Uploaded April 2025 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
There are certain emotional scripts you learned in your formative years that are running your life today. These emotional patterns aren’t the enemy. They don’t mean that you’re broken as a person or flawed in an insidious way.
Instead, it simply means that you’re not aware of these emotional scripts.
But if you’re been stuck in the same loops for years, trying harder, doing the same thing over and over, something deeper is necessary. In fact, gritting your teeth and trying harder will only give these emotional scripts more power over you and your behavior.
In today’s show, you’ll discover how to start noticing these emotional scripts, you’ll understand how they started, and more important, how they protected you, and you’ll learn the key that makes your emotional scripts stop running the show of your life.
Listen now.
Show Highlights Include:
0:00 - Start
0:18 - Sneaky emotional patterns that control your life without you even realizing it
2:32 - A few examples of how you might’ve picked up some of the emotional scripts that still control your every action
5:29 - The one thing anxious people who feel broken never hear—but desperately need to hear
8:37 - How childhood parts that once protected you can sabotage your adult relationships (and how integrating these parts can stop their self-destruction)
17:14 - How to finally break free from being a slave to your emotional patterns (and why it won’t necessarily feel like a perfect sense of enlightenment)
For more about David Tian, go here:
davidtianphd.com/about
Want more success in leadership, deeper connections, or a greater sense of fulfillment? Take this free assessment—it’s fast, easy, and tailored to your unique situation. Answer a few simple questions, and you’ll get instant access to a suite of masterclasses designed specifically for where you are right now. Whether you’re struggling or simply want more out of life, this is your next step. No guesswork. Just clarity. Click here and see what’s waiting for you:
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Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery
For the full transcription, go here:
davidtianphd.com/beyond-success/not-broken-mind-learned-wrong-lesson-31
*****
Listen to the episode on your favorite podcast platform:
Apple Podcasts:
podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-success/id1570318182
Spotify:
open.spotify.com/show/4LAVM2zYO4xfGxVRATSQxN
Audible/Amazon:
audible.com/podcast/Beyond-Success/B08K57V4JS?qid=1624532264
Podbean:
podbean.com/podcast-detail/bkcgh-1f9774/Beyond-Success-Podcast
SoundCloud:
soundcloud.com/user-980450970
TuneIn:
tun.in/pkn9
There are certain emotional scripts you learned in your formative years that are running your life today. These emotional patterns aren’t the enemy. They don’t mean that you’re broken as a person or flawed in an insidious way.
Instead, it simply means that you’re not aware of these emotional scripts.
But if you’re been stuck in the same loops for years, trying harder, doing the same thing over and over, something deeper is necessary. In fact, gritting your teeth and trying harder will only give these emotional scripts more power over you and your behavior.
In today’s show, you’ll discover how to start noticing these emotional scripts, you’ll understand how they started, and more important, how they protected you, and you’ll learn the key that makes your emotional scripts stop running the show of your life.
Listen now.
Show Highlights Include:
0:00 - Start
0:18 - Sneaky emotional patterns that control your life without you even realizing it
2:32 - A few examples of how you might’ve picked up some of the emotional scripts that still control your every action
5:29 - The one thing anxious people who feel broken never hear—but desperately need to hear
8:37 - How childhood parts that once protected you can sabotage your adult relationships (and how integrating these parts can stop their self-destruction)
17:14 - How to finally break free from being a slave to your emotional patterns (and why it won’t necessarily feel like a perfect sense of enlightenment)
For more about David Tian, go here:
davidtianphd.com/about
Want more success in leadership, deeper connections, or a greater sense of fulfillment? Take this free assessment—it’s fast, easy, and tailored to your unique situation. Answer a few simple questions, and you’ll get instant access to a suite of masterclasses designed specifically for where you are right now. Whether you’re struggling or simply want more out of life, this is your next step. No guesswork. Just clarity. Click here and see what’s waiting for you:
dtphd.com/quiz
Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery
For the full transcription, go here:
davidtianphd.com/beyond-success/not-broken-mind-learned-wrong-lesson-31
*****
Listen to the episode on your favorite podcast platform:
Apple Podcasts:
podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/beyond-success/id1570318182
Spotify:
open.spotify.com/show/4LAVM2zYO4xfGxVRATSQxN
Audible/Amazon:
audible.com/podcast/Beyond-Success/B08K57V4JS?qid=1624532264
Podbean:
podbean.com/podcast-detail/bkcgh-1f9774/Beyond-Success-Podcast
SoundCloud:
soundcloud.com/user-980450970
TuneIn:
tun.in/pkn9
