Uploaded April 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 hours ago
For most of my life, I was a people pleaser—constantly seeking approval, avoiding conflict, and shaping myself into whatever others needed me to be.
And without realizing it, that pattern led me straight into relationships with narcissists.
In this video, I break down what a people pleaser really is, how it gets wired into you early in life, and why it creates the perfect dynamic for unhealthy, one-sided relationships. But more importantly, I share the realization that completely changed how I see myself—and the one shift that helped me stop people pleasing for good.
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If something in this video landed for you — if you recognized a pattern you've been carrying for a long time and you're ready to actually work through it — I do 1:1 coaching for exactly this.
We go into the beliefs underneath the behavior, the blind spots you can't see from the inside, and what it would actually take to change the pattern rather than just understand it.
Apply here - https://forms.gle/Sm7gag879LhCKU8r7
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00:00 - Introduction
00:22 - What is a people pleaser?
01:07 - How does someone become a people pleaser?
04:07 - How people pleasing was hurting me
04:33 - Narcissists and people pleasers
07:10 - This changed everything
09:13 - Nothing but the truth
For most of my life, I was a people pleaser—constantly seeking approval, avoiding conflict, and shaping myself into whatever others needed me to be.
And without realizing it, that pattern led me straight into relationships with narcissists.
In this video, I break down what a people pleaser really is, how it gets wired into you early in life, and why it creates the perfect dynamic for unhealthy, one-sided relationships. But more importantly, I share the realization that completely changed how I see myself—and the one shift that helped me stop people pleasing for good.
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If something in this video landed for you — if you recognized a pattern you've been carrying for a long time and you're ready to actually work through it — I do 1:1 coaching for exactly this.
We go into the beliefs underneath the behavior, the blind spots you can't see from the inside, and what it would actually take to change the pattern rather than just understand it.
Apply here - https://forms.gle/Sm7gag879LhCKU8r7
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00:00 - Introduction
00:22 - What is a people pleaser?
01:07 - How does someone become a people pleaser?
04:07 - How people pleasing was hurting me
04:33 - Narcissists and people pleasers
07:10 - This changed everything
09:13 - Nothing but the truth
