Uploaded June 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
Stop falling into the anxious-avoidant attachment trap. In this episode, learn how to build a healthy relationship and experience corrective love. Today, I’m sitting down for a deeply personal, raw, and honest conversation with my longtime friend John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist) to discuss his brand new book, Love Hard on Purpose: Toss the Blueprints, Build Something Honest.
We are stripping away the fairytale narratives and diving into what it actually takes to build a secure relationship from scratch. John opens up about his heavy heart following a recent relationship rupture, how losing his home in the Altadena fires completely transformed his identity, and his own realization about childhood mother wounds and shadow addictions. I also share my own journey healing a father wound and breaking free from high-functioning codependency.
Whether you are single on purpose or trying to navigate a long-term partnership, this episode will show you how to move past the trauma breakers and rewire your body to accept a calm, healthy, and deeply intimate love.
Find John at:
instagram.com/theangrytherapist
theangrytherapist.com
youtube.com/@theangrytherapist
📚 Too Much Book: hfcbook.com
📩 Newsletter: terricole.com/newsletter
🔑 Ready to build healthier relationships? Join: terricole.com/tcm
Time Stamps
00:00 - Episode Teaser: Building on Sand
00:20 - Introduction: Welcoming John Kim (The Angry Therapist)
03:26 - John Kim’s Origin Story & Rebirth
06:19 - The True Markers of a Healthy Relationship
07:57 - Healing Childhood Wounds & Shadow Addictions
10:31 - Terry Cole on the Father Wound & High-Functioning Codependency
15:50 - What is a Corrective Love Experience?
18:39 - Shifting from Fairytale Narrative to Love as a Practice
21:49 - Rebuilding After Tragedy: The Altadena Fire & New Beginnings
29:30 - Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Trap
33:41 - Rewiring Your Body for Calm, Healthy Love
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About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
Stop falling into the anxious-avoidant attachment trap. In this episode, learn how to build a healthy relationship and experience corrective love. Today, I’m sitting down for a deeply personal, raw, and honest conversation with my longtime friend John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist) to discuss his brand new book, Love Hard on Purpose: Toss the Blueprints, Build Something Honest.
We are stripping away the fairytale narratives and diving into what it actually takes to build a secure relationship from scratch. John opens up about his heavy heart following a recent relationship rupture, how losing his home in the Altadena fires completely transformed his identity, and his own realization about childhood mother wounds and shadow addictions. I also share my own journey healing a father wound and breaking free from high-functioning codependency.
Whether you are single on purpose or trying to navigate a long-term partnership, this episode will show you how to move past the trauma breakers and rewire your body to accept a calm, healthy, and deeply intimate love.
Find John at:
instagram.com/theangrytherapist
theangrytherapist.com
youtube.com/@theangrytherapist
📚 Too Much Book: hfcbook.com
📩 Newsletter: terricole.com/newsletter
🔑 Ready to build healthier relationships? Join: terricole.com/tcm
Time Stamps
00:00 - Episode Teaser: Building on Sand
00:20 - Introduction: Welcoming John Kim (The Angry Therapist)
03:26 - John Kim’s Origin Story & Rebirth
06:19 - The True Markers of a Healthy Relationship
07:57 - Healing Childhood Wounds & Shadow Addictions
10:31 - Terry Cole on the Father Wound & High-Functioning Codependency
15:50 - What is a Corrective Love Experience?
18:39 - Shifting from Fairytale Narrative to Love as a Practice
21:49 - Rebuilding After Tragedy: The Altadena Fire & New Beginnings
29:30 - Breaking the Anxious-Avoidant Trap
33:41 - Rewiring Your Body for Calm, Healthy Love
If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos
youtu.be/XUNx27b-CvE - The Hidden Reason High-Functioning Women Burn Out
youtu.be/sYdgHGp7iSc - Why You Feel Responsible for Everyone (Parentified Daughter Explained)
youtu.be/Fbiq8p5TLAg - Stop People Pleasing and Being Too Nice: The 1-Sentence Script You Need
youtu.be/0mGQ0j6wh8c - Simple, Grounded Responses That Stop Invasive Questions Instantly
🪔 Meditate with me: insighttimer.com/terricole
📸 Instagram: terricole.com/ig
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
