Uploaded April 2026 | Updated September 2026, 1 week ago
If you feel like your therapist is speaking a foreign language when they talk about "stability" or "trust," this video is for you. We break down the specific requirements for starting trauma-focused work like EMDR and why your brain might be "pulling the ripcord" through dissociation.
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Timestamps:
00:42 — Q1: Understanding "Trust" and "Stability" in Trauma Therapy. This explores what these concepts actually look like in practice and how to build them when you are autistic or have a history of trauma.
11:10 — Q2: Setting Boundaries Without Self-Shaming. This addresses how to hold yourself accountable for your own boundaries without falling into a cycle of punishment or blame.
19:05 — Q3: Stopping Resentment and Rumination. This covers how to stop feeling angry toward someone who has behaved poorly on purpose and how to break the cycle of repetitive negative thoughts.
27:06 — Q4: Why Therapists Might Avoid Trauma Work - This explains why a clinician might delay trauma processing or why a DBT-focused therapist might not be the right fit for specific trauma work.
41:41 — Q5: Combatting Learned Helplessness - This discusses the origins of learned helplessness in childhood and specific steps to unlearn these behaviors and regain agency.
47:34 — Q6: Moving On From a Year-and-a-Half Heartbreak - This provides a "tough love" approach to letting go of an ex and focusing on personal growth to attract a better fit.
54:23 — Q7: Navigating Social Anxiety and Toxic Shame - This explains how to challenge the belief that you are a "burden" to your friends and how to use "bridge statements" to shift your internal dialogue.
58:15 — Q8: Identifying the Right Time to Seek Therapy - This answers when you should reach out for professional help, particularly when dealing with long-term burnout.
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Why Do I Keep Doing This? geni.us/XoyLSQ
Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j
Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY
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ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month)
While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati
PARTNERSHIPS
Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co
Disclaimer:
The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship.
Ask Kati Anything ep. 209 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT
In this episode of Ask Kati Anything, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton discusses learning trust and stability in the context of trauma. We also address viewer questions regarding DBT therapy, BPD, social anxiety, and toxic shame. This information is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice.
#podcast #psychology #katimorton
If you feel like your therapist is speaking a foreign language when they talk about "stability" or "trust," this video is for you. We break down the specific requirements for starting trauma-focused work like EMDR and why your brain might be "pulling the ripcord" through dissociation.
Shopping with our sponsors helps support Ask Kati Anything. Please check out this week's special offers:
• Zocdoc: Find and book top-rated doctors, therapists, or mental health providers near you in minutes zocdoc.com/kati
• Go to kachava.com and use code KATI for 15% off your first order
Timestamps:
00:42 — Q1: Understanding "Trust" and "Stability" in Trauma Therapy. This explores what these concepts actually look like in practice and how to build them when you are autistic or have a history of trauma.
11:10 — Q2: Setting Boundaries Without Self-Shaming. This addresses how to hold yourself accountable for your own boundaries without falling into a cycle of punishment or blame.
19:05 — Q3: Stopping Resentment and Rumination. This covers how to stop feeling angry toward someone who has behaved poorly on purpose and how to break the cycle of repetitive negative thoughts.
27:06 — Q4: Why Therapists Might Avoid Trauma Work - This explains why a clinician might delay trauma processing or why a DBT-focused therapist might not be the right fit for specific trauma work.
41:41 — Q5: Combatting Learned Helplessness - This discusses the origins of learned helplessness in childhood and specific steps to unlearn these behaviors and regain agency.
47:34 — Q6: Moving On From a Year-and-a-Half Heartbreak - This provides a "tough love" approach to letting go of an ex and focusing on personal growth to attract a better fit.
54:23 — Q7: Navigating Social Anxiety and Toxic Shame - This explains how to challenge the belief that you are a "burden" to your friends and how to use "bridge statements" to shift your internal dialogue.
58:15 — Q8: Identifying the Right Time to Seek Therapy - This answers when you should reach out for professional help, particularly when dealing with long-term burnout.
My Main YouTube Channel youtube.com/@Katimorton
My Books
Why Do I Keep Doing This? geni.us/XoyLSQ
Traumatized geni.us/Bfak0j
Are u ok? geni.us/sva4iUY
CHANNEL MEMBERSHIP
youtube.com/channel/UCzBYOHyEEzlkRdDOSobbpvw/join
ONLINE THERAPY (enjoy 10% off your first month)
While I do not currently offer online therapy, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed, online therapist: betterhelp.com/kati
PARTNERSHIPS
Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co
Disclaimer:
The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship.
Ask Kati Anything ep. 209 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT
In this episode of Ask Kati Anything, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton discusses learning trust and stability in the context of trauma. We also address viewer questions regarding DBT therapy, BPD, social anxiety, and toxic shame. This information is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice.
#podcast #psychology #katimorton
