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A calm, healthy relationship can feel more dangerous to you than the chaos you grew up in.
That's hypervigilance. It hates the absence of a threat, so it manufactures one, even when you're finally safe. Patrick Teahan, a clinical social worker and childhood trauma educator, breaks down why your body still reacts like it's protecting a nine year old.
You're not overreacting. You're replaying. Teahan explains how most people experience the present entirely through the lens of childhood, filtering every text and every silence through wounds that happened decades ago.
This episode gets into inner child work, re-parenting, and the murky question of when going no contact with a parent is healing versus when it's avoidance. You'll hear what real boundaries look like when love and abuse get tangled together.
By the end, you'll understand why healing isn't about proving your parents wrong. It's about finally believing you were a good kid the whole time.
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00:00:00 Intro
00:01:00 How Trauma Disconnects You
00:05:54 Neurodivergence and Masking
00:12:20 The Quiet Trauma That Hurts Most
00:15:42 Fearing Deep Intimacy
00:22:58 Healing the Parent Relationship
00:27:15 Connecting With Your Inner Child
00:33:32 Understanding Emotional Triggers
00:43:06 Seeking Toxic Relationships
00:47:48 Why Healthy Love Feels Scary
00:51:16 Going No Contact
01:00:27 Calming Your Nervous System
01:03:12 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
01:07:08 Three Powerful Truths
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A calm, healthy relationship can feel more dangerous to you than the chaos you grew up in.
That's hypervigilance. It hates the absence of a threat, so it manufactures one, even when you're finally safe. Patrick Teahan, a clinical social worker and childhood trauma educator, breaks down why your body still reacts like it's protecting a nine year old.
You're not overreacting. You're replaying. Teahan explains how most people experience the present entirely through the lens of childhood, filtering every text and every silence through wounds that happened decades ago.
This episode gets into inner child work, re-parenting, and the murky question of when going no contact with a parent is healing versus when it's avoidance. You'll hear what real boundaries look like when love and abuse get tangled together.
By the end, you'll understand why healing isn't about proving your parents wrong. It's about finally believing you were a good kid the whole time.
Patrick's Website patrickteahan.com
Patrick's Instagram instagram.com/patrickteahanofficial
Patrick's YouTube youtube.com/@patrickteahanofficial
Patrick's TikTok tiktok.com/@patrickteahanofficial
Listen to this episode on the go!
🍎 Apple Podcasts: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-school-of-greatness/id596047499
🟢 Spotify: open.spotify.com/show/07GQhOZboEZOE1ysnFLipT?si=a03d916bade54d4f
For more info about this episode, go to lewishowes.com/1962
💰 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book "Make Money Easy" today!lewishowes.com/moneyyou
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00:00:00 Intro
00:01:00 How Trauma Disconnects You
00:05:54 Neurodivergence and Masking
00:12:20 The Quiet Trauma That Hurts Most
00:15:42 Fearing Deep Intimacy
00:22:58 Healing the Parent Relationship
00:27:15 Connecting With Your Inner Child
00:33:32 Understanding Emotional Triggers
00:43:06 Seeking Toxic Relationships
00:47:48 Why Healthy Love Feels Scary
00:51:16 Going No Contact
01:00:27 Calming Your Nervous System
01:03:12 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
01:07:08 Three Powerful Truths
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#greatness #inspiration #motivation
