Lisa Bilyeu | If A Man Texts You This, That's A Major Red Flag! - Sneaky Ways He's Just Using You | Terri Cole @LisaBilyeu | Uploaded November 2023 | Updated October 2024, 7 hours ago.
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Hey there, ladies! Lisa Bilyeu here. If you’ve ever wondered if his romantic gestures were just a ploy to trap you, this conversation with Terri Cole is just what you need.
In today’s powerful episode of Women of Impact with the insightful Terri Cole, we expose the love bombers and boundary manipulators for what they are. Their tactics of 'unearned intimacy' have not earned your time, your attention or love.
As we dive into how they manipulate emotions, paint B.S. visions of a future together you really want to hear just to gain control, I hope you’re taking notes. It's time to have your own back and demand truth in action. Remember, manipulation isn't about love, it's about power. Let's arm ourselves with knowledge and kick these red flags to the curb.
If you’re dealing with any kind of abuse and feel unsafe in your relationship, please check out Terri’s podcast episode, How to Safely Leave An Abusive Relationship: terricole.com/safely-leave-abusive-relationship
And… Don’t forget to check out Terri’s latest Boundary Boss Workbook: amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Workbook-Strategies-Over-Giving/dp/1649631421
Chapter Markers:
[00:00] Romantic Gesture Or Manipulation? 🫰
[11:39] Takers Take & Take Your Power 👂
[15:20] Bread Crumb Texting ⛔
[28:06] Lie To Me Baby (Or I Will) 😜
[33:48] Love Bombed Dizzy 🫠
[46:19] Suffocated Out Of Your Boundaries 😰
[53:52] Be Fully Expressed Or Walk 💃
[58:03] Manipulative Boundaries 🤯
[1:08:17] Your Boundary Evolution ✨💫
[1:26:09] Healing Triggers with Nicole LePera 😌
*****Bonus Life Lessons with Renowned Psychologist, Nicole LePera*****
Ever felt overwhelmed by a seemingly insignificant trigger, spiraling into shame and embarrassment? Pause right there! Nicole LePera, a beloved guest on our show, decodes the intricate puzzle of our emotions, linking adult triggers to childhood challenges. Dive into her transformative workbook, 'How to Meet Yourself,' and embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing past traumas with the power of your heart.
Terri Cole Quotes:
“If it feels too good to be true, I want you to pump the brakes.”
“If you’re in the dating world, your biggest protection is your boundaries, early and often. It’s asserting your preference early and often.”
“An actual complement is not followed up by a request for you to do something.”
“Our job is to have our own back. Our job is to go, ‘I can count on me to not people-please myself out of my own integrity.’”
“Expect people to do what they say they are going to do.”
“Codependency is honestly a covert or overt bid to control other people; how other people feel, how other people act, what other people are doing with their own lives.”
“Not every person that treats you well is love bombing you.”
“Get used to what it feels like to be respected. Get used to what it feels like to respect yourself, [...] how we feel, what we think, what we want… this has to be the most important thing to us.”
“There doesn’t have to be anything wrong with them for them to be wrong for you.”
Follow Terri Cole:
Website: terricole.com
Podcast: terricole.com/podcast
Instagram: instagram.com/terricole
Follow Nicole LePera:
Website: theholisticpsychologist.com
Podcast: youtube.com/channel/UC1kVlwHe0ESeAWOuXiXSjyQ
Instagram: instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist
Follow Me Lisa Bilyeu:
Website: radicalconfidence.com
Instagram: instagram.com/lisabilyeu
Facebook: facebook.com/lisabilyeu
Twitter: twitter.com/lisabilyeu
Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! bit.ly/3sx0wNn
Hey there, ladies! Lisa Bilyeu here. If you’ve ever wondered if his romantic gestures were just a ploy to trap you, this conversation with Terri Cole is just what you need.
In today’s powerful episode of Women of Impact with the insightful Terri Cole, we expose the love bombers and boundary manipulators for what they are. Their tactics of 'unearned intimacy' have not earned your time, your attention or love.
As we dive into how they manipulate emotions, paint B.S. visions of a future together you really want to hear just to gain control, I hope you’re taking notes. It's time to have your own back and demand truth in action. Remember, manipulation isn't about love, it's about power. Let's arm ourselves with knowledge and kick these red flags to the curb.
If you’re dealing with any kind of abuse and feel unsafe in your relationship, please check out Terri’s podcast episode, How to Safely Leave An Abusive Relationship: terricole.com/safely-leave-abusive-relationship
And… Don’t forget to check out Terri’s latest Boundary Boss Workbook: amazon.com/Boundary-Boss-Workbook-Strategies-Over-Giving/dp/1649631421
Chapter Markers:
[00:00] Romantic Gesture Or Manipulation? 🫰
[11:39] Takers Take & Take Your Power 👂
[15:20] Bread Crumb Texting ⛔
[28:06] Lie To Me Baby (Or I Will) 😜
[33:48] Love Bombed Dizzy 🫠
[46:19] Suffocated Out Of Your Boundaries 😰
[53:52] Be Fully Expressed Or Walk 💃
[58:03] Manipulative Boundaries 🤯
[1:08:17] Your Boundary Evolution ✨💫
[1:26:09] Healing Triggers with Nicole LePera 😌
*****Bonus Life Lessons with Renowned Psychologist, Nicole LePera*****
Ever felt overwhelmed by a seemingly insignificant trigger, spiraling into shame and embarrassment? Pause right there! Nicole LePera, a beloved guest on our show, decodes the intricate puzzle of our emotions, linking adult triggers to childhood challenges. Dive into her transformative workbook, 'How to Meet Yourself,' and embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing past traumas with the power of your heart.
Terri Cole Quotes:
“If it feels too good to be true, I want you to pump the brakes.”
“If you’re in the dating world, your biggest protection is your boundaries, early and often. It’s asserting your preference early and often.”
“An actual complement is not followed up by a request for you to do something.”
“Our job is to have our own back. Our job is to go, ‘I can count on me to not people-please myself out of my own integrity.’”
“Expect people to do what they say they are going to do.”
“Codependency is honestly a covert or overt bid to control other people; how other people feel, how other people act, what other people are doing with their own lives.”
“Not every person that treats you well is love bombing you.”
“Get used to what it feels like to be respected. Get used to what it feels like to respect yourself, [...] how we feel, what we think, what we want… this has to be the most important thing to us.”
“There doesn’t have to be anything wrong with them for them to be wrong for you.”
Follow Terri Cole:
Website: terricole.com
Podcast: terricole.com/podcast
Instagram: instagram.com/terricole
Follow Nicole LePera:
Website: theholisticpsychologist.com
Podcast: youtube.com/channel/UC1kVlwHe0ESeAWOuXiXSjyQ
Instagram: instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist
Follow Me Lisa Bilyeu:
Website: radicalconfidence.com
Instagram: instagram.com/lisabilyeu
Facebook: facebook.com/lisabilyeu
Twitter: twitter.com/lisabilyeu
