sexplanationsIn December of 2021 Sexplanations/Dr. Doe went on hiatus for an undetermined amount of time. In fact, it was possible that the channel would not publish content again and Dr. Doe would retire completely from sexology. After a year away, a lot of time with dogs, and major work on healing, Sexplanations and your host Dr. Lindsey Doe are back to explain. This episode shares what happened in the last year and suggests there may be more in the future. To stay connected and support sex curiosity you can become a Sexpla(i)naut at: patreon.com/sexplanations
Special shoutouts to: Charity:Water who is helping me to build water resources in high needs community. I will do a campaign with them soon to include all of you in another well project if you'd like to participate. Every Dog Matters in Bulgaria and Baja Pet Rescue in Mexico, both organizations do really great work rescuing and rehoming dogs. Maia Ledesma, for coming back on board as an editor for this channel. I asked her last minute when I finally decided to return at full-speed and she waved her magical wand all over this channel. Alex the production assistant who navigates the ship and the dogs that cuddle all the negativity out of me.
Heartfelt Explanationssexplanations2023-02-01 | In December of 2021 Sexplanations/Dr. Doe went on hiatus for an undetermined amount of time. In fact, it was possible that the channel would not publish content again and Dr. Doe would retire completely from sexology. After a year away, a lot of time with dogs, and major work on healing, Sexplanations and your host Dr. Lindsey Doe are back to explain. This episode shares what happened in the last year and suggests there may be more in the future. To stay connected and support sex curiosity you can become a Sexpla(i)naut at: patreon.com/sexplanations
Special shoutouts to: Charity:Water who is helping me to build water resources in high needs community. I will do a campaign with them soon to include all of you in another well project if you'd like to participate. Every Dog Matters in Bulgaria and Baja Pet Rescue in Mexico, both organizations do really great work rescuing and rehoming dogs. Maia Ledesma, for coming back on board as an editor for this channel. I asked her last minute when I finally decided to return at full-speed and she waved her magical wand all over this channel. Alex the production assistant who navigates the ship and the dogs that cuddle all the negativity out of me.Dear Boysexplanations2023-12-07 | Get Nebula using my link for 40% off an annual subscription: http://go.nebula.tv/sexplanations LIFETIME NEBULA MEMBERSHIP: go.nebula.tv/lifetime?ref=sexplanations
Eight years ago, I published a video on my vlog channel DoeEyes asking a boy who likes my daughter to stop asking her out because she felt harassed. The video went viral for its messaging about consent and relationships. Then it was picked up by a media outlet that reframed the story and fueled cruelty. My daughter and I were threatened. The experience traumatized me and now I'm sharing it because there is a lot to learn from the experience.
Dr. Doe's contact info: TWITTER : twitter.com/elleteedee FACEBOOK : facebook.com/sexplanations INSTAGRAM : instagram.com/drlindseydoeEVEN MORE PLEASURE vibe necklace upgradesexplanations2023-11-20 | Introducing a necklace that is both a waterproof vibrator and a statement. A fashion statement and a sex curious statement. Crave took something I admire and made it even more lovable. Pleasurable.
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I wanted a little challenge. Can I make a connection to sex from any random word or phrase? I asked the videographer to say a term without any preparation and I verbalized my train of thought without any scripting or time to really contemplate. It was exciting and taught me something about myself now. Whereas I used to connect everything to sex, I now seem to connect everything to Sexplanations. This is telling. What it suggests is that sex isn't my passion like it used to be. I'm passionate specifically about Sexplanations -- an accessible sex education resource that has a willing and engaged audience that makes the world a better place.
Chapters: 0:00 Intro 1:34 Broccoli 1:58 Paragliding 2:41 Settlers of Catan 3:20 Sex on the beach 3:55 Large hadron collider 5:15 Dog break! 5:32 Ladybug 6:28 Cardboard 6:41 Women’s rights 7:37 American football 8:13 YouTube play button 9:16 Incense 9:33 Outro 10:43 Bloopers
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IS SEX...? Sometimes I wonder what people are curious about on the world wide web. What do they ask about sexuality? What are they concerned about or interested in? And so, with the help of predictive text, these are the questions autogenerated and the short answers from your online clinical sexologist. Stay curious.
