Uploaded August 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
• Some people avoid intimacy because they’re avoidantly attached, so closeness feels uncomfortable or scary.
• Others might be emotionally overwhelmed and don’t have the tools to communicate their feelings, so they step away instead.
• Sometimes, they may be stringing you along
And it could be for a million other reasons, but what we care about is, if this situation is repeating in your life, let’s look at the common denominator - you!
Ask yourself these 3 questions for clarity:
1. Who does this person remind you of?
2. Where have you felt like this before, this feeling of trying to get something from someone?
3. How is this behavioral dynamic familiar to you?
This self reflection is where the gems of wisdom for your own growth can be found…and you are the only person’s actions that you can control!
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About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
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• Some people avoid intimacy because they’re avoidantly attached, so closeness feels uncomfortable or scary.
• Others might be emotionally overwhelmed and don’t have the tools to communicate their feelings, so they step away instead.
• Sometimes, they may be stringing you along
And it could be for a million other reasons, but what we care about is, if this situation is repeating in your life, let’s look at the common denominator - you!
Ask yourself these 3 questions for clarity:
1. Who does this person remind you of?
2. Where have you felt like this before, this feeling of trying to get something from someone?
3. How is this behavioral dynamic familiar to you?
This self reflection is where the gems of wisdom for your own growth can be found…and you are the only person’s actions that you can control!
If this resonates, hit the subscribe button for more insights on relationships, attachment, and boundaries from a licensed therapist!
📚 Too Much Book: hfcbook.com
📩 Newsletter: terricole.com/newsletter
🔑 Ready to build healthier relationships? Join: terricole.com/tcm
🪔 Meditate with me: insighttimer.com/terricole
📸 Instagram: terricole.com/ig
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
