Three Ways We Cling to a Self — And How to Let Go @DougsDharma
Three Ways We Cling to a Self — And How to Let Go  @DougsDharma
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The Buddha identified three ways we cling to a sense of identity over time. We'll look at all three in the light of one early commentarial interpretation linking each one to a different mental defilement. Then we'll consider how we can practice so as to release them.

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Non-self and the "I" in Early Buddhism -- youtu.be/42FJNimAEPw

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00:00 Intro
00:38 The three clingings
05:40 Why teach the "three clingings"?
06:53 Practical approaches to letting go of the clingings
09:48 Releasing the three clingings

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