Uploaded September 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
In this episode of the Chew The Fat With Smoove Podcast, we’re exploring a hard truth that’s surfacing in the dating world: many women are finding out that men simply don’t want to engage in the traditional "chase" anymore. We react to viral perspectives on why men have retreated from pursuing, the impact of the "me too" movement on social approaches, and the reality of reciprocity in modern relationships.
We break down the "effort gap," why "good women" are being viewed differently today, and the consequences of blasting men on social media for sport. From the return on investment (ROI) of a modern relationship to why many men are choosing their own peace over high-effort courtship, we’re getting into the real math behind the shift.
Is the pursuit dead, or have the rules just changed forever? Let’s talk about it.
Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share your perspective in the comments below. Stay hungry, never thirsty.
Timestamps
0:00 - Intro: Why men are no longer pursuing
0:43 - Reaction: The "Good Women are Common" theory
1:28 - Why men aren't committing to the women they want
1:58 - The truth about "low-effort intimacy"
2:47 - Why the "juice ain't worth the squeeze" for many men
3:42 - Have men really checked out of the dating climate?
4:21 - The "Creep" factor: How the Me Too movement changed approaching
5:28 - Building "muscle memory" in dating vs. current fears
6:15 - Why the top 10% of men don't need to chase
7:00 - Archetypes and the "feminine energy" signal
8:10 - The consequences of putting men on blast for sport
9:15 - We remember: Why men avoid the risk of public embarrassment
10:10 - Reaction: Monetizing dating advice and "gatekeeping" game
11:50 - Why would a man convince a woman to like him?
12:55 - Reciprocity: Why men are waiting for women to show effort
14:40 - The ROI of dating vs. pursuing a career or education
16:00 - Why "better men" aren't pursuing the women who want them
17:48 - A hard truth: Are you deserving of being pursued?
19:15 - Re-examining your concepts and making adjustments
19:40 - Final thoughts and closing
In this episode of the Chew The Fat With Smoove Podcast, we’re exploring a hard truth that’s surfacing in the dating world: many women are finding out that men simply don’t want to engage in the traditional "chase" anymore. We react to viral perspectives on why men have retreated from pursuing, the impact of the "me too" movement on social approaches, and the reality of reciprocity in modern relationships.
We break down the "effort gap," why "good women" are being viewed differently today, and the consequences of blasting men on social media for sport. From the return on investment (ROI) of a modern relationship to why many men are choosing their own peace over high-effort courtship, we’re getting into the real math behind the shift.
Is the pursuit dead, or have the rules just changed forever? Let’s talk about it.
Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share your perspective in the comments below. Stay hungry, never thirsty.
Timestamps
0:00 - Intro: Why men are no longer pursuing
0:43 - Reaction: The "Good Women are Common" theory
1:28 - Why men aren't committing to the women they want
1:58 - The truth about "low-effort intimacy"
2:47 - Why the "juice ain't worth the squeeze" for many men
3:42 - Have men really checked out of the dating climate?
4:21 - The "Creep" factor: How the Me Too movement changed approaching
5:28 - Building "muscle memory" in dating vs. current fears
6:15 - Why the top 10% of men don't need to chase
7:00 - Archetypes and the "feminine energy" signal
8:10 - The consequences of putting men on blast for sport
9:15 - We remember: Why men avoid the risk of public embarrassment
10:10 - Reaction: Monetizing dating advice and "gatekeeping" game
11:50 - Why would a man convince a woman to like him?
12:55 - Reciprocity: Why men are waiting for women to show effort
14:40 - The ROI of dating vs. pursuing a career or education
16:00 - Why "better men" aren't pursuing the women who want them
17:48 - A hard truth: Are you deserving of being pursued?
19:15 - Re-examining your concepts and making adjustments
19:40 - Final thoughts and closing
