Uploaded March 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago

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Being liked, being protected, and being loved

Some people like me: the legally blind

Performative, transactional, conditional

All mature adult love is conditional. But it depends on the nature of the conditionality. If the condition is: you need to change your identity, it is not love.

Instrumentalization and being needed can feel like love. So can myriad other artifacts such as codependency and idealization.

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