Uploaded June 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
A grounded conversation on relaxation, activated freeze, and why sensitive people may need release before calm. Learn the difference between relaxation, rest, recovery, discharge, shutdown, and collapse, plus practical ways to support your nervous system.
In our recent #LaughandLearn conversations, (youtube.com/live/JJS1Nj1amHc?si=2VGmbxw5vYSxP7cQ youtube.com/live/1UY9VDMexfk?si=FhXsgudAIcEmNv8o)
Jennifer from My Holistic Self and I explored dysregulation, baseline, empathy, and activated freeze. This time, we’re taking the next step:
What is relaxation, really?
How do we dissipate activated-freeze energy?
Why can “just relax” feel impossible or even irritating when the nervous system is overwhelmed?
Here’s the link to the graphic Jennifer created: myholisticselfcounselling.com/f/relaxation-is-not-doing-nothing-understanding-what-your-nervous
00:00 Relaxation Is Not Doing Nothing
01:13 Why This Conversation Matters Right Now
08:17 Activated Freeze Explained
12:33 What Relaxation Actually Means
18:47 The Chart That Changes Everything
20:18 Ask This Instead of “How Do I Relax?”
28:13 What Relaxation Feels Like in the Body
30:22 Rest Is Not the Same as Relaxation
32:27 Recovery and Rebuilding Capacity
35:28 Discharge: Why the Energy Needs to Move
40:05 What Helps More Than “Just Relax”
44:15 Shutdown: When the System Starts Pulling Back
48:29 Collapse: When the System Runs Out of Resources
57:47 What Your Nervous System May Need Next
01:03:47 Small Wins Still Shift the System
This conversation is especially relevant for sensitive and empathic people, though the ideas can support anyone feeling wired, overloaded, stuck, or unable to settle.
CDC describes stress as a normal part of life, but warns that long-term stress can worsen health. NCCIH defines relaxation techniques as practices that bring about the body’s relaxation response, while NIMH notes that self-care looks different for everyone and may take trial and error to discover what works best.
This conversation is educational and supportive. It is not therapy, diagnosis, or crisis care. NIMH advises seeking professional help if distressing symptoms last 2 weeks or more or begin interfering with sleep, concentration, enjoyment, or everyday functioning. MedlinePlus also advises contacting a health care provider if you feel overwhelmed by stress or if stress is affecting your health.
#LaughandLearn #Relaxation #ActivatedFreeze #SensitivePeople #Empath #NervousSystem #StressRecovery #MentalHealthAwareness #TarotStache
Connect with the hosts
Jennifer Jurkofsky
Website: myholisticselfcounselling.com
YouTube: youtube.com/@myholisticself
Connect with Gerald / TarotStache
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⭐ Join TarotStache Memberships
youtube.com/channel/UC5WIU2XlajQI4ed5pdR1Ygg/join
Schedule a reading: calendly.com/tarotstache
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This is a collaborative simulcast. All participants are co-creators and authorized to stream this broadcast on their own channels.
Disclaimer
Views expressed are those of the hosts and guests. This show is for conversation, entertainment, and education. Please use your own judgment and seek qualified professional guidance for legal, medical, financial, or mental health decisions.
This is part of the #LaughandLearn playlist on Gerald’s channel youtube.com/playlist?list=PLPTtcfrM8RQeEg0mHNo4x8v_9GZ5NpXPo
Prefer to listen on the go? #LaughandLearn is also available as a podcast so you can catch every episode anytime, anywhere.
🎙️ New to streaming or looking to level up? Check out StreamYard and get $10 discount! 😍 streamyard.com/pal/d/6587655924219904
A grounded conversation on relaxation, activated freeze, and why sensitive people may need release before calm. Learn the difference between relaxation, rest, recovery, discharge, shutdown, and collapse, plus practical ways to support your nervous system.
In our recent #LaughandLearn conversations, (youtube.com/live/JJS1Nj1amHc?si=2VGmbxw5vYSxP7cQ youtube.com/live/1UY9VDMexfk?si=FhXsgudAIcEmNv8o)
Jennifer from My Holistic Self and I explored dysregulation, baseline, empathy, and activated freeze. This time, we’re taking the next step:
What is relaxation, really?
How do we dissipate activated-freeze energy?
Why can “just relax” feel impossible or even irritating when the nervous system is overwhelmed?
Here’s the link to the graphic Jennifer created: myholisticselfcounselling.com/f/relaxation-is-not-doing-nothing-understanding-what-your-nervous
00:00 Relaxation Is Not Doing Nothing
01:13 Why This Conversation Matters Right Now
08:17 Activated Freeze Explained
12:33 What Relaxation Actually Means
18:47 The Chart That Changes Everything
20:18 Ask This Instead of “How Do I Relax?”
28:13 What Relaxation Feels Like in the Body
30:22 Rest Is Not the Same as Relaxation
32:27 Recovery and Rebuilding Capacity
35:28 Discharge: Why the Energy Needs to Move
40:05 What Helps More Than “Just Relax”
44:15 Shutdown: When the System Starts Pulling Back
48:29 Collapse: When the System Runs Out of Resources
57:47 What Your Nervous System May Need Next
01:03:47 Small Wins Still Shift the System
This conversation is especially relevant for sensitive and empathic people, though the ideas can support anyone feeling wired, overloaded, stuck, or unable to settle.
CDC describes stress as a normal part of life, but warns that long-term stress can worsen health. NCCIH defines relaxation techniques as practices that bring about the body’s relaxation response, while NIMH notes that self-care looks different for everyone and may take trial and error to discover what works best.
This conversation is educational and supportive. It is not therapy, diagnosis, or crisis care. NIMH advises seeking professional help if distressing symptoms last 2 weeks or more or begin interfering with sleep, concentration, enjoyment, or everyday functioning. MedlinePlus also advises contacting a health care provider if you feel overwhelmed by stress or if stress is affecting your health.
#LaughandLearn #Relaxation #ActivatedFreeze #SensitivePeople #Empath #NervousSystem #StressRecovery #MentalHealthAwareness #TarotStache
Connect with the hosts
Jennifer Jurkofsky
Website: myholisticselfcounselling.com
YouTube: youtube.com/@myholisticself
Connect with Gerald / TarotStache
YouTube: youtube.com/@TarotStache
⭐ Join TarotStache Memberships
youtube.com/channel/UC5WIU2XlajQI4ed5pdR1Ygg/join
Schedule a reading: calendly.com/tarotstache
Support: paypal.com/paypalme/TarotStache
Venmo: account.venmo.com/u/TarotStache
Merchandise: tarotstache.printify.me/products
This is a collaborative simulcast. All participants are co-creators and authorized to stream this broadcast on their own channels.
Disclaimer
Views expressed are those of the hosts and guests. This show is for conversation, entertainment, and education. Please use your own judgment and seek qualified professional guidance for legal, medical, financial, or mental health decisions.
This is part of the #LaughandLearn playlist on Gerald’s channel youtube.com/playlist?list=PLPTtcfrM8RQeEg0mHNo4x8v_9GZ5NpXPo
Prefer to listen on the go? #LaughandLearn is also available as a podcast so you can catch every episode anytime, anywhere.
🎙️ New to streaming or looking to level up? Check out StreamYard and get $10 discount! 😍 streamyard.com/pal/d/6587655924219904
