Uploaded October 2024 | Updated September 2026, 7 hours ago

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Research:

Origins of the self esteem movement:
theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/jun/03/quasi-religious-great-self-esteem-con

Toxic positivity:
psyche.co/ideas/what-makes-toxic-positivity-different-from-a-healthy-attitude

Videos watched:
youtube.com/watch?v=gC5hAAvhClE
youtube.com/watch?v=Aa8nJk00REs

Article on pride vs narcissism:
psyche.co/guides/how-to-feel-more-pride-in-your-hard-earned-achievements

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0:00 "Just love yourself!"
0:52 (1) The fragile origins of the self esteem movement
2:41 (2) The issues with self esteem
10:09 (3) The problem with toxic positivity
15:35 (4) How self esteem actually works
24:31 (5) How to increase your self esteem
44:53 (6) Pride vs narcissism
55:03 Summary & outro rizz

Title ideas
self esteem is not what you think it is