Uploaded August 2025 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
Aftercare isn’t just for kink—it’s an essential part of being a thoughtful, attentive sexual_ and romantic partner. 🌙💬
In this video, Dr. Frankie breaks down what aftercare really means, why it matters, and how to approach it in a way that supports both you and your partner. From physical comfort (snacks, water, warm blankets) to emotional care (affirmation, space, or cuddles), aftercare shows your commitment to safety, respect, and intimacy beyond the bedroom.
We’ll cover:
✔️ What aftercare is and why it’s important
✔️ How tops and bottoms can both benefit from aftercare
✔️ Physical aftercare practices that help your body reset
✔️ Emotional aftercare for when big feelings come up
✔️ What to do when something goes wrong in bed
Whether you’re into kink, vanilla sex_, or anywhere in between, understanding aftercare helps you build deeper, safer, and more connected relationships.
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About Dr. Frankie
I’m an optimist. I believe that love – finding it, sharing it, experiencing it – is within everyone’s reach.
But that doesn’t mean it isn’t challenging. Making connections can be inspiring, fulfilling – and overwhelming. That’s why I launched Little Gay Book in 2009. As the premiere lesbian matchmaking service in the United States, I bridge connections between women who have everything – except for someone to share it with.
Whether you’re a shy introvert seeking support as you peek out of your shell or a confident extrovert who knows what you want but can’t seem to find it, my intuitive approach, grounded in the emotional intelligence that comes from over twenty years of clinical psychology with lesbian, gay, and bisexual couples and individuals, is for you. I’m a Sagittarius and an old soul who can put anyone at ease. I’m energetic, focused, and driven in all areas of my life, but especially when it comes to my passion: helping people connect and create happiness and love. And I have the unheard-of 85% success rate to match.
I’m also a board certified sex therapist incorporating a holistic approach to pleasure and sexual connection into both my matchmaking and my one-on-one practices. Find out more.
Want to know more about me? I live in the San Francisco Bay Area, and am a parent of 18-year-old twins. I love crossfit and lifting heavy weights, my 20lb cat Ollie, and creating community wherever I go.
@drfrankiebashan
Aftercare isn’t just for kink—it’s an essential part of being a thoughtful, attentive sexual_ and romantic partner. 🌙💬
In this video, Dr. Frankie breaks down what aftercare really means, why it matters, and how to approach it in a way that supports both you and your partner. From physical comfort (snacks, water, warm blankets) to emotional care (affirmation, space, or cuddles), aftercare shows your commitment to safety, respect, and intimacy beyond the bedroom.
We’ll cover:
✔️ What aftercare is and why it’s important
✔️ How tops and bottoms can both benefit from aftercare
✔️ Physical aftercare practices that help your body reset
✔️ Emotional aftercare for when big feelings come up
✔️ What to do when something goes wrong in bed
Whether you’re into kink, vanilla sex_, or anywhere in between, understanding aftercare helps you build deeper, safer, and more connected relationships.
________________________________________________
About Dr. Frankie
I’m an optimist. I believe that love – finding it, sharing it, experiencing it – is within everyone’s reach.
But that doesn’t mean it isn’t challenging. Making connections can be inspiring, fulfilling – and overwhelming. That’s why I launched Little Gay Book in 2009. As the premiere lesbian matchmaking service in the United States, I bridge connections between women who have everything – except for someone to share it with.
Whether you’re a shy introvert seeking support as you peek out of your shell or a confident extrovert who knows what you want but can’t seem to find it, my intuitive approach, grounded in the emotional intelligence that comes from over twenty years of clinical psychology with lesbian, gay, and bisexual couples and individuals, is for you. I’m a Sagittarius and an old soul who can put anyone at ease. I’m energetic, focused, and driven in all areas of my life, but especially when it comes to my passion: helping people connect and create happiness and love. And I have the unheard-of 85% success rate to match.
I’m also a board certified sex therapist incorporating a holistic approach to pleasure and sexual connection into both my matchmaking and my one-on-one practices. Find out more.
Want to know more about me? I live in the San Francisco Bay Area, and am a parent of 18-year-old twins. I love crossfit and lifting heavy weights, my 20lb cat Ollie, and creating community wherever I go.
@drfrankiebashan
