Why Youre NOT a Good Communicator I Matt Abrahams @FindingMastery

Uploaded July 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago

Dr. Michael Gervais is one of the world’s top high-performance psychologists and leading experts on the relationship between the mind and human performance. He is the founder and host of the Finding Mastery Podcast, the co-creator of the Performance Science Institute at USC, and his work has been featured by NBC, ABC, FOX, CNN, ESPN, NFL Network, Red Bull TV, The Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Outside Magazine, WIRED, ESPN Magazine, and more. He is also the author of The First Rule of Mastery, a USA Today Bestseller.

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$The Psychology of Lying | Sam Harris Theres a radical version of honesty most of us have never actually tried. Sam Harris, neuroscientist, philosopher, bestselling author, host of the Making Sense podcast, and creator of the Waking Up app, joins Dr. Michael Gervais for a conversation about truth, the inner mechanics of the mind, and what it costs us when we stop examining what we believe. Sams first principle is simple and strange in equal measure: dont lie. Not because brutal honesty is a virtue, but because a genuine commitment to saying what is true and useful changes everything downstream. Your relationships rearrange around it. Your teams get sharper. Your inner life gets quieter. And the gap between who you are in one room and who you are in another starts to close. The conversation expands into the biggest questions of the moment: how social media and AI are fracturing our collective grip on reality, whether we are approaching a point of epistemic bankruptcy with the internet – where we can’t discern what’s real and what’s not – and why tribalism and dogmatism are the most reliable paths to getting things wrong. It also turns inward, into consciousness, meditation, and what it means to separate yourself from your thoughts — not as a philosophical exercise, but as a skill with real consequences for how much you suffer and how freely you live. In this conversation, youll learn: - Why not lying is a first principle with outsized returns - How tribalism and dogmatism corrode our access to truth - What AI and deep fakes may do to our relationship with reality and institutions - The difference between pain and suffering, and how to close the gap - Why you are not your thoughts, and what becomes possible when you live from that understanding If you are trying to figure out why honesty is so hard and what changes when you actually commit to it, this is a good place to start. CHAPTERS 0:00 Sam Harris Intro 2:48 The Brain is Foundational 5:00 Why Lying Is So Dangerous 8:15 Truth vs. Kindness (“Do I Look Fat?”) 14:57 Do Not Lie vs. Tell Useful Truth 18:14 Honesty in High-Performance Environments 25:03 Social Media, AI & Misinformation 30:26 AI Is Replacing Human Expertise 38:23 Tribalism & Dogmatism Explained 43:03 Consciousness as the Ground Truth 50:28 Science vs. Religion & Authority 1:04:05 The Problem with Religious Texts 1:07:06 Personal Struggles with Faith & Institutions 1:10:41 The Experience of Enlightenment 1:40:00 Truth, Uncertainty & the Future of Human Knowledge 💥 Support our sponsors and get exclusive discounts: https://findingmastery.com/sponsors 📬 Sign up for the Finding Mastery newsletter: https://www.findingmastery.com/newsletter 🧠 Download Dr. Mike’s Morning Mindset Routine: https://www.findingmastery.com/morningmindset #FindingMastery #SamHarris #Truth #Honesty #WakingUp #MakingSense #DrMichaelGervais #Mindset #Consciousness #Meditation #Mindfulness #Tribalism #Misinformation #HighPerformance #Philosophy #MentalHealth #Resilience #lying #religion #makingsense$

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