Uploaded May 2023 | Updated September 2026, 1 day ago
Arguments can be chaotic and devolve into a mess of hurtful words that—once said—can’t be taken back.
The point of every argument/fight should be understanding—not victory.
Why would you want to defeat your teammate? Right?
Using something like a ball...or an object that deescalates the tension...is an effective way to keep the conversation going.
Remember, you don’t get the ball until the other person is convinced you understand what he/she is trying to say.
And, each person gets a chance to be understood before this exercise is over. It’s not fair for one party to “have a ball” without the other party to get a chance to “have a ball,” too.
#fighting #relationshipconflict #marriagecoaching #conflict #fightingfair #conflictmanagement #marriagefighting #marriageadvice #marriage
Arguments can be chaotic and devolve into a mess of hurtful words that—once said—can’t be taken back.
The point of every argument/fight should be understanding—not victory.
Why would you want to defeat your teammate? Right?
Using something like a ball...or an object that deescalates the tension...is an effective way to keep the conversation going.
Remember, you don’t get the ball until the other person is convinced you understand what he/she is trying to say.
And, each person gets a chance to be understood before this exercise is over. It’s not fair for one party to “have a ball” without the other party to get a chance to “have a ball,” too.
#fighting #relationshipconflict #marriagecoaching #conflict #fightingfair #conflictmanagement #marriagefighting #marriageadvice #marriage
