Uploaded December 2024 | Updated September 2026, 3 weeks ago

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When we using indirect, hedging language and people please, we can actually end up being selfish by accident, because we're asking them to do the emotional lifting to decipher our request.

The topic of this week's Coaching Reflections video is learning to ask for what you want in direct language without being rude. It is definitely something you can practice and it also builds your confidence.

What are your tips for being candid without being abrasive?

⏱️⏱️ TIMESTAMPS ⏱️⏱️
00:00 Intro
00:19 Hedging Language
00:39 People Pleasing
01:23 Know Your Filler Words
01:43 Practice asking for what you want
03:10 Outro

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