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I’ve got another incredible episode of Women of Impact, where we're taking a deep dive into a topic that's plagued too many women with confusion and pain - dealing with narcissistic partners.
Psychologist and mental health advocate, Dr. Becky Spelman joins me to spin a new twist on narcissistic behaviors that trip women up in the bedroom. We’re talking about the complex dynamics of sleeping with a narcissist - an experience that can destroy your confidence, your sanity, and your self-love.
Dr. Spelman exposes 13 tell-tale signs that you're sharing your bed with a narcissist. She also discusses why transitioning from toxic relationships to healthy ones can feel surprisingly challenging, even boring.
Because I want to flood you with practical information you can actually use to change your life, we’re unpacking the goods and exposing new insights and views to help you escape narcissistic abuse and narcissistic romance in the bedroom.
- Why making you climax one minute and ignoring you the next is a power play they love
- How narcissists gaslight you and totally bullsh*t themselves at the same time
- The horrendous experience of being ghosted and devalued and why the “too good to be true” first dates are a major red flag.
- How being dominated and submissive in the bedroom can go from fun and kinky to toxic and tragic fast!
If you are highly empathetic, always have an excuse for your partner’s poor behavior, and find yourself dismissing how badly you feel over how bad they’ve had it, this episode is a Must for you!
You'll learn about confusing patterns of emotional highs and lows, the insidious tactic of gaslighting, and how narcissists often target strong, beautiful individuals, only to gradually erode their confidence and sense of self.
But don't worry, ladies - it's not all doom and gloom. We're also talking about reclaiming your power, rebuilding your confidence, and rediscovering the amazing person you were before that narcissistic lover came into your life.
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Homie, if you’re going to become a fully radical confident woman, than understanding how to navigate these toxic relationships is a must, and Dr. Laura Berman is a truth telling powerhouse that’s the right amount of boost for women in need of deeper support.
“The pain of being in the relationship has to be greater than your fear of leaving it, or you’re not going to leave.” Dr. Laura Berman
BECKY SPELMAN QUOTES:
“Sometimes they’re really focused on giving you pleasure because your orgasm is actually about them.”
“Sex is often the key for a narcissist.”
“In the beginning they will idolize you, [...] they absolutely have to perceive you as being better than them because you’re a challenge, you’re someone to conquer, and they’re not going to choose you if they think you’re not worthy at all.”
“It’s really important to have empathy for the narcissist as well, and this is something that is almost never talked about, [...] I like to talk about how much they suffer, [...] you rarely get to understand how much a narcissist is suffering on a daily basis.”
“They can’t accept that they’re wrong, this is a kind of psychosis that kicks in where they start actually believing their own delusions.”
“People with narcissistic traits are capable of change because we all have narcissistic traits.”
“If you’re the problem then they’re good and you need the fixing so you’re the one with the problem.”
“If something is too good to be true or too intense at the start you’re going to get a flip side. The idolization comes first and then the devaluation, which is where you’re going to get ghosted and discarded.”
“They don’t change, they just get bored.”
“People often confuse fear and attraction and they go for these more dramatic relationships because they need the anxiety to kick in to feel that excitement but what it actually is, is fear.”
Follow Dr. Becky Spelman:
Website: theprivatetherapyclinic.co.uk
YouTube: youtube.com/@PrivateTherapyClinic
Twitter: twitter.com/drbeckyspelman
Instagram: instagram.com/drbeckyspelman
Facebook: facebook.com/DrBeckySpelman
Follow Dr. Laura Berman:
Website: drlauraberman.com
YouTube: youtube.com/@DrLauraBermanOfficial
Instagram: instagram.com/drlauraberman
Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - bit.ly/3dWyB2d
Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - bit.ly/3fZcbO5
I’ve got another incredible episode of Women of Impact, where we're taking a deep dive into a topic that's plagued too many women with confusion and pain - dealing with narcissistic partners.
Psychologist and mental health advocate, Dr. Becky Spelman joins me to spin a new twist on narcissistic behaviors that trip women up in the bedroom. We’re talking about the complex dynamics of sleeping with a narcissist - an experience that can destroy your confidence, your sanity, and your self-love.
Dr. Spelman exposes 13 tell-tale signs that you're sharing your bed with a narcissist. She also discusses why transitioning from toxic relationships to healthy ones can feel surprisingly challenging, even boring.
Because I want to flood you with practical information you can actually use to change your life, we’re unpacking the goods and exposing new insights and views to help you escape narcissistic abuse and narcissistic romance in the bedroom.
- Why making you climax one minute and ignoring you the next is a power play they love
- How narcissists gaslight you and totally bullsh*t themselves at the same time
- The horrendous experience of being ghosted and devalued and why the “too good to be true” first dates are a major red flag.
- How being dominated and submissive in the bedroom can go from fun and kinky to toxic and tragic fast!
If you are highly empathetic, always have an excuse for your partner’s poor behavior, and find yourself dismissing how badly you feel over how bad they’ve had it, this episode is a Must for you!
You'll learn about confusing patterns of emotional highs and lows, the insidious tactic of gaslighting, and how narcissists often target strong, beautiful individuals, only to gradually erode their confidence and sense of self.
But don't worry, ladies - it's not all doom and gloom. We're also talking about reclaiming your power, rebuilding your confidence, and rediscovering the amazing person you were before that narcissistic lover came into your life.
*****Fully Empowered Bonus with Laura Berman*****
Homie, if you’re going to become a fully radical confident woman, than understanding how to navigate these toxic relationships is a must, and Dr. Laura Berman is a truth telling powerhouse that’s the right amount of boost for women in need of deeper support.
“The pain of being in the relationship has to be greater than your fear of leaving it, or you’re not going to leave.” Dr. Laura Berman
BECKY SPELMAN QUOTES:
“Sometimes they’re really focused on giving you pleasure because your orgasm is actually about them.”
“Sex is often the key for a narcissist.”
“In the beginning they will idolize you, [...] they absolutely have to perceive you as being better than them because you’re a challenge, you’re someone to conquer, and they’re not going to choose you if they think you’re not worthy at all.”
“It’s really important to have empathy for the narcissist as well, and this is something that is almost never talked about, [...] I like to talk about how much they suffer, [...] you rarely get to understand how much a narcissist is suffering on a daily basis.”
“They can’t accept that they’re wrong, this is a kind of psychosis that kicks in where they start actually believing their own delusions.”
“People with narcissistic traits are capable of change because we all have narcissistic traits.”
“If you’re the problem then they’re good and you need the fixing so you’re the one with the problem.”
“If something is too good to be true or too intense at the start you’re going to get a flip side. The idolization comes first and then the devaluation, which is where you’re going to get ghosted and discarded.”
“They don’t change, they just get bored.”
“People often confuse fear and attraction and they go for these more dramatic relationships because they need the anxiety to kick in to feel that excitement but what it actually is, is fear.”
Follow Dr. Becky Spelman:
Website: theprivatetherapyclinic.co.uk
YouTube: youtube.com/@PrivateTherapyClinic
Twitter: twitter.com/drbeckyspelman
Instagram: instagram.com/drbeckyspelman
Facebook: facebook.com/DrBeckySpelman
Follow Dr. Laura Berman:
Website: drlauraberman.com
YouTube: youtube.com/@DrLauraBermanOfficial
Instagram: instagram.com/drlauraberman
