Uploaded June 2023 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago

---

SPOILERS AHEAD! This Colleen Hoover book, It Ends With Us, leaves me with SO MANY THOUGHTS. Today, ahead of the film version's release, I'm reviewing the book and sharing my thoughts on this absolute mess.

If you'd like some recommendations for fictional books which deal with similar topics (although not specifically DV) in a sensitive way I'd recommend My Dark Vanessa - Kate Elizabeth Russell and The Girls of Summer - Katie Bishop. They're not only incredibly well-written but both show how these kinds of men can be so convincing that even their victims don't realise what is happening to them but at the same time, neither book ever glamourises or condones their behaviour. THIS is how you deal with these topics sensitively.
Affiliate links to get these books:
My Dark Vanessa - Kate Elizabeth Russell
UK: amzn.to/43OOUmp
USA: amzn.to/3P5Wmos
The Girls of Summer - Katie Bishop
UK: amzn.to/3JaBkkN
USA: amzn.to/43UUmnm
I'd also recommend Dr Ramani's book Should I Stay or Should I Go? because this is the book which helped me leave my ex and saved my life.
UK: amzn.to/45WWpJg
USA: amzn.to/3p13esG

Apologies for the terrible camera quality in this - I used the wrong lens and it was too late to change it by the time I realised, it was getting super late, I was ridiculously tired. I then had 24 hours of absolute hell attempting to export this. I feel like everything that COULD have gone wrong with this video, DID go wrong. Ugh.

Resources and Further Reading:
R-pe Crisis (England and Wales) bit.ly/3N64bIg
Refuge nationaldahelpline.org.uk
SurvivorsUK survivorsuk.org
DV Hotline USA thehotline.org

thehotline.org/resources/the-dangers-of-strangulation
health.com/love-bombing-7479796
bannerhealth.com/healthcareblog/teach-me/what-is-love-bombing-and-how-to-recognize-the-signs

---------

I make my website with Squarespace, create your own website here: squarespace.syuh.net/jrRNRn (Affiliate link)

~~~~~GET MY POETRY AND PHOTOGRAPHY BOOK NOW~~~~~
UK: amzn.to/3gxvqiy
US: amzn.to/3XtWf7X
Canada: https://a.co/d/1K3orWs

Support my work with a one-off donation: paypal.me/rachel0ates
Or on Patreon to access Video Scripts, Photography, Discord, Exclusive Stickers & Prints: patreon.com/racheloates

Follow me on Instagram for Photography, Kyra, Book Recommendations and Art:
instagram.com/rachel0ates

Get my new merch here:
racheloates.creator-spring.com

Amazon Wishlist to Support My Content:
Art Supplies: amazon.co.uk/hz/wishlist/ls/32OGDYZVHJCJM
Books: amazon.co.uk/hz/wishlist/ls/2SISGRGPZ6J6C
Everything Else: amazon.co.uk/hz/wishlist/ls/2KI08M6GZ5PJV
Kyra: amazon.co.uk/hz/wishlist/ls/1HK86YX9A4HNA


PO Box:
Rachel Oates
Unit 16588
PO Box 6945
London
W1A 6US

Website: racheloates.uk

TikTok: tiktok.com/@racheloates
Twitch: twitch.tv/rachel0ates

0:00 Intro
04:35 Chapter 1
27:54 Meet Atlas
37:30 Who Needs A Business Plan?!
47:09 A Trip To The Past... Again
50:12 Ryle Begs On His Knees
57:50 A Party and a Kidnapping
01:20:32 The First Time Is Just Like Every Other Time
01:41:43 The Grand Opening
01:47:05 Scorpions!
01:56:43 More Locking Women In Rooms
02:02:57 He's Back
02:06:38 A Surprise Wedding
02:11:19 Excuses.
02:29:10 This Was Not A 'Mistake'
02:34:24 If Only A Competent Writer Had Written This Scene...
02:44:26 A Baby and I Don't Care
02:56:03 Conclusion: Bits I Liked
02:57:26 I Hate The Ending
02:59:16 Your Privilege Is Showing
03:02:31 Too Much "Romance"
03:05:01 The Marketing Problem
03:08:08 Let's Talk About The Film
03:10:47 The Response From Fans