Uploaded August 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
There are some clear warning signs worth paying attention to when anger starts moving toward a more dangerous place.
The first is a pattern of always blaming someone else, rarely if ever taking responsibility for your own part in it. "You make me angry." "It's your fault." "If you didn't do that, I wouldn't be angry." If that's a consistent pattern, it's often a sign that something deeper is happening internally, something that's being used to justify a level of anger that keeps growing.
The second is escalation. Small disagreements that quickly turn into big ones. Raised voices, yelling, insults, threats, an argument that keeps climbing instead of settling. For some people this can escalate further into physical actions, hitting or throwing things, or eventually toward physically hitting another person.
A third sign is intimidation. Even without physical violence, standing too close during an argument, posturing, crowding someone's space, slamming doors, punching walls, breaking objects. These are all ways of creating fear in another person, of making them feel unsafe. That's not just anger anymore. That's dangerous.
If any of this sounds familiar, either in yourself or someone close to you, it matters to take it seriously and get support for managing not only the anger itself but the complex trauma below the surface. Reach out to us at timfletcher.ca, support is available.
This is part of our recent Anger and Complex Trauma series on YouTube.
There are some clear warning signs worth paying attention to when anger starts moving toward a more dangerous place.
The first is a pattern of always blaming someone else, rarely if ever taking responsibility for your own part in it. "You make me angry." "It's your fault." "If you didn't do that, I wouldn't be angry." If that's a consistent pattern, it's often a sign that something deeper is happening internally, something that's being used to justify a level of anger that keeps growing.
The second is escalation. Small disagreements that quickly turn into big ones. Raised voices, yelling, insults, threats, an argument that keeps climbing instead of settling. For some people this can escalate further into physical actions, hitting or throwing things, or eventually toward physically hitting another person.
A third sign is intimidation. Even without physical violence, standing too close during an argument, posturing, crowding someone's space, slamming doors, punching walls, breaking objects. These are all ways of creating fear in another person, of making them feel unsafe. That's not just anger anymore. That's dangerous.
If any of this sounds familiar, either in yourself or someone close to you, it matters to take it seriously and get support for managing not only the anger itself but the complex trauma below the surface. Reach out to us at timfletcher.ca, support is available.
This is part of our recent Anger and Complex Trauma series on YouTube.
