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Rachel Bernstein explains how cults and manipulative relationships often lure people by promising to answer their questions and fulfill their goals, then slowly rewrite what they want to keep them involved. She describes how people may later feel they got what they needed while forgetting their original reasons for joining, and she recommends writing down personal goals privately and revisiting them to check whether an organization or partner is truly helping. Bernstein outlines a common manipulation tactic where leaders claim special insight or “knowing you better than you know yourself” to override your needs, redefine your purpose, and push devotion, isolation, or control. She emphasizes that only you can define your goals and urges seeking support from people who don’t intend to control you.
00:00 Intro and Channel
00:23 The Promise of Answers
01:09 Check Your Goals
02:44 How Control Rewrites You
04:10 The All Knowing Act
04:59 Why It Feels True
06:45 No One Knows You
07:35 Stay Safe and Closing
The IndoctriNation Podcast is a weekly show covering cults, manipulators, & systems of control. Hosted by Rachel Bernstein LMFT, MSEd, Cult Specialist. Featured in The New York Times
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Restart and Restore: A Journal for Survivors of Manipulation:
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Rachel Bernstein explains how cults and manipulative relationships often lure people by promising to answer their questions and fulfill their goals, then slowly rewrite what they want to keep them involved. She describes how people may later feel they got what they needed while forgetting their original reasons for joining, and she recommends writing down personal goals privately and revisiting them to check whether an organization or partner is truly helping. Bernstein outlines a common manipulation tactic where leaders claim special insight or “knowing you better than you know yourself” to override your needs, redefine your purpose, and push devotion, isolation, or control. She emphasizes that only you can define your goals and urges seeking support from people who don’t intend to control you.
00:00 Intro and Channel
00:23 The Promise of Answers
01:09 Check Your Goals
02:44 How Control Rewrites You
04:10 The All Knowing Act
04:59 Why It Feels True
06:45 No One Knows You
07:35 Stay Safe and Closing
The IndoctriNation Podcast is a weekly show covering cults, manipulators, & systems of control. Hosted by Rachel Bernstein LMFT, MSEd, Cult Specialist. Featured in The New York Times
Connect with us on social media:
https://linktr.ee/indoctrination
Support IndoctriNation on Patreon for exclusive bonus episodes and more:
patreon.com/indoctrination
Prefer to support the IndoctriNation show with a one-time donation? Use this link:
https://www.paypal.biz/indoctriNATION
Watch full video episodes of IndoctriNation here:
youtube.com/playlist?list=PLNAi0T2hzH9dM029dkTfj635PzuXl67jS
Restart and Restore: A Journal for Survivors of Manipulation:
https://a.co/d/1ssz4Rm
Restart and Restore: Companion Notebook:
amazon.com/dp/B0FSCLTZN4
Download a Free Chapter from Restart and Restore:
education.rachelbernsteintherapy.com/restart-and-restore-campaign
Journal App:
rachelbernsteintherapy.com/restore-journal-app.html
Download Rachel’s Video Lectures and Webinars here:
rachelbernsteintherapy.com/videos.html
IndoctriNation is edited by The Podcast Consultant:
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