Uploaded August 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
There is always the temptation to keep score. Every little disagreement becomes a legal discussion, and you try so hard to win the case and walk away victorious. But it costs you. 74% of divorced people say their spouse should have worked harder. 73% say they themselves had already done enough. Both cannot be true.
Today we discuss the importance of not making your marriage a constant battle to win and how wanting to win can cost you your marriage. We learn to listen to our spouseโs heart, not just their words, and to recognize that our needs are God-given. Devin and Kim Schadt have been married thirty years, through cancer, poverty, miscarriage, and a daughter's brain injury. In their new book The Marriage Gap, they lay out the three things every thriving marriage does.
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0:00 The Hidden Trap of Unspoken Expectations
1:22 The Reality of the Modern Marriage Crisis
2:35 The Myth That Marriage Is Supposed to Be Easy
3:59 Exposing the Universal Blind Spot
5:42 Why Generations Are Fleeing From Matrimony
11:37 The Day I Realized My Marriage Was a Courtroom
19:59 Why God Created Us With Impoverished Needs
31:08 The Three Steps to Building True Communion
There is always the temptation to keep score. Every little disagreement becomes a legal discussion, and you try so hard to win the case and walk away victorious. But it costs you. 74% of divorced people say their spouse should have worked harder. 73% say they themselves had already done enough. Both cannot be true.
Today we discuss the importance of not making your marriage a constant battle to win and how wanting to win can cost you your marriage. We learn to listen to our spouseโs heart, not just their words, and to recognize that our needs are God-given. Devin and Kim Schadt have been married thirty years, through cancer, poverty, miscarriage, and a daughter's brain injury. In their new book The Marriage Gap, they lay out the three things every thriving marriage does.
๐ Devin Schadt's new book The Marriage Gap: โ
sophiainstitute.com/product/the-marriage-gap
COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20
๐ข FREE RTIC Travel Mug with our New Coffee Bundle ๐ข store.catholicgentleman.com/collections/coffee/products/coffee-bundle
๐ข Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: โ https://catholicgentlemanplus.comโ
Video Producer โ Pietro Damasceno
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0:00 The Hidden Trap of Unspoken Expectations
1:22 The Reality of the Modern Marriage Crisis
2:35 The Myth That Marriage Is Supposed to Be Easy
3:59 Exposing the Universal Blind Spot
5:42 Why Generations Are Fleeing From Matrimony
11:37 The Day I Realized My Marriage Was a Courtroom
19:59 Why God Created Us With Impoverished Needs
31:08 The Three Steps to Building True Communion
