Uploaded September 2026 | Updated September 2026, 1 week ago
In this episode of the Chew The Fat With Smoove Podcast, we’re talking about the struggles of dating in your 40s. We react to women sharing their experiences of re-entering the dating pool after divorce and the "emotional setbacks" that come with it.
We break down the shift from "dating to be chosen" to "dating for alignment," the frustration with "Good morning beautiful" texts without action, and the reality of the "face card" as you age. From the importance of personal style to why men often look for different things as they get older, we’re diving into the raw truth of the 40+ dating scene.
Timestamps
0:00 - Intro: The difficulty of dating in your 40s
0:11 - 46-year-old single mom: Observations after 6 years of being single
1:45 - Emotional capacity and facing setbacks in modern dating
2:30 - The "Good Morning Beautiful" trap: Why texts aren't enough
3:35 - The Social Media investigation: Why she won't give out her IG
5:30 - Communication gaps: Why women talk to the internet instead of the man
6:40 - Does he have a roster? Why some men don't press to see you
7:25 - The Mindset Shift: Stop dating to be chosen
8:45 - Interviewing for a relationship: Alignment vs. Approval
10:25 - Will you be ignored by men once you turn 40?
11:15 - The superficial barrier: Why looking the part still matters
12:15 - "Face Card" and fitness: Dating in abundance in your 40s
14:30 - Height and Style: Does being 5'10" help or hurt?
15:55 - Final thoughts: Subscribe and stay hungry
In this episode of the Chew The Fat With Smoove Podcast, we’re talking about the struggles of dating in your 40s. We react to women sharing their experiences of re-entering the dating pool after divorce and the "emotional setbacks" that come with it.
We break down the shift from "dating to be chosen" to "dating for alignment," the frustration with "Good morning beautiful" texts without action, and the reality of the "face card" as you age. From the importance of personal style to why men often look for different things as they get older, we’re diving into the raw truth of the 40+ dating scene.
Timestamps
0:00 - Intro: The difficulty of dating in your 40s
0:11 - 46-year-old single mom: Observations after 6 years of being single
1:45 - Emotional capacity and facing setbacks in modern dating
2:30 - The "Good Morning Beautiful" trap: Why texts aren't enough
3:35 - The Social Media investigation: Why she won't give out her IG
5:30 - Communication gaps: Why women talk to the internet instead of the man
6:40 - Does he have a roster? Why some men don't press to see you
7:25 - The Mindset Shift: Stop dating to be chosen
8:45 - Interviewing for a relationship: Alignment vs. Approval
10:25 - Will you be ignored by men once you turn 40?
11:15 - The superficial barrier: Why looking the part still matters
12:15 - "Face Card" and fitness: Dating in abundance in your 40s
14:30 - Height and Style: Does being 5'10" help or hurt?
15:55 - Final thoughts: Subscribe and stay hungry
