYk/mqdefault.jpg "Whats Gaslighting? How to Spot the Subtle Signs Youre Being Manipulated Part One [382]
Today we’ll talk about one of the most disorienting experiences Christian women in emotionally abusive marriages face: gaslighting.
But we aren’t going to just define what gaslighting is. I’m going to break it down into all the tiny parts and give you some specific stories so you can see exactly what’s going on and WHY.
You’ll learn three specific tactics gaslighters use, why they use them, and what you can do to stay grounded in your own reality when someone is working hard to pull you out of it.
Key Takeaways:
- Why someone can sound completely loving and caring while actually doing something deeply harmful to you
- The hidden reason your concerns keep disappearing from conversations before they ever get resolved
- What a joke has to do with control, and why your bodys reaction is not a character flaw
- The psychological mechanism you share with a slot machine, and what its actually costing you
- The one shift that strips a gaslighting tactic of all its power, without you having to win a single argument
Get Today’s Free Resource:
🧐 Are you wondering what is happening inside your own painful and confusing marriage? I wrote a book just for you called Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Get a free chapter by going to isitmebook.com
I will also send you my weekly Hope Letters for Christian women in emotionally and spiritually abusive marriages.")
![Breaking the Cycle of Fear, Obligation, and Guilt: Gwendoline’s Story [354]](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/iP8xmt0dHbw/mqdefault.jpg "Breaking the Cycle of Fear, Obligation, and Guilt: Gwendoline’s Story [354]
What if the very things that make you kind, loyal, and generous are the same things that keep you stuck in a destructive marriage?
In this episode, I sit down with Gwendoline, one of our longtime Flying Free and Flying Higher members, to unpack her raw and powerful story of waking up, breaking free, and rebuilding her life from the inside out.
⚡ We’re talking emotional abuse, spiritual gaslighting, the lie that “love is enough,” and how hope can sometimes keep you trapped.
This isn’t just a story. It’s a survival guide for any woman who feels stuck, scared, and soul-tired, but still secretly wonders if she’s crazy.
💥 Key Takeaways:
- Fights that feel like warfare? 🚩 That’s not love.
- FOG = Fear, Obligation, Guilt = The trap that keeps you stuck.
- Your body will tell you the truth, even if your brain is in denial.
- Leaving while still loving him isn’t a contradiction—it’s wisdom.
- You are the rescuer you’ve been waiting for (with God as your co-pilot).
Get a FREE chapter of Is It ME? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage, along with the companion workbook for that chapter, by going to flyingfreenow.com. Ill also send you the Freedom Letters. (Also free. 😉 )
Related Resources:
🎙️ Check out related Flying Free Podcast episodes: “Out of the Poisoned Pond: Jennie’s Story” (https://www.flyingfreenow.com/343-2/) and “Military Marriage Abuse: Elizabeth’s Story” (https://www.flyingfreenow.com/336-2/).
📒 Read the full show notes at https://www.flyingfreenow.com/354
#FlyingFreePodcast #EmotionalAbuseRecovery #ChristianDivorceSupport #SpiritualAbuseAwareness #ToxicMarriage #ReligiousTraumaRecovery #WomenEmpowerment #DivorceHealingJourney #LeavingAnAbusiveMarriage #FaithAndFreedom #ChristianWomensupport #GaslightingRecovery #FaithDeconstruction #HealingFromAbuse #SurvivorStory")
![Toxic Beliefs That Keep Christian Women From Their True Identity (A Story about a Runner) [349]](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/iXkDvbexshU/mqdefault.jpg "Toxic Beliefs That Keep Christian Women From Their True Identity (A Story about a Runner) [349]
Are you exhausted from carrying the emotional weight of toxic teachings dressed up as biblical truth? In this episode, I share the story of Sarah, a woman ready to run, but burdened by decades of destructive beliefs she didn’t even know she was carrying.
💔 “A good wife never questions her husband.”
💔 “God won’t give you more than you can handle.”
💔 “What will people think?”
Sound familiar?
🔓 Let’s unpack the lies. Reclaim your identity. And maybe—just maybe—start running free.
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Related Resources:
🧐 Are you wondering what is happening inside your own painful and confusing marriage? I wrote a book just for you called Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage: A Christian Woman’s Guide to Hidden Emotional and Spiritual Abuse. Get a free chapter when you sign up for my mailing list at the top of my website: https://flyingfreenow.com
👹 My book, All the Scary Little Gods (https://www.flyingfreenow.com/all-the-scary-little-gods/), is a spiritual memoir about healing from religious trauma and toxic programming.
🦋 The Kaleidoscope (https://joinflyingfree.com) is our ridiculously affordable online community educating and supporting Christian women in emotionally abusive marriages. Whether you want to stay in your marriage or leave, we can equip you for the next part of your journey through this program.
🚀 Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my private mentorship program for Christian women who want to go deeper and work with me in a smaller group.
🎙️ Check out related Flying Free Podcast episodes: “12 Life-Changing Beliefs That Will Unhook You From Abuse” (https://www.flyingfreenow.com/181-2/) and “The Beliefs that Keep Christian Women Stuck in Abusive Marriages” (https://www.flyingfreenow.com/53-2/).
📒 Read the full show notes at https://www.flyingfreenow.com/349
#ChristianWomen #ReligiousTrauma #SpiritualAbuseRecovery #ToxicBeliefs #EmotionalAbuse #FlyingFree #NatalieHoffman #RunFree #ChristianMarriage #FaithDeconstruction #YouWereMeantToRun")
![Breaking the Cycle of Emotional Abuse in a Christian Home - Emotional Abuse 101 | Part 8 [363]](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/l8BPcmOfo7Y/mqdefault.jpg "Breaking the Cycle of Emotional Abuse in a Christian Home - Emotional Abuse 101 | Part 8 [363]
How do you actually break free from emotional and spiritual abuse in your Christian home?
Most Christian women stay stuck because nobody tells them the truth: breaking free requires three specific stages.
In this episode, youll find out why you keep falling for the honeymoon phase trap, what you need to do first before anything else, and why writing everything down literally saves your sanity. This isnt feel-good advice. This is the actual path thousands of women have walked to get out and stay out.
🔑 Key Takeaways:
- Stage One is safety. Learn what that looks like.
- The abuse cycle speeds up over time: Tension builds, he explodes, then comes the honeymoon where hes suddenly the man you married. Research shows this cycle gets faster and more violent the longer you stay.
- Write everything down: Keep a detailed abuse log with dates, quotes, and screenshots. This counters his gaslighting and becomes essential evidence down the road.
- Youre in the cycle too: When you feel hopeful after his apology, youre caught in the honeymoon trap. Recognizing why you go back to the “hope drug” will be key to your ultimate freedom.
- Real freedom is peace without dread: Its waking up without calculating how hell react to your existence. Its making choices without permission. Its living as yourself instead of his idea of who you should be
🎙️ Watch the rest of this Emotional Abuse 101 series (as it comes out) here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLBdUxnQhFcrRs8AQvGns4fzSm8x6yuluR
Get Today’s Free Resource:
🎁 I want to give you a free gift. It’s the audio version of my book, All the Scary Little Gods. It’s my own story of getting out after over two decades. You can listen to it FREE by going to scarylittlegods.com
I will also send you my weekly Hope Letters for Christian women in emotionally and spiritually abusive marriages.")
