Uploaded January 2025 | Updated September 2026, 4 days ago
Drew comes in hot today as we dig into the nitty gritty of confidence and motivation. We explore the counterintuitive idea that true confidence doesn't come from expecting success, but from being comfortable with failure. If you've ever struggled with self-doubt or felt demotivated despite external achievements, this episode might just change your perspective.
We start by dissecting what I call the "Confidence Conundrum" and how it applies to various aspects of life, from business to relationships. Then, we challenge some long-held beliefs about intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, discussing research that questions the idea that external rewards always undermine our natural interests. We wrap up with a thought-provoking exploration of Internal Family Systems theory and how understanding the different "parts" of our psyche can lead to greater self-integration. This is a grab bag episode that we had a lot of fun with, so I hope you enjoy it.
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Chapters:
00:00 Drew comes in hot
00:53 The F*ck of the Week: Confidence
21:55 Brilliant or Bullsh*t: Intrinsic vs Extrinsic Motivation
42:44 Q&A: What do you think of "parts work"?
Resources from the episode:
How to Be Truly Confident (The Confidence Conundrum) by Mark Manson: markmanson.net/how-to-be-confident
Steven Reiss: Extrinsic and Intrinsic Motivation at 30:
Unresolved Scientific Issues: pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2755352/pdf/behavan00001-0003.pdf
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Theme song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery, used with permission from Periphery.
Drew comes in hot today as we dig into the nitty gritty of confidence and motivation. We explore the counterintuitive idea that true confidence doesn't come from expecting success, but from being comfortable with failure. If you've ever struggled with self-doubt or felt demotivated despite external achievements, this episode might just change your perspective.
We start by dissecting what I call the "Confidence Conundrum" and how it applies to various aspects of life, from business to relationships. Then, we challenge some long-held beliefs about intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, discussing research that questions the idea that external rewards always undermine our natural interests. We wrap up with a thought-provoking exploration of Internal Family Systems theory and how understanding the different "parts" of our psyche can lead to greater self-integration. This is a grab bag episode that we had a lot of fun with, so I hope you enjoy it.
Sign up for my newsletter, Your Next Breakthrough. It will help make you a less awful person: markmanson.net/breakthrough
Chapters:
00:00 Drew comes in hot
00:53 The F*ck of the Week: Confidence
21:55 Brilliant or Bullsh*t: Intrinsic vs Extrinsic Motivation
42:44 Q&A: What do you think of "parts work"?
Resources from the episode:
How to Be Truly Confident (The Confidence Conundrum) by Mark Manson: markmanson.net/how-to-be-confident
Steven Reiss: Extrinsic and Intrinsic Motivation at 30:
Unresolved Scientific Issues: pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2755352/pdf/behavan00001-0003.pdf
Follow me:
instagram.com/markmanson
twitter.com/IAmMarkManson
facebook.com/Markmansonnet
linkedin.com/in/markmanson
tiktok.com/@iammarkmanson
Theme song: Icarus Lives by @Periphery, used with permission from Periphery.
