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TRUTH AND TRAUMA: HOW MARRIAGE FIXES SOCIETY
Dear marriage supporter,
Dr Jennifer Bauwens is Director of the Center for Family Studies at the Family Research Council, a leading US think-tank established by Dr James Dobson over 40 years ago. We got together to discuss the clear evidence her organisation produces, which highlights why one-man one-woman marriage remains foundational to society and children’s wellbeing. We also explore why policymakers seem reluctant to directly encourage fathers to remain actively involved in family life, despite overwhelming evidence supporting its benefits, and we discuss practical steps to address this reluctance. I encourage you to watch the full interview here.
Dr Bauwens highlights how strong families directly correlate to better mental health outcomes for children, notably emphasising the profound impact of early childhood trauma on family stability. Statistically it does matter, she says, emphasising the proven advantages for children raised by their biological mother and father in a stable marriage. The discussion addresses why society often hesitates to acknowledge this reality, partly due to an overemphasis on individual choices over proven truths.
She clearly outlines the consequences when traditional family structures weaken, noting significant increases in incarceration, relationship difficulties, and domestic violence. “These things really matter and how we define and maintain family has huge implications for every society”, Bauwens says.
The interview also explores Dr Bauwens’ research into gender ideology, highlighting how harmful practices have proliferated under the guise of personal freedom. She expresses optimism about recent shifts in the US, noting public resistance to extreme gender ideologies and emphasising, “We can actually call a man a man and a woman a woman now.”
Dr Bauwens advocates for a compassionate yet truthful approach to these discussions—rooted in compassion, but grounded firmly in honest, evidence-based facts rather than individual feelings. She highlights the importance of actively elevating examples of good marriages, urging people to confidently uphold marriage as the healthiest environment for raising children. She stresses the importance of courage in standing against harmful cultural trends: “We want people to feel confident…and know that they have not only theologically or philosophically the right argument but that they also have the science behind them as well.”
At C4M, we are committed to promoting and defending real marriage as essential for a healthy society. Your support enables C4M to amplify insightful voices like Dr Bauwens’ and advance our crucial advocacy for strong, stable families.
Please watch, share, and consider donating to support our essential work as one of the few remaining voices actively championing real marriage on the UK national stage.
If you would like to support us financially, you can do so via the donate button at c4m.org.uk
Dr Tony Rucinski
facebook.com/coalition4marriage
TRUTH AND TRAUMA: HOW MARRIAGE FIXES SOCIETY
Dear marriage supporter,
Dr Jennifer Bauwens is Director of the Center for Family Studies at the Family Research Council, a leading US think-tank established by Dr James Dobson over 40 years ago. We got together to discuss the clear evidence her organisation produces, which highlights why one-man one-woman marriage remains foundational to society and children’s wellbeing. We also explore why policymakers seem reluctant to directly encourage fathers to remain actively involved in family life, despite overwhelming evidence supporting its benefits, and we discuss practical steps to address this reluctance. I encourage you to watch the full interview here.
Dr Bauwens highlights how strong families directly correlate to better mental health outcomes for children, notably emphasising the profound impact of early childhood trauma on family stability. Statistically it does matter, she says, emphasising the proven advantages for children raised by their biological mother and father in a stable marriage. The discussion addresses why society often hesitates to acknowledge this reality, partly due to an overemphasis on individual choices over proven truths.
She clearly outlines the consequences when traditional family structures weaken, noting significant increases in incarceration, relationship difficulties, and domestic violence. “These things really matter and how we define and maintain family has huge implications for every society”, Bauwens says.
The interview also explores Dr Bauwens’ research into gender ideology, highlighting how harmful practices have proliferated under the guise of personal freedom. She expresses optimism about recent shifts in the US, noting public resistance to extreme gender ideologies and emphasising, “We can actually call a man a man and a woman a woman now.”
Dr Bauwens advocates for a compassionate yet truthful approach to these discussions—rooted in compassion, but grounded firmly in honest, evidence-based facts rather than individual feelings. She highlights the importance of actively elevating examples of good marriages, urging people to confidently uphold marriage as the healthiest environment for raising children. She stresses the importance of courage in standing against harmful cultural trends: “We want people to feel confident…and know that they have not only theologically or philosophically the right argument but that they also have the science behind them as well.”
