Uploaded April 2026 | Updated September 2026, 16 hours ago

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0:00 Doing vs controlling
1:06 Self-rules
2:04 What to do next…
4:36 Go deeper…
5:16 (1) Why self-rules drain you
8:28 (2) Where self-rules come from
17:53 (3) How to tell whether your exhaustion is rule based
21:42 (4) The 4 steps to relax any rule
25:07 Summary & outro rizz