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On Today's Episode:
Learning how to deal with your family as an adult is an ongoing struggle many of us still haven’t figured out. When unhealthy family dynamics make it difficult to visit your grandparents and the thought of visiting your parents brings on dread and anxiety, there’s definitely issues you’ll want to address.
If you’re finding yourself trapped in a turbulent family relationship you don’t know how to escape, Nedra Glover Tawwab, world renowned clinical psychologist, relationship expert and queen of boundaries, is sharing everything you need to know to set important boundaries, become who you want to be, or cut ties if needed.
Nedra’s latest book, Drama Free, is all about better managing unhealthy relationships and no longer accepting the dysfunction within families that keeps people tied to misery, dishonesty, disrespect and abuse long after they have the power and ability to say enough is enough.
This episode is about:
Breaking up with the dysfunction that started in your childhood
Having the strength to walk away from even your family if needed
Being able to have difficult conversations if you choose
Check out Nedra’s Latest Book, Drama Free: amazon.com/Drama-Free-Managing-Unhealthy-Relationships/dp/0593539273
QUOTES:
“Do we need to go to the people who are causing the harm for validation of the harm?”
“I’m loyal to love, I’m not loyal to abuse, I’m not loyal to abandonment…”
“How do you change your role in the relationship when you’re not ready to leave? Because not every relationship is to be discarded.”
“We have to believe in who we’re becoming.”
“People don’t have to be in relationship with you after you’ve offended them.”
“The confidence I have now is practiced.”
“I can live with not knowing, and it’s much harder to live with blaming myself.”
“We have to get into the practice of understanding that our job in this relationship is not to control it, it’s not to change the culture, it is to be in community with people…”
“We have to look at the intensity of our emotions because the intensity tells us there may be some history to what is happening.”
“‘Just how we are’ could be dysfunctional. What's normal doesn’t mean it’s natural, it’s healthy, it’s the way things should be. Normal can be chaos, normal can be a high level of dysfunction.”
“Sometimes with family it’s almost as if there’s an expectation of you lowering your expectations.”
“It’s not about changing everyone else and how they show up with you, it's about changing you and how you show up with them.”
Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab:
Website: nedratawwab.com
Instagram:instagram.com/nedratawwab
Facebook: facebook.com/nedratawwab
Pinterest: pinterest.com/nedratawwab/_created
Download For FREE: The Most Important Questions You MUST Ask Your Partner here! - bit.ly/3dWyB2d
Check out my FREE 4-Part Confidence Workshop! - bit.ly/3fZcbO5
On Today's Episode:
Learning how to deal with your family as an adult is an ongoing struggle many of us still haven’t figured out. When unhealthy family dynamics make it difficult to visit your grandparents and the thought of visiting your parents brings on dread and anxiety, there’s definitely issues you’ll want to address.
If you’re finding yourself trapped in a turbulent family relationship you don’t know how to escape, Nedra Glover Tawwab, world renowned clinical psychologist, relationship expert and queen of boundaries, is sharing everything you need to know to set important boundaries, become who you want to be, or cut ties if needed.
Nedra’s latest book, Drama Free, is all about better managing unhealthy relationships and no longer accepting the dysfunction within families that keeps people tied to misery, dishonesty, disrespect and abuse long after they have the power and ability to say enough is enough.
This episode is about:
Breaking up with the dysfunction that started in your childhood
Having the strength to walk away from even your family if needed
Being able to have difficult conversations if you choose
Check out Nedra’s Latest Book, Drama Free: amazon.com/Drama-Free-Managing-Unhealthy-Relationships/dp/0593539273
QUOTES:
“Do we need to go to the people who are causing the harm for validation of the harm?”
“I’m loyal to love, I’m not loyal to abuse, I’m not loyal to abandonment…”
“How do you change your role in the relationship when you’re not ready to leave? Because not every relationship is to be discarded.”
“We have to believe in who we’re becoming.”
“People don’t have to be in relationship with you after you’ve offended them.”
“The confidence I have now is practiced.”
“I can live with not knowing, and it’s much harder to live with blaming myself.”
“We have to get into the practice of understanding that our job in this relationship is not to control it, it’s not to change the culture, it is to be in community with people…”
“We have to look at the intensity of our emotions because the intensity tells us there may be some history to what is happening.”
“‘Just how we are’ could be dysfunctional. What's normal doesn’t mean it’s natural, it’s healthy, it’s the way things should be. Normal can be chaos, normal can be a high level of dysfunction.”
“Sometimes with family it’s almost as if there’s an expectation of you lowering your expectations.”
“It’s not about changing everyone else and how they show up with you, it's about changing you and how you show up with them.”
Follow Nedra Glover Tawwab:
Website: nedratawwab.com
Instagram:instagram.com/nedratawwab
Facebook: facebook.com/nedratawwab
Pinterest: pinterest.com/nedratawwab/_created
