Uploaded June 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
Have you ever achieved your biggest goals only to end up feeling completely exhausted, lonely, and burnt out?
In this episode, I’m sitting down with my soul-sister and nervous system regulation expert, Koya Webb, to unpack the hidden trap of high-functioning codependency and people-pleasing. Koya opens up about her raw "dark night of the soul" moment—crying in a bathtub after hosting a massively successful 8,000-person event—and how it forced her to stop self-abandoning and start truly healing.
Whether you are a super-empath, a highly sensitive person (HSP), or just someone running on empty, this conversation will give you the exact science-backed daily rituals you need to reset your nervous system, build deep community, and reclaim your personal sovereignty.
We dive deep into Koya's brand new book, "Well Being Rituals: Science-Backed Practices for Sustainable Healing and Living," exploring the 7 levels of holistic well-being you can start practicing today. It’s time to stop giving from an empty bucket!
Find Koya at:
koyawebb.com
instagram.com/koyawebb
📚 Too Much Book: hfcbook.com
📩 Newsletter: terricole.com/newsletter
🔑 Ready to build healthier relationships? Join: terricole.com/tcm
Time Stamps
00:00 - Intro: Choosing Sovereignty Over Self-Abandonment
00:26 - Welcome Koya Webb: Author of Well Being Rituals
02:10 - Koya Webb’s Origin Story: Turning Trauma Into Superpowers
04:40 - A Country Girl's Natural Introduction to Wellness
06:20 - The Bathtub Moment: Turning Hidden Pain Into Ultimate Purpose
08:51 - High-Functioning Codependency & The Empath Trap
10:45 - How to Re-Regulate Your Nervous System After Trauma & Grief
14:06 - Waking Up to the Systemic War on Our Wellbeing
16:24 - Masterclass: The 7 Levels of Holistic Wellbeing Rituals
22:10 - The Power of Connection: Lessons From an 85-Year Harvard Study
24:45 - Life Balance vs. Life Harmony: Navigating Your Personal Season
26:18 - Unwell vs. Bad: Rewriting the Script on Boundary Setting
30:19 - Where to Find Koya Webb & Final Thoughts
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🪔 Meditate with me: insighttimer.com/terricole
📸 Instagram: terricole.com/ig
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
#wellbeing #nervoussystemregulation #burnoutrecovery #emotionalhealing #selfabandonment
Have you ever achieved your biggest goals only to end up feeling completely exhausted, lonely, and burnt out?
In this episode, I’m sitting down with my soul-sister and nervous system regulation expert, Koya Webb, to unpack the hidden trap of high-functioning codependency and people-pleasing. Koya opens up about her raw "dark night of the soul" moment—crying in a bathtub after hosting a massively successful 8,000-person event—and how it forced her to stop self-abandoning and start truly healing.
Whether you are a super-empath, a highly sensitive person (HSP), or just someone running on empty, this conversation will give you the exact science-backed daily rituals you need to reset your nervous system, build deep community, and reclaim your personal sovereignty.
We dive deep into Koya's brand new book, "Well Being Rituals: Science-Backed Practices for Sustainable Healing and Living," exploring the 7 levels of holistic well-being you can start practicing today. It’s time to stop giving from an empty bucket!
Find Koya at:
koyawebb.com
instagram.com/koyawebb
📚 Too Much Book: hfcbook.com
📩 Newsletter: terricole.com/newsletter
🔑 Ready to build healthier relationships? Join: terricole.com/tcm
Time Stamps
00:00 - Intro: Choosing Sovereignty Over Self-Abandonment
00:26 - Welcome Koya Webb: Author of Well Being Rituals
02:10 - Koya Webb’s Origin Story: Turning Trauma Into Superpowers
04:40 - A Country Girl's Natural Introduction to Wellness
06:20 - The Bathtub Moment: Turning Hidden Pain Into Ultimate Purpose
08:51 - High-Functioning Codependency & The Empath Trap
10:45 - How to Re-Regulate Your Nervous System After Trauma & Grief
14:06 - Waking Up to the Systemic War on Our Wellbeing
16:24 - Masterclass: The 7 Levels of Holistic Wellbeing Rituals
22:10 - The Power of Connection: Lessons From an 85-Year Harvard Study
24:45 - Life Balance vs. Life Harmony: Navigating Your Personal Season
26:18 - Unwell vs. Bad: Rewriting the Script on Boundary Setting
30:19 - Where to Find Koya Webb & Final Thoughts
If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos
youtu.be/fdiQNu8-N4E - Outgrowing Friends Is Normal (Here’s How to Handle It)
youtu.be/QPthhIEe27I - She Lost Everything at Midlife… Then Rebuilt Her Entire Life with Jane green
youtu.be/WW8grvasSdg - Why You Feel Stuck And How Dr. Paul Conti’s New Method Fixes It
youtu.be/L84xKixm8mI - Why Your Fear of Not Knowing Is Keeping You Stuck with Simone Stolzoff
🪔 Meditate with me: insighttimer.com/terricole
📸 Instagram: terricole.com/ig
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
#wellbeing #nervoussystemregulation #burnoutrecovery #emotionalhealing #selfabandonment
