Uploaded June 2023 | Updated September 2026, 3 weeks ago
Ask this the next time you're arguing with your partner:
“How would a neutral third party who wants the best for all view this conflict?”
Research shows asking this can improve relationships by helping you take a more useful perspective on the problem that needs to be solved.
Source: A brief intervention to promote conflict reappraisal preserves marital quality over time: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23804960
If you or someone you know needs help immediately, you should take one of the following actions:
- call 9-8-8 in the United States or your country's emergency number: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_emergency_telephone_numbers
- call the Lifeline at 1-800-273 TALK (8255) in the United States or a global crisis hotlines: findahelpline.com/i/iasp
- text START to 741-741 in the United States or visit crisistextline.org
- go to your nearest hospital emergency room
Connect with Dr. Ali:
Discord ► discord.gg/S2X3YAJxbM
Twitter ► twitter.com/alimattu
Facebook ► facebook.com/thepsychshow
Instagram ► instagram.com/alimattu
TikTok ► tiktok.com/@alimattuphd
Patreon ► patreon.com/thepsychshow
Email ► ali@thepsychshow.com
Website ► alimattu.com/
For information purposes only. Does not constitute clinical advice. Consult your local medical authority for advice. The information in this video was accurate as of the upload date, June 13, 2023.
Ask this the next time you're arguing with your partner:
“How would a neutral third party who wants the best for all view this conflict?”
Research shows asking this can improve relationships by helping you take a more useful perspective on the problem that needs to be solved.
Source: A brief intervention to promote conflict reappraisal preserves marital quality over time: pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/23804960
If you or someone you know needs help immediately, you should take one of the following actions:
- call 9-8-8 in the United States or your country's emergency number: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_emergency_telephone_numbers
- call the Lifeline at 1-800-273 TALK (8255) in the United States or a global crisis hotlines: findahelpline.com/i/iasp
- text START to 741-741 in the United States or visit crisistextline.org
- go to your nearest hospital emergency room
Connect with Dr. Ali:
Discord ► discord.gg/S2X3YAJxbM
Twitter ► twitter.com/alimattu
Facebook ► facebook.com/thepsychshow
Instagram ► instagram.com/alimattu
TikTok ► tiktok.com/@alimattuphd
Patreon ► patreon.com/thepsychshow
Email ► ali@thepsychshow.com
Website ► alimattu.com/
For information purposes only. Does not constitute clinical advice. Consult your local medical authority for advice. The information in this video was accurate as of the upload date, June 13, 2023.