Chapters: 0:00 Intro 0:12 Is sex work legal in Mexico? 0:39 Is sex binary? 0:55 Is sex overrated? 01:12 Is sex supposed to hurt? 01:25 Is sex a sin? 01:39 Is sexting cheating? 01:52 Is sex safe during pregnancy? 02:31 Is sex important in a relationship? 02:59 Is sex exercise? 03:44 Is Sexplanations ending? 06:33 Bloopers
Sources: journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0079342TURNING THE INTERVIEW, Dr. Doe gets questionedsexplanations2023-09-19 | After Em sat down with me and shared her experiences with curiosity, gender, orientation, and relationship dynamics, I invited her to switch seats with me and ask anything she'd like. At the beginning she gave me some softies (easy asks) but then I got a tear jerker. I don't know that there's a lot here, I haven't already shared on one platform or another but I think there's something valuable about it coming out of me again. It must be important.
CHAPTERS: 0:00 Intro 0:34 Life Changes 1:11 Moving to Mexico 2:10 Dog rescues 2:45 Kitesurfing 3:27 Crafting 3:59 Hooking up 5:37 Favorite dinosaur 6:05 The future 7:52 Sex and death 8:53 Outro and Bloopers
Support Sexplanations by becoming a sexpla(i)naut: patreon.com/sexplanationsINTERVIEW WITH MY STUDENT: Then and now, sexual and gender identitiessexplanations2023-09-11 | Em was my student many years ago when I taught Human Sexuality for a university in the northwest, USA. Before Sexplanations. She was 19 at the time, unfamiliar with the possibilities and herself. Over the years we've stayed connected and I've witnessed a budding sexologist become a full blown dahlia blossom. Em has done an extraordinary amount of exploring and realizing of sexual and gender identities, behaviors, relationships etc. Even more than what she shares in this video. I asked her to talk about this developmental experience because it's been so fascinating to me how much change takes place within a person and across time. Undoubtedly curiosity has designed a remarkable human and I'm ever so thankful for her willingness to stay curious.
In the next episode, Em does the questioning of me. I gave her permission to ask anything she wanted and I think she did. Really well.
Video Chapters 0:00 Intro 1:06 Becoming Dr. Doe’s student 6:45 Are we teaching kids to be queer? 8:32 Am I asexual? 10:13 Bisexuality and pansexuality 12:31 Nonbinary identities 15:19 Navigating polyamory as an ace person 20:46 Outro
Support Sexplanations by becoming a sexpla(i)naut: patreon.com/sexplanationsShould I Have Sex with My Ex?sexplanations2023-08-24 | I've been working on this episode for over six months, researching and waiting, and thinking and laughing. "Should" questions or statements are a very powerful way we organize our judgment of ourselves and others, a way of saying, there's shame if you don't behave the way I think you /should/. I don't like them. And I don't like being on the receiving end.
I judge too. I catch myself in hypocrisy. Don't yuck, someone else yum. But there I am poking holes in the lifestyle or personal choices of others like I'm some sort of all-knowing guru of existence. I'm not.
There isn't a should about whether or not you have sex with your ex. Unlikely that anything applies to everyone or all of time and place. Life is too diverse for a system of shoulds and musts. I think.
So if I or you or someone else is sleeping with an ex or isn't -- all I ask is that you not pack shame onto that decision and stay curious.
