What Is Your Partner Really Thinking? @theschooloflifetv

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In relationships, whatever our professed scepticism, we frequently proceed as if mind reading were not only possible but a standard requirement and possibility in love, something of whose absence we would have every right to complain with bitterness and surprise.

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“Of course, most of us don’t officially have the slightest belief in mind reading. We scoff at the absurd idea that we might telepathically know what number between one and a million a stranger is thinking of, or that we could place our hands on someone else’s skull and thereby intuit the precise details of what they dreamt of last night. But in relationships, whatever our professed scepticism, we very frequently proceed as if mind reading were not only possible but a standard requirement and possibility in love, something of whose absence we would have every right to complain with bitterness and surprise…”

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$Things You Have to Forget in Order to Live Enjoying our Youtube videos? Get full access to all our audio content, videos, and thousands of thought-provoking articles, conversation cards and more with The School of Life Subscription: https://t.ly/o2Ko1 Learn, heal and grow. Get the best of The School of Life delivered straight to your inbox: https://t.ly/fLL3V FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects in our articles, here: https://www.theschooloflife.com/articles/ “(1)We tend to imagine that in order to live a good life, we need to have to have an appetite for the truth. (2)But what if, in reality, in order to keep going and get anything done, we actually need to blind ourselves to a range of realities and have to swallow a number of illusions without which we couldn’t possibly have the willpower to continue. (3)Here are some of the blind spots necessary to our flourishing. (4)First and foremost, we need to pretend that we’re not going to die and therefore have to convince ourselves that all the things we fervently trust are so important and so urgent, really do matter and won’t look like incomprehensible, futile mulch within a hundred years or less. (5)We have to care manically about what ‘others’ think - though they hardly give us a thought, let alone a fair one. (6)We have to imagine that we could (one day) be loved and understood - though few things are, in fact, ever more in doubt. (7)We have to stay on our side - though we know, in our hearts, how beastly and strange we really are. (8)We have to melt at the cuteness of small children - though we know how most of them will turn out and that the world we’re teaching them about doesn’t really exist. (9)We have to look forward to the next few years with excitement - though almost every new day is a scratchy six or below. (10)We have to believe that we’re collectively making progress - though every invention unleashes a necessary set of appalling unintended consequences. (11)We have to care about humanity - though most of its members are insufferable from close up. (12)We have to look forward to the future - though if we had a chance to learn what fate had in store, we almost certainly would not want to know. (13)We have to keep being excited about buying things - though we know how seldom any of them make a difference. (14)We have to keep going travelling - though being somewhere else is always better in memory or anticipation. (15)We have to keep seeing our so-called friends - though we would be crushed by hearing a fraction of what really goes through their minds. (16)We have to believe in a comfortable, wise old age - though it will mostly be agony, aches and catheters. (17)We have to not properly notice how beautiful, interesting and opportunity-filled life is - in case we were to go mad from excitement and regret. (18)In short, let’s not fool ourselves that we really want to know the full truth. We require only so much of it as is compatible with making it out of bed. We have to confront an uncomfortable fact about self-awareness: those who most know how to enjoy life may also be those who - at points - are masters at fruitfully lying to themselves.” MORE SCHOOL OF LIFE Watch more films on SELF in our playlist: http://bit.ly/TSOLself SOCIAL MEDIA Feel free to follow us at the links below: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theschooloflifelondon/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheSchoolOfLife Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life-for-business/ CREDITS Produced in collaboration with: Deanca Rentysata https://www.deancarensyta.com/ Title animation produced in collaboration with Graeme Probert www.gpmotion.co.uk$

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