Uploaded October 2015 | Updated September 2026, 3 weeks ago
Do you judge the “value” of others? "He's an alpha male!", "She's an 8!", "Those guys are losers.", "She's fat!", "He's a really cool dude.", etc. When you see people for the "value" that they have, what you are doing is subconsciously seeing yourself as a “value”. So the more you judge others, the more you also will be subconsciously judging yourself. (SHOW MORE)
Are you subconsciously always comparing your “value” to other people’s “values"? Do you think your "value" is good enough for that "hot" girl over there? Do you realize that that's where your anxiety is coming from? Are you on an eternal quest and doing whatever it takes to “improve your value”? Are you going to spend your entire life trying to prove yourself to others? Is this “value game" a never ending game of insecurity?
The solution? To let go of all judgement and to practice The Golden Rule. :-)
When we stop judging others AND judging ourselves... we are then in the PRESENT MOMENT. And when present, that's when connection and experiences FLOW the best. Women love a man who can be PRESENT with her.
This mindset shift results in connections based off CHEMISTRY, rather than value or validation exchange. Much more beautiful :)
►If you liked this video, definitely checkout this video with me and Shogo:
-- "How To Attract Beautiful Women By Being Yourself":
youtu.be/Md2-nj76-Yg
(Shogo and I talk about the concepts talked about in this judgmental video, but go really deep. Kind of long... but one of the most profound videos on my channel.) :)
"Do not judge so that you will not be judged. For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you." -- Jesus
► HUGE shoutout to Shogo Garcia (youtube.com/shogogarcia). The message in this video I got from Shogo a couple years back, but just shared in my own words here (probably just repeated lots of his words actually haha). Shogo helped me realize how judgmental I used to be and introduced me to these concepts. He made this "spiritual message" practical by applying it to dating and relationships in a way that never clicked for me before. Pretty amazing once you start to internalize this content over time and see how it affects your relationships and connections with others. I got a lot of the content in this video from Shogo's thoughts. And most importantly, he showed me this message by walking his talk and "practicing what he preaches" regarding not judging others when hanging out with him in real life.
Here's a great video on Shogo's channel along similar lines: youtube.com/watch?v=_lfpBrHg0As
Subscribe and checkout the other videos on my channel. :)
I still catch myself being judgmental a decent amount. But looking back, compared to how I was 3 years ago.. I am waay waaaay less judgmental than how I used to be. I think this is something that we will always struggle with (unless we are at like perfect final enlightenment or something lol).
^^That's another trap we can fall into. Judging people as "more conscious" or "enlightened" or even just "more intelligent" than us (or judging people for the opposite, "he's coming from his ego! etc."). And then comparing ourselves to them, rather than seeing everyone on an equal plane.
It's natural for us to judge. I don't think the answer is to try to suppress and control our thoughts..
I think the solution is to just try to be aware of ourselves when we are being judgmental. I believe the best way to relinquish our judgement and ingrain this message in our minds and hearts is by practicing treating other people equally and practicing The Golden Rule. And overtime our judgements will diminish. This process takes time, and you will experience a feeling of being more connected to others and "being in a flow" as the years go by.
Feeling connected more from your heart. :)
If we find ourselves being judgmental, just make sure it's not hurting anyone (other than yourself), and just laugh and not take yourself seriously. It makes us feel good when we are feeling insecure? I think it's fine to joke about and judge people here and there. If natural, don't suppress it. But I think just being aware of these concepts and growing our understanding will slowly change our perspectives and will naturally cultivate internal change within us over time.
The golden rule applies to everything on how we live our lives.
Am I running my business and treating my customer how I would like to be treated? etc.
A cool thought is also realizing another layer: When you are judging people for being judgmental.. that is still being judgmental to yourself! haha :)
► Website: GoldJacketLuke.com (sign up for emails!)