At C4M, we are committed to promoting and defending real marriage as essential for a healthy society. Your support enables C4M to amplify insightful voices like Dr Bauwens’ and advance our crucial advocacy for strong, stable families.
Please watch, share, and consider donating to support our essential work as one of the few remaining voices actively championing real marriage on the UK national stage.
If you would like to support us financially, you can do so via the donate button at c4m.org.uk
Dr Tony Rucinski
facebook.com/coalition4marriage


![Victory for Maureen Martin and for real marriage!
Dear marriage supporter,
Last August, you heard the inspiring story of Maureen Martin, a former mayoral candidate, who lost her job after supporting real marriage in an election leaflet. Now, it’s time to celebrate her triumph, joining a growing list of successes for real marriage advocates. Don’t miss her follow-up interview, discussing her recent legal win and determination to go on supporting real marriage. You can watch our interview here.
In the interview, Maureen reflects on the impact of losing her job and shares her experiences since that life-changing event. She believes that had she supported same-sex marriage instead, her circumstances would have been quite different. However, she remains resolute, emphasising that “walking away doesn’t achieve anything”, and underlines the importance of standing up for one’s beliefs.
Maureen also discusses the ranking of protected characteristics in her former workplace, asserting, “we can see from their actions there was a ranking and … LGBTQs are top of the list”. She passionately communicates her belief in the sanctity of marriage: “You can’t replace marriage between one man and one woman”, she says, “it works”.
Her legal triumph, supported by the Christian Legal Centre, serves as a testament to the power of standing up for personal convictions and is a timely reminder that supporting real marriage is protected by law.
Maureen says individuals should think about what they would do, and “look inside [and ask] ‘who am I?’”, long before they come face to face with difficulties in work. This story provides hope for the promotion of man-woman marriage in our country.
C4M celebrates Maureen’s courage in standing for the clear benefits to society of man-woman marriage.
If you would like to support us financially, you can do so using the Donate button on our website at http://www.c4m.org.uk
Dr Tony Rucinski
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![Mum takes on Government over Daughters Education - Clare Page interview with Tony Rucinski
Dear marriage supporter,
Clare Page is an ordinary mum who finds herself single-handedly taking on the State in defence of her daughters’ education. You can listen to Clare tell me about her epic battle here.
Clare noticed that her daughters’ schools were teaching controversial ideologies around sex, gender and race as if they were facts. But, she tells me, the questions she was asking “were unanswerable by the school because of what’s happened at [the] Government level”.
Clare first noticed a change in 2017 when pupils at her daughters’ primary school were being taught to address each other as “they” if pronouns weren’t given. The school was a test site for the Government’s recently implemented Relationships and Sexual Education curriculum. Then, over lockdown, her children were asked to produce “social justice” materials that Clare considered “breached safeguarding” standards.
Her daughter was taught in secondary school that “we live in a heteronormative world” which is a “really bad thing” and must be countered by becoming “sex-positive”. The school refused to send Clare the lesson plans and materials because the copyright belonged to an external organisation. The Information Commissioner’s Office (ICO) sided with the school, confirming that she would have to attend in person to see what her child was being taught.
Clare tells me that children were referred to the external organisation’s website, which, she says, contained sexually explicit learning materials, and encouraged underage children to use explicit sexualised terminology on social media. “These are known areas” for children to come into contact with “abuse”, she says.
Clare is now challenging the ICO’s decision at Tribunal on behalf of all parents. She would like to see political intervention to make it impossible for schools to withhold materials from parents.
Ask your schools “for full transparency” Clare advises. Request lesson plans, materials, and the names of any external providers used. Then be prepared, she says, to make constructive, respectful complaints.
It’s important for child safety and for democracy, Clare concludes, that we all now get involved. You can follow Clare on Twitter @NoSecretLessons.
C4M believes all children should be taught that growing up with your married biological mum and dad leads to the best outcomes for children, adults and society in general. While other relationship types exist, it is very clear at the population level that nothing comes close to the benefits of real marriage.
If you would like to support us financially, you can do so using the DONATE button on our website at http://www.c4m.org.uk
Dr Tony Rucinski
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