Uploaded December 2024 | Updated September 2026, 17 hours ago
Divorce Myths Busted about Your Kids and Divorce.
BONUS at the end: Why LEAVING might be BEST for kids. How much does emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, addictions, and mental illness in the home affect kids?
1) Will my kids have serious life-long harm if I divorce? (According to studies, about 8 in 10 do not, but 2 in 10 do.)
2) Are my kids automatically going to have drug/alcohol abuse problems? (It happens, but the likelihood is low.)
3) Will my kids now get suspended or expelled, even though they've been good at school in the past? (It happens, but likelihood is low.)
4) Are my kids likely to divorce too just because I did? Is there a "cycle of divorce" that I am causing? (30 years ago this was a valid issue, but today the majority of the marriages of kids of divorce are lifelong.)
5) When is divorce good for kids, and when is it bad? (When the home is toxic, divorce is better for kids than living in a home with a pattern of violence, emotional abuse, betrayal, or addiction.)
All the sources and citations are either in the images, below the graphs, or at the end of the video.
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ABOUT
Gretchen Baskerville is a Christian divorce recovery leader and researcher. Since 1998, she has worked in churches in the Los Angeles area. She helps heartbroken people find strength, courage, and healing. For more than 25 years she has worked with Christian women and men going through difficult, life-saving divorces, listening with compassion to those who have suffered from domestic violence, betrayal, infidelity, addicted partners, and emotional abuse.
Herself the survivor of a toxic marriage, she walked through her own lifesaving divorce and was a single mother for many years. Today she is happily remarried. She is a graduate of Wheaton College with a degree in Bible and Christian Education.
Subscribe: youtube.com/@lifesavingdivorce
What's a Life-Saving Divorce? A Life-Saving Divorce is a divorce for serious reasons: a pattern of sexual immorality, physical abuse, chronic emotional abuse, domestic violence, felony behavior, life-destroying addictions, or abandonment/neglect.
My Book: "The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships"
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Public Service Announcement
Research shows that about HALF of divorces are for very serious reasons: such as a pattern of sexual immorality, physical abuse, emotional abuse, life-altering addictions, abandonment or neglect.
These aren’t “I’m bored” divorces or “I miss the party life” divorces, or “I feel unfulfilled” divorces.
Here are 4 studies that provide evidence for this. I've included the footnotes so you can check the facts yourself. 😊 lifesavingdivorce.com/what-is-a-life-saving-divorce.
Divorce Myths Busted about Your Kids and Divorce.
BONUS at the end: Why LEAVING might be BEST for kids. How much does emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, addictions, and mental illness in the home affect kids?
1) Will my kids have serious life-long harm if I divorce? (According to studies, about 8 in 10 do not, but 2 in 10 do.)
2) Are my kids automatically going to have drug/alcohol abuse problems? (It happens, but the likelihood is low.)
3) Will my kids now get suspended or expelled, even though they've been good at school in the past? (It happens, but likelihood is low.)
4) Are my kids likely to divorce too just because I did? Is there a "cycle of divorce" that I am causing? (30 years ago this was a valid issue, but today the majority of the marriages of kids of divorce are lifelong.)
5) When is divorce good for kids, and when is it bad? (When the home is toxic, divorce is better for kids than living in a home with a pattern of violence, emotional abuse, betrayal, or addiction.)
All the sources and citations are either in the images, below the graphs, or at the end of the video.
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ABOUT
Gretchen Baskerville is a Christian divorce recovery leader and researcher. Since 1998, she has worked in churches in the Los Angeles area. She helps heartbroken people find strength, courage, and healing. For more than 25 years she has worked with Christian women and men going through difficult, life-saving divorces, listening with compassion to those who have suffered from domestic violence, betrayal, infidelity, addicted partners, and emotional abuse.
Herself the survivor of a toxic marriage, she walked through her own lifesaving divorce and was a single mother for many years. Today she is happily remarried. She is a graduate of Wheaton College with a degree in Bible and Christian Education.
Subscribe: youtube.com/@lifesavingdivorce
What's a Life-Saving Divorce? A Life-Saving Divorce is a divorce for serious reasons: a pattern of sexual immorality, physical abuse, chronic emotional abuse, domestic violence, felony behavior, life-destroying addictions, or abandonment/neglect.
My Book: "The Life-Saving Divorce: Hope for People Leaving Destructive Relationships"
Paperback or eBook: amzn.to/3CCBsnr AUDIOBOOK: amzn.to/4f52Mh4
As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Follow Gretchen Baskerville:
Website and Blog: LifeSavingDivorce.com
Facebook: facebook.com/gretchen.baskerville
Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/lifesavingdivorce.bsky.social
Twitter: twitter.com/GGBaskerville
Instagram: instagram.com/gretchenbaskerville
Public Service Announcement
Research shows that about HALF of divorces are for very serious reasons: such as a pattern of sexual immorality, physical abuse, emotional abuse, life-altering addictions, abandonment or neglect.
These aren’t “I’m bored” divorces or “I miss the party life” divorces, or “I feel unfulfilled” divorces.
Here are 4 studies that provide evidence for this. I've included the footnotes so you can check the facts yourself. 😊 lifesavingdivorce.com/what-is-a-life-saving-divorce.
