Lisa Bilyeu | Psychologist Explains HOW to AVOID The #1 Thing That can DESTROY All Relationships! | Dr. Shefali @LisaBilyeu | Uploaded February 2023 | Updated October 2024, 7 hours ago.
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On Today's Episode:
To have children or not to have children is a choice that you as an empowered woman gets to decide for herself. The problem is that it’s hard to distinguish between where you stand on the topic apart from your family and social pressures.
Dr. Shefali is the bestselling author of the book, The Conscious Parent, the book that Oprah herself sends to anyone she knows even considering being a parent. Dr. Shefali’s no holds barred approach to parenting is the thing you need whether you’re leaning towards having kids or trying to steer clear from the conversation for another several years.
This is the episode where Dr. Shefali is debunking myths of motherhood and exposing unrealistic expectations of stepping into or away from your maternal instincts. Your bandwidth and capacity to become a mother, an entrepreneur, a career woman, or stay at home wife doesn’t fall into a group decision, it’s a decision for you alone first, and a conversation with your partner second.
Dr. Shefali reveals what a powerful teacher parenting can be for us as individuals, but she also exposes how giving birth can be psychological death for women that’s a huge impact and traumatic experience in anyone’s relationship.
If you’re on the fence of having children or not wanting to have them, give yourself grace and time to make an accurate assessment of how you really feel about having a child. If your pressure to decide is coming from cultural beliefs, wanting to fit in with your social circle of friends all having children, or you think a child will bring you and your partner closer together, then stop everything and take heed to Dr. Shefali’s fire advice.
Check out her latest book, The Parenting Map: amazon.com/Parenting-Map-Step-Step-Parent-Child/dp/0063267950
QUOTES:
“Having children is the biggest libido buster ever.”
“When you really surrender to the hard intense labor that parenting is and stop fighting all the things that you could’ve been, then you actually embrace the journey and you get the jewels of this journey.”
“See the parenting relationship as an opportunity to not just parent the child before you, but the inner child, and that’s what our children teach us.”
“There’s nothing like parenting to bring your value systems as a couple out into the light like never before.”
“Children learn very quickly to give up who it is they authentically are in order to get the crumbs of connection.”
“Part of becoming a conscious parent is to understand that you have to break free from the lies that exist in the matrix.”
“Raise the child before you, not the child of your fantasy.”
“We think we should be raising a happy child, what we don’t realize is that we’re just raising a human, and humans have a lot of moods.”
“Own your limitations and ask for help.”
“Women’s maternal instinct doesn’t all need to come out with a child, so you can express your maternalism in many ways…”
“The greatest obstacle of transformation is our resistance to the new and our deep attachment to what we were.”
“Raising a young child is a masterclass in embracing the unknown, a masterclass in being in the present, a PhD beyond belief of surrendering to the unknown and embracing the havoc, the chaos and staying equanimous…”
Follow Dr Shefali:
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Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - bit.ly/412oInk
On Today's Episode:
To have children or not to have children is a choice that you as an empowered woman gets to decide for herself. The problem is that it’s hard to distinguish between where you stand on the topic apart from your family and social pressures.
Dr. Shefali is the bestselling author of the book, The Conscious Parent, the book that Oprah herself sends to anyone she knows even considering being a parent. Dr. Shefali’s no holds barred approach to parenting is the thing you need whether you’re leaning towards having kids or trying to steer clear from the conversation for another several years.
This is the episode where Dr. Shefali is debunking myths of motherhood and exposing unrealistic expectations of stepping into or away from your maternal instincts. Your bandwidth and capacity to become a mother, an entrepreneur, a career woman, or stay at home wife doesn’t fall into a group decision, it’s a decision for you alone first, and a conversation with your partner second.
Dr. Shefali reveals what a powerful teacher parenting can be for us as individuals, but she also exposes how giving birth can be psychological death for women that’s a huge impact and traumatic experience in anyone’s relationship.
If you’re on the fence of having children or not wanting to have them, give yourself grace and time to make an accurate assessment of how you really feel about having a child. If your pressure to decide is coming from cultural beliefs, wanting to fit in with your social circle of friends all having children, or you think a child will bring you and your partner closer together, then stop everything and take heed to Dr. Shefali’s fire advice.
Check out her latest book, The Parenting Map: amazon.com/Parenting-Map-Step-Step-Parent-Child/dp/0063267950
QUOTES:
“Having children is the biggest libido buster ever.”
“When you really surrender to the hard intense labor that parenting is and stop fighting all the things that you could’ve been, then you actually embrace the journey and you get the jewels of this journey.”
“See the parenting relationship as an opportunity to not just parent the child before you, but the inner child, and that’s what our children teach us.”
“There’s nothing like parenting to bring your value systems as a couple out into the light like never before.”
“Children learn very quickly to give up who it is they authentically are in order to get the crumbs of connection.”
“Part of becoming a conscious parent is to understand that you have to break free from the lies that exist in the matrix.”
“Raise the child before you, not the child of your fantasy.”
“We think we should be raising a happy child, what we don’t realize is that we’re just raising a human, and humans have a lot of moods.”
“Own your limitations and ask for help.”
“Women’s maternal instinct doesn’t all need to come out with a child, so you can express your maternalism in many ways…”
“The greatest obstacle of transformation is our resistance to the new and our deep attachment to what we were.”
“Raising a young child is a masterclass in embracing the unknown, a masterclass in being in the present, a PhD beyond belief of surrendering to the unknown and embracing the havoc, the chaos and staying equanimous…”
Follow Dr Shefali:
Website: drshefali.com
YouTube: youtube.com/c/DrShefali
TikTok: tiktok.com/@doctorshefali
Instagram: instagram.com/doctorshefali
Facebook: facebook.com/doctorshefali