Chapters: 00:00 Intro 01:09 Benefits and risk factors of breakup sex 02:45 What does the research say? 03:23 Perspectives 04:07 My experiences with breakup sex 04:28 Takeaways 06:21 Bloopers
Additional notes which I may expound upon in a future video but I think are helpful to know now: · Most Hydromax/ HydroXtreme users report improved sex lives · 80% of HydroXtreme users reported size gains · 86.66% of HydroXtreme users reported "better erections" · After two months, 92.9% of HydroXtreme users report better erections · After two months, 85.7% of HydroXtreme users report size gains Lindsey **There isn't quantitative research to support permanent size gains of using a hydropump but there's a lot of empirical data from users showing pumps increase length, girth, and tumescence more than temporarily
Link to an uncensored video of someone pumping his penis with a Bathmate HydroXtreme hydropump: youtube.com/watch?v=rj6qNW_wuWU
Support Sexplanations by becoming a sexpla(i)naut: patreon.com/sexplanationsThe curious history and science of PENIS PUMPSsexplanations2023-08-03 | Working with Bathmate to sexedutain the universe about "vacuum erection devices" has been wonderful. I'm grateful to partner with them and for the 10% discount they're automatically applying to purchases through this link: bathmatedirect.com/sexplanations
Video Chapters 00:00 Intro 00:20 How Geddings Osbon invented a penis pump 01:37 How a penis pump works 02:42 History of penis pump patents 03:59 Stats and studies on penis pumping 04:38 Benefits of penis pumping 05:41 Sponsor 06:10 Bloopers
Support Sexplanations by becoming a sexpla(i)naut: patreon.com/sexplanationsIS IT FAWNING? A flirty alternative to fight or flightsexplanations2023-07-22 | I was speaking with an older white man about fawning -- one of four responses humans have to stressful situations including fight, flight, and freeze. He appreciated learning about what people go through in this way and the increase in his awareness to do things differently. He asked that I make a video about it to educate more people (men) about it and so I have. There is some trepidation in sharing this because of the potential to offend people and the backlash. It's definitely a different style than usual -- more critical, more assertive. My hope is that over all these years together, I've built rapport with you to trust my intentions and assume goodwill. Even if it doesn't fit with your beliefs, fawning is something we can stay curious about.
Video Chapters 00:00 Intro 00:34 What is fawning? 01:32 Problems with fawning 02:08 Do you witness fawning? Watch this 05:23 How the body responds to fear 06:20 What can we do?
To support the channels sustainability and growth you can a sexpla(i)naut an or pube: patreon.com/sexplanationsDOES THIS BRIDGE MAKE YOU HORNY?sexplanations2023-07-04 | I haven't been in a position to create much lately but really wanted to share this episode about a famous suspension bridge north of Vancouver, Canada -- the Capilano Bridge. The video explains why I took interest in this tourist attraction and what the experiment conducted there which influences our understanding of sexual arousal. It also features cute dogs and the video-making assistance of my daughter. My apologies that the research is cishet. A big thanks to all of you on patreon.com/sexplanations who make this content possible.
Dr. Doe's contact info: TWITTER : twitter.com/elleteedee FACEBOOK : facebook.com/sexplanations INSTAGRAM : instagram.com/drlindseydoeDrag Show Etiquette ft. Docturnal Emissionssexplanations2023-04-23 | Based on my experiences and the expert feedback from a colleague (Blake), this episode lays out the dos and don'ts of attending a drag show. In a political battle over the existence of drag, people seem to have lost their manners. And I just want to make sure we get back to treating performers and others in our lives well. A big thank you to Blake for doing this work in his community and sharing wisdom with ours, to those you who share your talents, and to the many who support expression. I'm a fan.
0:00 Intro 0:33 What is a drag show? 1:27 What to wear 1:42 What to bring 2:11 When to show up 2:24 Where to sit 2:56 What to do 3:14 What to expect 4:51 Don’ts 5:44 How to apologize 6:06 Watch my drag performance!
