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When I was younger, I was always called "sensitive." The kid who felt things too much. Who took things too personally. Who could walk into a room and know something was off between two people before either of them said a word. For a long time I treated that as a flaw to manage. Here's the reframe I want to make the case for today, and I'll bring the actual science: the sensitivity I spent years apologising for, is closer to a strength than a weakness, and I can show you why in the research, in evolution, and in how the best facilitators and leaders I've watched actually operate.
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Key sources:
- Aron, E. N. (1996). The Highly Sensitive Person
- Aron, E. N., & Aron, A. (1997). Sensory-processing sensitivity and its relation to introversion and emotionality. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology [Aron's actual term: sensory processing sensitivity]
- Acevedo, B. P., et al. (2014). The highly sensitive brain: An fMRI study of sensory processing sensitivity. Brain and Behavior [small fMRI study, n=18; this is also the source of the over-100-species figure]
- Belsky, J., & Pluess, M. (2009). Beyond diathesis stress: differential susceptibility to environmental influences. Psychological Bulletin; Pluess & Belsky (2013) on vantage sensitivity [the "responds more to good and bad" framework, NOT Aron's]
- Boyce, W. T., & Ellis, B. J. (2005). Biological sensitivity to context [the orchid and dandelion metaphor; note later work treats susceptibility as continuous, not bimodal]
- Lionetti, F., et al. (2018). Dandelions, tulips and orchids. Translational Psychiatry [three-group sensitivity spectrum; highly sensitive group ~31%, updating Aron's original 15-20%]
- Wilson, D. S., et al. (1994). Shyness and boldness in humans and other animals. Trends in Ecology & Evolution [shy-bold continuum; the stable-environment advantage comes from later evolutionary models, e.g. Wolf et al., 2008]
- Gross, J. J., & Levenson, R. W. (1997). Hiding feelings. Journal of Abnormal Psychology [acute lab study, all-female sample; the long-term health link comes from separate correlational work]
- Heifetz, R. A., & Linsky, M. (2002). Leadership on the Line
When I was younger, I was always called "sensitive." The kid who felt things too much. Who took things too personally. Who could walk into a room and know something was off between two people before either of them said a word. For a long time I treated that as a flaw to manage. Here's the reframe I want to make the case for today, and I'll bring the actual science: the sensitivity I spent years apologising for, is closer to a strength than a weakness, and I can show you why in the research, in evolution, and in how the best facilitators and leaders I've watched actually operate.
Become a founding member of The Compass Collective - keshavbhatt.com/compass-collective
Key sources:
- Aron, E. N. (1996). The Highly Sensitive Person
- Aron, E. N., & Aron, A. (1997). Sensory-processing sensitivity and its relation to introversion and emotionality. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology [Aron's actual term: sensory processing sensitivity]
- Acevedo, B. P., et al. (2014). The highly sensitive brain: An fMRI study of sensory processing sensitivity. Brain and Behavior [small fMRI study, n=18; this is also the source of the over-100-species figure]
- Belsky, J., & Pluess, M. (2009). Beyond diathesis stress: differential susceptibility to environmental influences. Psychological Bulletin; Pluess & Belsky (2013) on vantage sensitivity [the "responds more to good and bad" framework, NOT Aron's]
- Boyce, W. T., & Ellis, B. J. (2005). Biological sensitivity to context [the orchid and dandelion metaphor; note later work treats susceptibility as continuous, not bimodal]
- Lionetti, F., et al. (2018). Dandelions, tulips and orchids. Translational Psychiatry [three-group sensitivity spectrum; highly sensitive group ~31%, updating Aron's original 15-20%]
- Wilson, D. S., et al. (1994). Shyness and boldness in humans and other animals. Trends in Ecology & Evolution [shy-bold continuum; the stable-environment advantage comes from later evolutionary models, e.g. Wolf et al., 2008]
- Gross, J. J., & Levenson, R. W. (1997). Hiding feelings. Journal of Abnormal Psychology [acute lab study, all-female sample; the long-term health link comes from separate correlational work]
- Heifetz, R. A., & Linsky, M. (2002). Leadership on the Line
