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Most people think attraction is about chemistry… but it’s actually about Turn-On Triggers.
There are a lot of assumptions that intimacy starts with physical touch, but arousal begins in the mind and nervous system. When someone feels caught off guard or pressured, it can trigger what sex therapist Vanessa Marin calls the Bristle Reaction, where the body pulls away instead of opening up. That’s why knowing your and your partner(s) turn on triggers are so important.
In this video, I break down the 6 Turn-On Triggers that shape how people experience desire and connection:
1) Direct Desire; 2) Mental Stimulation; 3) Sensualist; 4) Pursuit; 5) Choreplay; 6) Visionary
Take the Turn-On Trigger Quiz
loversbyshan.com/resource/turnon
CHAPTERS
0:00 – Introduction
1:52 – Turn-On Triggers overview
2:41 – Direct Desire
3:46 – Mental Stimulation
5:14 – Sensualist
6:20 – Polyvagal Theory
8:49 – The Pursuit
10:49 – Choreplay
11:46 – Visionary
13:11 – Final words
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Most people think attraction is about chemistry… but it’s actually about Turn-On Triggers.
There are a lot of assumptions that intimacy starts with physical touch, but arousal begins in the mind and nervous system. When someone feels caught off guard or pressured, it can trigger what sex therapist Vanessa Marin calls the Bristle Reaction, where the body pulls away instead of opening up. That’s why knowing your and your partner(s) turn on triggers are so important.
In this video, I break down the 6 Turn-On Triggers that shape how people experience desire and connection:
1) Direct Desire; 2) Mental Stimulation; 3) Sensualist; 4) Pursuit; 5) Choreplay; 6) Visionary
Take the Turn-On Trigger Quiz
loversbyshan.com/resource/turnon
CHAPTERS
0:00 – Introduction
1:52 – Turn-On Triggers overview
2:41 – Direct Desire
3:46 – Mental Stimulation
5:14 – Sensualist
6:20 – Polyvagal Theory
8:49 – The Pursuit
10:49 – Choreplay
11:46 – Visionary
13:11 – Final words
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Follow me elsewhere:
instagram.com/shanboodram
facebook.com/shanboodram
https://x.com/shanboodram
loversbyshan.com
Join my lovers community: loversbyshan.com/community
Advertising & Other Inquiries: team@loversbyshan.com
