Uploaded May 2025 | Updated September 2026, 1 week ago
This week, I chat with Anez from Ranum, a premarital service provider, about the complex world of dating and relationships in Indonesia.
From secret dating and intense family pressures, to meeting her husband on Tinder, Anez shares her personal story alongside insight into Indonesia’s unique mix of modern and traditional dating practices.
We dive into the growing popularity of Taaruf (Islamic courtship), other religious-based matchmaking methods, and the many taboo topics Indonesians often avoid talking about, from sex before marriage to interfaith dating.
This episode is a deep, honest look at how young Indonesians are navigating love in a society full of unspoken rules.
Say to Anez: instagram.com/ranum.co.id
Each week I will interview guests from all around the world on the topics of culture, connection and of course, dating. The goal is to go as deep as possible and to really understand where we all come from and how much culture influences our life.
Sign up to the weekly newsletter: https://datingbeyondborders.eo.page/newsletter
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0:00 Intro
2:03 Is casual dating common?
4:34 Dating another religion
5:15 What if you don't want to get married or have children?
8:50 How did Anez meet her husband?
14:50 Bibit, Bebet, Bobot:The Jafanese term worth knowing
16:34 Do people use Tinder as a hook up app?
19:40 The more traditional practices Indonesians partake in
23:00 Western vs Indonesian perception of relationships
26:00 Struggle that Indonesians face in dating
31:40 Indonesian mentality and how it's impacted dating
34:30 Are there any shifts in how Indonesians see relationships?
36:50 Taboos in Indonesian relationships
39:00 Differences within Indonesia when it comes to relationships
43:00 Challenges that Anez has seen in her coaching
This week, I chat with Anez from Ranum, a premarital service provider, about the complex world of dating and relationships in Indonesia.
From secret dating and intense family pressures, to meeting her husband on Tinder, Anez shares her personal story alongside insight into Indonesia’s unique mix of modern and traditional dating practices.
We dive into the growing popularity of Taaruf (Islamic courtship), other religious-based matchmaking methods, and the many taboo topics Indonesians often avoid talking about, from sex before marriage to interfaith dating.
This episode is a deep, honest look at how young Indonesians are navigating love in a society full of unspoken rules.
Say to Anez: instagram.com/ranum.co.id
Each week I will interview guests from all around the world on the topics of culture, connection and of course, dating. The goal is to go as deep as possible and to really understand where we all come from and how much culture influences our life.
Sign up to the weekly newsletter: https://datingbeyondborders.eo.page/newsletter
Say hi on Instagram: instagram.com/datingbeyondborders
Dating Beyond Borders channel: youtube.com/user/datingbeyondborders
0:00 Intro
2:03 Is casual dating common?
4:34 Dating another religion
5:15 What if you don't want to get married or have children?
8:50 How did Anez meet her husband?
14:50 Bibit, Bebet, Bobot:The Jafanese term worth knowing
16:34 Do people use Tinder as a hook up app?
19:40 The more traditional practices Indonesians partake in
23:00 Western vs Indonesian perception of relationships
26:00 Struggle that Indonesians face in dating
31:40 Indonesian mentality and how it's impacted dating
34:30 Are there any shifts in how Indonesians see relationships?
36:50 Taboos in Indonesian relationships
39:00 Differences within Indonesia when it comes to relationships
43:00 Challenges that Anez has seen in her coaching
