Brian Murphy | 7 Tips for Dealing with Uncomfortable Feelings in a Relationship @thisisbgm | Uploaded March 2019 | Updated October 2024, 2 hours ago.
tl;dw (too long; didn't watch): skip to ...
1:45 Sit & breathe
2:14 Consult a list of feelings
3:04 Journal
3:52 Meditate
5:14 Move your body
6:28 Take a bath
7:00 Read a book or watch a movie
8:14 Final thoughts
A few hours after I recorded last week’s video (youtu.be/q8T81AgP-cA) about how there’s no such thing as good feelings or bad feelings, I got with some pretty tough feelings. You might even say they were “bad” feelings (I certainly didn’t want to be feeling them!)
I’m not gonna lie: it sucked. It’s all well and good to say that there’s no such thing as good feelings or bad feelings when you’re feeling on top of the world. It’s another to wrestle with that truth when you’re in the midst of feeling confused, jealous, insecure, lonely, hungry, isolated, insignificant or any number of “bad” feelings (aka feelings when your needs aren’t being met)
So I dug deep and did my best to practice what I preach (after more wallowing than I care to admit). I got off the couch, I changed my outfit, I played some tennis, (I came home and recorded a quick video just for folks on the email list), I took a long hot shower, I sat and breathed for a minute or two, I journaled, and then I ordered delivery and turned on Schitt’s Creek.
Figuring out how to cope with uncomfortable feelings in a healthy and productive way has taken me yearrrrs to figure out (and it’s still an imperfect practice).
These are 7 of my go-to practices to help with that process 🎥⬆️
[From the video]
Tools & Books for meditating
Insight Timer - insighttimer.com
Ruling Your World by Sakyong Mipham - amzn.to/2Fg9To1
The Wisdom of No Escape (amzn.to/2Jr5SSV), When Things Fall Apart (amzn.to/2UGrcVH), and The Places That Scare You (amzn.to/2CsOjfk) by Pema Chödrön
❓Are you and your boyfriend on the same page? Download the free Commitment Clarity Checklist to to create more security and connection while opening the door for future possibility in a way that feels safe and committed 👉 learn.briangerald.com/clarity
🔎 Want support in opening up your relationship (or improving an already open one)? Book a free discovery call: briangerald.com/relationship-coaching
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KEEP IN TOUCH:
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tl;dw (too long; didn't watch): skip to ...
1:45 Sit & breathe
2:14 Consult a list of feelings
3:04 Journal
3:52 Meditate
5:14 Move your body
6:28 Take a bath
7:00 Read a book or watch a movie
8:14 Final thoughts
A few hours after I recorded last week’s video (youtu.be/q8T81AgP-cA) about how there’s no such thing as good feelings or bad feelings, I got with some pretty tough feelings. You might even say they were “bad” feelings (I certainly didn’t want to be feeling them!)
I’m not gonna lie: it sucked. It’s all well and good to say that there’s no such thing as good feelings or bad feelings when you’re feeling on top of the world. It’s another to wrestle with that truth when you’re in the midst of feeling confused, jealous, insecure, lonely, hungry, isolated, insignificant or any number of “bad” feelings (aka feelings when your needs aren’t being met)
So I dug deep and did my best to practice what I preach (after more wallowing than I care to admit). I got off the couch, I changed my outfit, I played some tennis, (I came home and recorded a quick video just for folks on the email list), I took a long hot shower, I sat and breathed for a minute or two, I journaled, and then I ordered delivery and turned on Schitt’s Creek.
Figuring out how to cope with uncomfortable feelings in a healthy and productive way has taken me yearrrrs to figure out (and it’s still an imperfect practice).
These are 7 of my go-to practices to help with that process 🎥⬆️
[From the video]
Tools & Books for meditating
Insight Timer - insighttimer.com
Ruling Your World by Sakyong Mipham - amzn.to/2Fg9To1
The Wisdom of No Escape (amzn.to/2Jr5SSV), When Things Fall Apart (amzn.to/2UGrcVH), and The Places That Scare You (amzn.to/2CsOjfk) by Pema Chödrön
❓Are you and your boyfriend on the same page? Download the free Commitment Clarity Checklist to to create more security and connection while opening the door for future possibility in a way that feels safe and committed 👉 learn.briangerald.com/clarity
🔎 Want support in opening up your relationship (or improving an already open one)? Book a free discovery call: briangerald.com/relationship-coaching
🎥 Subscribe for new open relationship and/or gay relationship advice videos every Wednesday afternoon: youtube.com/creativereduction?sub_confirmation=1
KEEP IN TOUCH:
The best bits from my brain. Super informal emails from me: briangerald.com/hello
CONNECT WITH ME ONLINE!
Facebook: facebook.com/ThisIsBGM
Twitter: twitter.com/ThisIsBGM
Instagram: instagram.com/ThisIsBGM
Tumblr: ThisIsBGM.tumblr.com
