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Have you ever wondered why you’re drawn to people who feel so familiar, even when it doesn’t always serve you?
Our nervous systems equate familiarity with safety. The patterns we know feel grounding, even if they quietly keep us stuck. So we return to them, mistaking comfort for connection.
This video is a class I lead inside my Lovers community, based on my podcast episode with Lilly, to help you recognize your own patterns and build healthier ways of connecting.
In my episode with Lilly Singh, this looked like noticing when her nervous system was hijacked by old dynamics. Instead of repeating the cycle, she learned how to pause, step away, and redirect her energy toward people who consistently showed up.
📺 Watch the full conversation: youtu.be/g45QDcdQbng
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🎬 About Doin’ It
Lilly’s new movie, Doin’ It, is in theaters now. Fandango+2JustWatch+2
You can get tickets and showtimes via AMC Theatres or Fandango. JustWatch+1
Mark your calendar: starting October 7, Doin’ It will be available to stream.
For more information visit doinitmovie.com
🔗 Follow Lilly Singh
Instagram: instagram.com/lilly
Twitter/X: twitter.com/Lilly
Grab her bestselling book Be a Triangle → lillysinghbook.com
Want more Lover?
Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → loversbyshan.com
Get a free weekly Love Letter → loversbyshan.com/newsletter
Join the Lovers Community → loversbyshan.com/community
Explore free quizzes + worksheets → loversbyshan.com/quizzes
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Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com
FOR A FREE TRIAL and 10% off your first Squarespace website or domain, go to squarespace.com/shanboody. And when you’re ready to launch, you can also save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain by going through Squarespace.com/shanboody
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Have you ever wondered why you’re drawn to people who feel so familiar, even when it doesn’t always serve you?
Our nervous systems equate familiarity with safety. The patterns we know feel grounding, even if they quietly keep us stuck. So we return to them, mistaking comfort for connection.
This video is a class I lead inside my Lovers community, based on my podcast episode with Lilly, to help you recognize your own patterns and build healthier ways of connecting.
In my episode with Lilly Singh, this looked like noticing when her nervous system was hijacked by old dynamics. Instead of repeating the cycle, she learned how to pause, step away, and redirect her energy toward people who consistently showed up.
📺 Watch the full conversation: youtu.be/g45QDcdQbng
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🎬 About Doin’ It
Lilly’s new movie, Doin’ It, is in theaters now. Fandango+2JustWatch+2
You can get tickets and showtimes via AMC Theatres or Fandango. JustWatch+1
Mark your calendar: starting October 7, Doin’ It will be available to stream.
For more information visit doinitmovie.com
🔗 Follow Lilly Singh
Instagram: instagram.com/lilly
Twitter/X: twitter.com/Lilly
Grab her bestselling book Be a Triangle → lillysinghbook.com
Want more Lover?
Shan’s AI trained to give you her advice → loversbyshan.com
Get a free weekly Love Letter → loversbyshan.com/newsletter
Join the Lovers Community → loversbyshan.com/community
Explore free quizzes + worksheets → loversbyshan.com/quizzes
________________________
Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com
