Lisa Bilyeu | Never Be Manipulated Again! - 7 Ways To SPOT Manipulation & Gaslighting | Dr. Mariel Buque @LisaBilyeu | Uploaded August 2023 | Updated October 2024, 1 hour ago.
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When it comes to love and relationships, being love-bombed only to be manipulated and gaslighted by your partner is an easy trap to fall into. When you don’t have words to put to the experience and you’re not even sure what is happening at the time it’s confusing and scary.
This is why Women of Impact is committed to bringing you experts and some of the most inspiring women around. Homie! I want you to have the knowledge and the tools you need to spot the bullsh*t early and act accordingly knowing your value and your self-worth.
Women like us appreciate the No B.S. approach because we’re serious about changing our frikin’ lives and being a badass woman with zero frikin’ excuses and as much success as she pleases for herself.
My guest today is practically a real life superhero for herself and her patients. If you’re not familiar with Dr. Mariel Buque and all of her awesomeness, you will be after this episode.
Mariel is here to help us break down exactly what you need to do to end the gaslighting and say ‘so long’ to manipulative cycles you keep finding yourself in. In addition to breaking down the 7 stages of manipulation we can start breaking up with today, Mariel exposes:
The side of love bombing no one ever talks about:
- How to diffuse being gaslit when you’re in the moment
- Partners that create more triggers than safety for you
- Breaking the default “sorry” mode we’ve all fallen into
- Ways to cut off that “Hoovering” ex that’s always lurking
Ladies! We’re done with feeling like we’re crazy and we’re flipping the damn tables with this episode. To make sure we’re capable of protecting our hearts and able to heal and show up able of love again, stick around for this BONUS episode with the Boundary Boss, herself, Terri Coles.
Terri exposes for us the danger of codependency, why many of us don’t recognize it in ourselves, and why broken boundaries have real consequences.
Check out Dr. Mariel’s book, Break The Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma: amazon.com/Break-Cycle-Healing-Intergenerational-Trauma/dp/0593472497
MARIEL BUQUE QUOTES:
“People that have toxic traits tend to be fairly predictable. You’re going to see the signs show up eventually.”
“When we’re truly dealing with a manipulation strategy, we tend to get gaslit into believing that what we’re seeing happen, didn’t happen.”
“Clarity can be very helpful, but also labeling and allowing everybody to be on the same page about what’s happening.”
“It’s a really tragic socialization for all of us because we’re not only taught not to express our needs, but we’re also taught to be self-sacrificial and to service the needs of everyone else around us.”
“Whatever it is that happens here, I understand what my non-negotiables are, and everything else, there’s space for compromise, for grace, and for compassion.”
“Gaslighting can be very debilitating especially when we don’t know that gaslighting is happening and we can’t call it out as a result.”
“When a person is in submission they’re chronically saying, ‘I’m sorry’ [...] who made you believe that you were always at fault, so much so that you apologize by default.”
“The more grounded you are, the more mental clarity you have, the more capacity you have to be attuned to yourself, the more we can finally find out who that core self really is.”
“The weaponizing of our vulnerabilities is something that happens in these toxic cycles.”
Follow Dr. Mariel Buque:
Website: drmarielbuque.com
Podcast: breakthecyclewithdrmariel.buzzsprout.com
Twitter:: twitter.com/drmarielbuque
Instagram: instagram.com/dr.marielbuque
YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCKa79peiy6CJf2RDI13YNeQ
Follow Terri Coles:
Website: terricole.com
YouTube: youtube.com/@terri_cole
Instagram: instagram.com/terricole
Ladies… YouTube Premium may be one of the most empowering apps on your phone and desktop. Can you imagine what you can accomplish and how much more motivated you’ll be on with YouTube with NO ADS!?!? This is for the ladies that are making waves. YouTube Premium is here and you can get a FREE month just by clicking the link below. youtube.com/premium?cc=LisaBilyeu
Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - bit.ly/3fZcbO5
When it comes to love and relationships, being love-bombed only to be manipulated and gaslighted by your partner is an easy trap to fall into. When you don’t have words to put to the experience and you’re not even sure what is happening at the time it’s confusing and scary.
This is why Women of Impact is committed to bringing you experts and some of the most inspiring women around. Homie! I want you to have the knowledge and the tools you need to spot the bullsh*t early and act accordingly knowing your value and your self-worth.
Women like us appreciate the No B.S. approach because we’re serious about changing our frikin’ lives and being a badass woman with zero frikin’ excuses and as much success as she pleases for herself.
My guest today is practically a real life superhero for herself and her patients. If you’re not familiar with Dr. Mariel Buque and all of her awesomeness, you will be after this episode.
Mariel is here to help us break down exactly what you need to do to end the gaslighting and say ‘so long’ to manipulative cycles you keep finding yourself in. In addition to breaking down the 7 stages of manipulation we can start breaking up with today, Mariel exposes:
The side of love bombing no one ever talks about:
- How to diffuse being gaslit when you’re in the moment
- Partners that create more triggers than safety for you
- Breaking the default “sorry” mode we’ve all fallen into
- Ways to cut off that “Hoovering” ex that’s always lurking
Ladies! We’re done with feeling like we’re crazy and we’re flipping the damn tables with this episode. To make sure we’re capable of protecting our hearts and able to heal and show up able of love again, stick around for this BONUS episode with the Boundary Boss, herself, Terri Coles.
Terri exposes for us the danger of codependency, why many of us don’t recognize it in ourselves, and why broken boundaries have real consequences.
Check out Dr. Mariel’s book, Break The Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma: amazon.com/Break-Cycle-Healing-Intergenerational-Trauma/dp/0593472497
MARIEL BUQUE QUOTES:
“People that have toxic traits tend to be fairly predictable. You’re going to see the signs show up eventually.”
“When we’re truly dealing with a manipulation strategy, we tend to get gaslit into believing that what we’re seeing happen, didn’t happen.”
“Clarity can be very helpful, but also labeling and allowing everybody to be on the same page about what’s happening.”
“It’s a really tragic socialization for all of us because we’re not only taught not to express our needs, but we’re also taught to be self-sacrificial and to service the needs of everyone else around us.”
“Whatever it is that happens here, I understand what my non-negotiables are, and everything else, there’s space for compromise, for grace, and for compassion.”
“Gaslighting can be very debilitating especially when we don’t know that gaslighting is happening and we can’t call it out as a result.”
“When a person is in submission they’re chronically saying, ‘I’m sorry’ [...] who made you believe that you were always at fault, so much so that you apologize by default.”
“The more grounded you are, the more mental clarity you have, the more capacity you have to be attuned to yourself, the more we can finally find out who that core self really is.”
“The weaponizing of our vulnerabilities is something that happens in these toxic cycles.”
Follow Dr. Mariel Buque:
Website: drmarielbuque.com
Podcast: breakthecyclewithdrmariel.buzzsprout.com
Twitter:: twitter.com/drmarielbuque
Instagram: instagram.com/dr.marielbuque
YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCKa79peiy6CJf2RDI13YNeQ
Follow Terri Coles:
Website: terricole.com
YouTube: youtube.com/@terri_cole
Instagram: instagram.com/terricole