Dr. Doe's contact info: TWITTER : twitter.com/elleteedee FACEBOOK : facebook.com/sexplanations INSTAGRAM : instagram.com/drlindseydoeSex of Appearance : How lashes, lips, nails, hair, and padding relate to sex #education #makeupsexplanations2023-04-16 | Comments on past videos mentioned that my old appearance with longer, natural colored hair was missed. The short, really short magenta cut isn't the sex educator people know, or find themselves attracted to. Some people. Appearance does matter but maybe not in the ways we think. It has a long history of changing and that's true for me too. Humans throughout time have molded their look to express themselves. Sometimes it relates to gender, sometimes to their sexuality. Sometimes it's to look different than their mother's generation. I just happened to do what works for me at the time. My look isn't my sexuality but I see sex in appearance often and thought you might like to know. We're complex, stay curious. Also, a big reason why I made this episode was to show looks aren't intrinsically gendered. Men wear wigs, makeup, dresses, and nail polish. Maybe more comprehensive and accurate education for the haters will lessen/stop the bigotry.
0:00 Intro 0:33 Lipstick 2:45 Nails 4:45 Eyelashes 5:42 Hair 6:03 Padding 7:30 Let's learn and stay curious
Dr. Doe's contact info: TWITTER : twitter.com/elleteedee FACEBOOK : facebook.com/sexplanations INSTAGRAM : instagram.com/drlindseydoeThe Deepfake Debatesexplanations2023-04-09 | Deepfakes were first created in the 1990s. The controversy now is due to the fact that technology has made them almost undetectable. People worry about their reputations, professions, relationships, and safety because their likeness can be easily manipulated to look like they are doing and saying things that they haven’t done or said. And when most deepfakes are pornographic in nature this becomes a sexual discussion. What are the ethics, legalities, rights involved? How do freedom of expression, artistic endeavors, and accessibility factor in? Is regulation even possible? We made this episode of Sexplanations to be a solid summary of deepfake porn so that people can stay informed and curious. Please share.
00:00 Intro 00:09 What is a deepfake? 01:10 Deepfake porn 02:29 The Good 03:43 The Bad 05:55 What can we do? 09:17 Let’s talk!
Dr. Doe's contact info: TWITTER : twitter.com/elleteedee FACEBOOK : facebook.com/sexplanations INSTAGRAM : instagram.com/drlindseydoeDoes My Dentist Know if Ive Given Head?sexplanations2023-03-24 | Learn how blowjob bruises or palatal petechiae can clue dentists into your sexual proclivities and how to keep up dental hygiene when deepthroat-induced stomach acid goes after your enamel. Big thanks to Dr. Mark Rigby for the smarts involved in this episode and to the sexpla(i)nauts who make it possible.
00:00 Intro 00:25 Can your dentist tell if you’ve given a blowjob? 02:06 Do dentists learn how to navigate blowjob detection in dental school? 03:49 How do you take care of your mouth after deep throating?
Dr. Doe's contact info: TWITTER : twitter.com/elleteedee FACEBOOK : facebook.com/sexplanations INSTAGRAM : instagram.com/drlindseydoeSquirting, thrusting tempo, and podcast Ask Lindsey sex questions answeredsexplanations2023-02-22 | This week, Dr. Doe answers some of your questions that were sent in via Twitter. Those she doesn't answer, or answer comprehensively, are on the docket as future episodes. Stay curious.
Connect with us elsewhere: FACEBOOK: facebook.com/sexplanations INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/drlindseydoePuzzling Pubic Postulation Psolvedsexplanations2023-02-17 | ...Weirdest Sex Questions Answered (@GoodMythicalMorning Reaction) #education #internet #questionssexplanations2023-02-08 | Dr. Doe answers the internet's weirdest sex questions as sung by Rhett & Link. Sponsor promotion: Use the discount code DOE at http://adamandeve.com to get 50% Off 1 Item + Free Shipping on your entire order in the US & Canada. *Certain exclusions apply. 100% Satisfaction Guarantee!