► Follow on Instagram! instagram.com/goldjacketluke
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Thanks for watching! LIKE, COMMENT, SUBSCRIBE, & SHARE! :)
Do you judge the “value” of others? "He's an alpha male!", "She's an 8!", "Those guys are losers.", "She's fat!", "He's a really cool dude.", etc. When you see people for the "value" that they have, what you are doing is subconsciously seeing yourself as a “value”. So the more you judge others, the more you also will be subconsciously judging yourself. (SHOW MORE)
Are you subconsciously always comparing your “value” to other people’s “values"? Do you think your "value" is good enough for that "hot" girl over there? Do you realize that that's where your anxiety is coming from? Are you on an eternal quest and doing whatever it takes to “improve your value”? Are you going to spend your entire life trying to prove yourself to others? Is this “value game" a never ending game of insecurity?
The solution? To let go of all judgement and to practice The Golden Rule. :-)
When we stop judging others AND judging ourselves... we are then in the PRESENT MOMENT. And when present, that's when connection and experiences FLOW the best. Women love a man who can be PRESENT with her.
This mindset shift results in connections based off CHEMISTRY, rather than value or validation exchange. Much more beautiful :)
►If you liked this video, definitely checkout this video with me and Shogo:
-- "How To Attract Beautiful Women By Being Yourself":
youtu.be/Md2-nj76-Yg
(Shogo and I talk about the concepts talked about in this judgmental video, but go really deep. Kind of long... but one of the most profound videos on my channel.) :)
"Do not judge so that you will not be judged. For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you." -- Jesus
► HUGE shoutout to Shogo Garcia (youtube.com/shogogarcia). The message in this video I got from Shogo a couple years back, but just shared in my own words here (probably just repeated lots of his words actually haha). Shogo helped me realize how judgmental I used to be and introduced me to these concepts. He made this "spiritual message" practical by applying it to dating and relationships in a way that never clicked for me before. Pretty amazing once you start to internalize this content over time and see how it affects your relationships and connections with others. I got a lot of the content in this video from Shogo's thoughts. And most importantly, he showed me this message by walking his talk and "practicing what he preaches" regarding not judging others when hanging out with him in real life.
Here's a great video on Shogo's channel along similar lines: youtube.com/watch?v=_lfpBrHg0As
Subscribe and checkout the other videos on my channel. :)
I still catch myself being judgmental a decent amount. But looking back, compared to how I was 3 years ago.. I am waay waaaay less judgmental than how I used to be. I think this is something that we will always struggle with (unless we are at like perfect final enlightenment or something lol).
^^That's another trap we can fall into. Judging people as "more conscious" or "enlightened" or even just "more intelligent" than us (or judging people for the opposite, "he's coming from his ego! etc."). And then comparing ourselves to them, rather than seeing everyone on an equal plane.
It's natural for us to judge. I don't think the answer is to try to suppress and control our thoughts..
I think the solution is to just try to be aware of ourselves when we are being judgmental. I believe the best way to relinquish our judgement and ingrain this message in our minds and hearts is by practicing treating other people equally and practicing The Golden Rule. And overtime our judgements will diminish. This process takes time, and you will experience a feeling of being more connected to others and "being in a flow" as the years go by.
Feeling connected more from your heart. :)
If we find ourselves being judgmental, just make sure it's not hurting anyone (other than yourself), and just laugh and not take yourself seriously. It makes us feel good when we are feeling insecure? I think it's fine to joke about and judge people here and there. If natural, don't suppress it. But I think just being aware of these concepts and growing our understanding will slowly change our perspectives and will naturally cultivate internal change within us over time.
The golden rule applies to everything on how we live our lives.
Am I running my business and treating my customer how I would like to be treated? etc.
A cool thought is also realizing another layer: When you are judging people for being judgmental.. that is still being judgmental to yourself! haha :)
► Website: GoldJacketLuke.com (sign up for emails!)
► Follow on Instagram! instagram.com/goldjacketluke
► FB: facebook.com/LukeEilers
► Twitter: twitter.com/EilersLuke
Thanks for watching! LIKE, COMMENT, SUBSCRIBE, & SHARE! :)
