Uploaded November 2025 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
Are you in a relationship where it feels impossible to have space, make decisions alone, or maintain friendships outside your partner? That might not just be closeness — it could be enmeshment.
In this video, Dr. Frankie breaks down:
💛 What enmeshment looks like in romantic relationships
💛 How it’s different from codependence
💛 Why blurred boundaries can become harmful
💛 Steps you can take to build healthier dynamics
If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship has crossed the line from intimacy into enmeshment, this is for you.
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About Dr. Frankie
I’m an optimist. I believe that love – finding it, sharing it, experiencing it – is within everyone’s reach.
But that doesn’t mean it isn’t challenging. Making connections can be inspiring, fulfilling – and overwhelming. That’s why I launched Little Gay Book in 2009. As the premiere lesbian matchmaking service in the United States, I bridge connections between women who have everything – except for someone to share it with.
Whether you’re a shy introvert seeking support as you peek out of your shell or a confident extrovert who knows what you want but can’t seem to find it, my intuitive approach, grounded in the emotional intelligence that comes from over twenty years of clinical psychology with lesbian, gay, and bisexual couples and individuals, is for you. I’m a Sagittarius and an old soul who can put anyone at ease. I’m energetic, focused, and driven in all areas of my life, but especially when it comes to my passion: helping people connect and create happiness and love. And I have the unheard-of 85% success rate to match.
I’m also a board certified sex therapist incorporating a holistic approach to pleasure and sexual connection into both my matchmaking and my one-on-one practices. Find out more.
Want to know more about me? I live in the San Francisco Bay Area, and am a parent of 18-year-old twins. I love crossfit and lifting heavy weights, my 20lb cat Ollie, and creating community wherever I go.
@drfrankiebashan
Are you in a relationship where it feels impossible to have space, make decisions alone, or maintain friendships outside your partner? That might not just be closeness — it could be enmeshment.
In this video, Dr. Frankie breaks down:
💛 What enmeshment looks like in romantic relationships
💛 How it’s different from codependence
💛 Why blurred boundaries can become harmful
💛 Steps you can take to build healthier dynamics
If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship has crossed the line from intimacy into enmeshment, this is for you.
________________________________________________
About Dr. Frankie
I’m an optimist. I believe that love – finding it, sharing it, experiencing it – is within everyone’s reach.
But that doesn’t mean it isn’t challenging. Making connections can be inspiring, fulfilling – and overwhelming. That’s why I launched Little Gay Book in 2009. As the premiere lesbian matchmaking service in the United States, I bridge connections between women who have everything – except for someone to share it with.
Whether you’re a shy introvert seeking support as you peek out of your shell or a confident extrovert who knows what you want but can’t seem to find it, my intuitive approach, grounded in the emotional intelligence that comes from over twenty years of clinical psychology with lesbian, gay, and bisexual couples and individuals, is for you. I’m a Sagittarius and an old soul who can put anyone at ease. I’m energetic, focused, and driven in all areas of my life, but especially when it comes to my passion: helping people connect and create happiness and love. And I have the unheard-of 85% success rate to match.
I’m also a board certified sex therapist incorporating a holistic approach to pleasure and sexual connection into both my matchmaking and my one-on-one practices. Find out more.
Want to know more about me? I live in the San Francisco Bay Area, and am a parent of 18-year-old twins. I love crossfit and lifting heavy weights, my 20lb cat Ollie, and creating community wherever I go.
@drfrankiebashan