Dr. Doe's contact info: TWITTER: twitter.com/elleteedee FACEBOOK: facebook.com/sexplanations INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/drlindseydoeFingeringsexplanations2021-12-29 | Use the promo code DOE at http://adamandeve.com to get 50% Off 1 Item + Free Shipping on your entire order in the US & Canada. *Certain exclusions apply. 100% Satisfaction Guarantee!Being Sex Educators with Reid the Megasexualsexplanations2021-12-11 | This episode of Sexplanations is sponsored by Coral, the leading sexual self-improvement app for everyone. Coral coaches you and or your partners in intimacy, sexuality, and relationships through personalized journeys, tailored exercises, and curated content. Download today experience boosted confidence, deeper intimate connections! Coral is available in your local app store as both an annual subscription and a freemium version! Couples who use Coral can share a subscription and get BOGO.
I'm curious to hear your reviews and what cool inventions Sexpla(i)nauts come up with to make this product even better. My latest curiosity is whether or not you could safely strap-in a dildo for a receptive form of f**king. Staying curious ;o)
mentalhelp.net/addiction tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/19419899.2019.1679230 pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19453881 Dr. Doe's contact info:
TWITTER : twitter.com/elleteedee TUMBLR : http://tumblingdoe.tumblr.com FACEBOOK : facebook.com/sexplanations INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/sexplanations DFTBA : store.dftba.com/collections/sexplanations WEBSITE : http://sexplanations.com Support Sexplanations by becoming a sexpla(i)naut: patreon.com/sexplanations patreon.com/sexplanationspodcastShow Me Debate - Part 2sexplanations2021-10-07 | I'm kind of frazzled in this episode because something unexpected happened. I was planning on reading a book to you that I had gotten from the library but part way through the filming I realized I was not comfortable showing you the content and made this second video to explain why. This episode of Sexplanations is my spontaneous effort to show my own boundary with explicit pedagogy (or at least my understanding of culture's). To see the original video review of the book Show Me! you can go to Patreon.com/sexplanations and for $0 watch the whole thing, including my inner conflict.Sex Ed vs Censorship (the Show Me Debate)sexplanations2021-09-25 | In the last year, even before that, Sexplanations has been exceedingly difficult to create. I stumble with how to communicate in a world that discriminates against my field while simultaneously harassing me for nudes. I want to teach freely and explicitly but I don't want to face censorship or reinforce perpetration. It is a mess in my head. Recently I've made four videos I can't even bring myself to post. My mind feels like it's jammed, like a big chunk of sadness is wedged into the gears of enthusiasm and purpose. Even though there's content it doesn't feel safe to share. I'm mad at myself for not knowing how to punch through this, for not having the energy to fight harder; and I'm mad at society for all the barriers it puts up for sex workers/educators like myself to do our jobs. GAH!!! Anyway, that's what this video is. It's a vent session of me plunking through some of the back and forth that goes on in my mind when I think about what I want to do and how cornered I've become. I don't have a solution except to stay curious and give time time. Thank you for being a part of what makes this job rewarding, for being such precious students and teachers to me. I'm not done yet but I'm squirming and shifting. It means a lot that you're here. Respectfully, LindseyYour First Time Tipssexplanations2021-09-05 | Use the promo code DOE at http://adamandeve.com to get 50% Off 1 Item + Free Shipping on your entire order in the US & Canada. *Certain exclusions apply. 100% Satisfaction Guarantee!
