The Traumatic Core of Love @RahulSam

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"At its core, love is marked by an absence of itself. Love is inherently empty. The promise of love from others carries with it the hope of curing our anxiety and inner void. When this hope is taken away, we are essentially deprived of our own selves. In the disillusionment of another's promise of love, we come to realize its true nature — love is revealed as an illusion, a facade concealing its inherent absence. Love has always been empty at its heart; it's just that before our disillusionment, we could believe in the illusion of a fully present love, while denying its inherent void." - Dr Julie Reshe, SCREAM PAIN LOVE

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$The Traumatic Core of Love At its core, love is marked by an absence of itself. Love is inherently empty. The promise of love from others carries with it the hope of curing our anxiety and inner void. When this hope is taken away, we are essentially deprived of our own selves. In the disillusionment of anothers promise of love, we come to realize its true nature — love is revealed as an illusion, a facade concealing its inherent absence. Love has always been empty at its heart; its just that before our disillusionment, we could believe in the illusion of a fully present love, while denying its inherent void. - Dr Julie Reshe, SCREAM PAIN LOVE Watch the full podcast here: https://youtu.be/-x-MhB_2m44?si=7nxBgmhae4hO-9GF {Podcast} Substack: https://rsampod.substack.com/ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4ryEqjut4r6SMtfxLdM1Le Anchor: https://anchor.fm/rahul-samaranayake Available on other platforms at https://link.chtbl.com/PDBAf9Zd {Website} https://rahulsam.me/ {Social Media} https://twitter.com/trsam97 https://www.instagram.com/name_is_rahul/ https://substack.com/@trsam/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/rahul-samaranayake-981a9315b/ {Images & Videos used} Thumbnail: Head by Head by Edvard Munch (1905) If the ideas I discuss in this channel evoke your interest, consider visiting https://theunhappyman.substack.com/ Copyright Disclaimer under section 107 of the Copyright Act 1976, allowance is made for “fair use” for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching, scholarship, education and research. Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statutes that might otherwise be infringing. If you are or represent the copyright owner of materials used in this video and have a problem with the use of the related material, please email me at trahulsam@gmail.com, and we can sort it out. Thank you.$ $Effective Java By Joshua Bloch Item 10: Obey The General Contract When Overriding Equals (Part 2) Part 2 of my disquisition on Item 10 of Effective Java by Joshua Bloch: Obey The General Contract When Overriding Equals. I also cover the Liskov substitution principle and properties (reflexivity, symmetry and transitivity) of the Java equals method that implements equivalence relation. 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