I have some nostalgia about the early days of Sexplanations, when I was more carefree and energized. I looked back on a video that seems to have really benefited people the original First Time Tips youtu.be/F_hGkcrgtdc? and thought it would be helpful to update the video and share experience and insight from a broader source -- all of you. I asked on Twitter what your first time tips are for those having sex and a lot of you shared about masturbation, consent, communication, changing your mind, and reasonable expectations. Here's a link to your responses: twitter.com/elleteedee/status/1419742549896400899
Thank you to everyone who contributed to this and all of you who are doing the work to prepare for your first time. Stay curious.Sex Offender Registries TW: Abusesexplanations2021-08-12 | Someone asked me once how I determined which topics to cover. I answered that I have all these topics in my mind but one at a time they move to my heart and I get really curious and passionate enough to research and teach -- to sexplain. This is what happened with the registry. There wasn't a personal experience or an audience question, it just shifted from my head to my heart and had to come out. At first I used the registry to understand it from a laypersons perspective. I was shocked that Bill Cosby was not on there so early I learned the list isn't accurate. Then I spoke with a police detective, and two therapists who work with sex offenders. I used to work with sex offenders too but didn't take that into account. What I gathered from these sources, and then all the studies I read online, is that sex offender registries, at least the public registries in the U.S. are not fair, don't work right, and do incredible harm.
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TWITTER : twitter.com/elleteedee TUMBLR : http://tumblingdoe.tumblr.com WEBSITE : http://sexplanations.com Support Sexplanations by becoming a sexpla(i)naut: patreon.com/sexplanationsVULVAS & VAGINAS *remake*sexplanations2021-07-21 | At the very beginning of Sexplanations, eight years ago, I stood in front of a dry erase board in one of the first classrooms I'd ever taught in. It was this delicious experience for me that also that ended up really popularizing Sexplanations. People got to learn for the first time about the clitoral hood, crura, and smegma. They realized how awful so-called sex education is in most of the world and how valuable it can be to stay curious. Here's that video: youtube.com/watch?v=L3JE8oj_bWI Now Sexplanations is into its ninth year and I thought it would be helpful to remake this episode. Not only are most of the original viewers through high school and college, it's something I've been asked to do by those of you who support the channel. "Remake some of your earlier stuff!" It's a great idea! It's like starting a new semester, inviting a new class and cohort to learn with us. For those of you who are 2021 Sexplanations first years, welcome. There are over 400 videos on all sorts of topics and usual another added each week. We're happy to have you. Stay curious.
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TWITTER : twitter.com/elleteedee TUMBLR : http://tumblingdoe.tumblr.com FACEBOOK : facebook.com/sexplanations INSTAGRAM : http://instagram.com/sexplanations DFTBA : store.dftba.com/collections/sexplanations WEBSITE : http://sexplanations.com Support Sexplanations by becoming a sexpla(i)naut: patreon.com/sexplanations patreon.com/sexplanationspodcastVirtuous Pedophiles?sexplanations2021-04-09 | For a long time I had been looking for resources to help pedophiles process their attraction to minors and reduce the likelihood of them perpetrating. Pedophilia is a type of paraphilia. It's not a choice anymore than any other sexual orientation but acting on it has many harmful consequences. This week I learned from a sexpla(i)naut on Patreon about VirPed.org, a website which connects pedophiles to resources and support so they can safely talk out their desires without acting on them. It's a triggering topic, typically fraught with pain but today, I'm overfilled with joy that things can get better for everyone.
My colleague recommends Michael Seto as another resource as the go-to person to discuss pedophilia as a sexual orientation. He distinguishes between offending and non-offending pedophilia as well as the different types of pedophilia based on prepubescent, pubescent, and post pubescent minors.
I'm going to do more research on this and the comments many of you have already shared with me and share more later. Stay curious.
Kayla was nervous about being on camera. It's understandable with the lights and the audience and potential trolls in the comments section. I reassured her that we'd have fun and that Sexplanations' audience is deeply heartwarming and really good about flagging harmful posts. I held her dog (one of my foster pups) and opened with the question about Kayla's first breast memory. Part of the conversation (which didn't make the final cut) addressed how many of our boob memories weren't positive -- being sexualized, having to cover up and wear uncomfortable or restrictive bras, breast pain, back pain, unwanted comments, trying to fit into clothing. When we finally landed on some positive memories it was really uplifting. I'm happy to report that talking with Kayla is another positive boob memory for me.
Questions for you: What are your favorite names for breasts? What is your first boob memory? How is your experience similar or different?