Uploaded March 2026 | Updated September 2026, 2 weeks ago
How to build self-confidence and self-esteem, and stop tying your worth to your wins. Learn why you feel "not enough" and how to heal your self-worth blueprint.
📝 Rewire your "Worthiness Blueprint" : terricole.com/guide
Do you only feel "good enough" when you’re winning, achieving, or checking off a massive to-do list?
I’ve been there. For years, I thought my value was tied to my last big accomplishment—until I realized that’s a recipe for burnout and low self-esteem. In this video, I’m diving deep into the "Worthiness Blueprint" to help you understand why you might be struggling with low self-worth and, more importantly, how to fix it in adulthood.
We’re breaking down:
🔸The Origins: Why your childhood "praise patterns" might be sabotaging your confidence today.
🔸The Symptoms: How to spot "compliment deflection," approval seeking, and the "compare and despair" trap.
🔸The Shift: Practical tools like the Baby Photo Exercise and Boundary Setting to help you internalize that you are worthy simply because you exist.
You don’t have to "earn" your right to take up space. Let’s talk about how to stop fighting for your limitations and start owning your power.
📚 Too Much Book: hfcbook.com
📩 Newsletter: terricole.com/newsletter
🔑 Ready to build healthier relationships? Join: terricole.com/tcm
Time Stamps
00:00 - Are you born worthy? (Spoiler: Yes)
01:03 - Identifying your "Worthiness Blueprint"
02:15 - The danger of being praised ONLY for achievements
04:20 - Symptoms of low self-worth you might be missing
06:57 - Why you struggle to take a compliment
09:15 - The "Tiffany Box" analogy for receiving love
11:50 - How "Compare and Despair" kills your joy
13:38 - 3 Actionable steps to rebuild self-confidence today
15:16 - The Baby Photo Exercise (Life-changing!)
17:45 - Taking a "Relationship Inventory"
If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos
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youtu.be/O7ENEEeVOBU?si=C6FbMsdjMS32L0Zl - 10 Signs You're Self-Abandoning + What To Do Instead
youtu.be/kLS-NdgTwu0?si=TIp3UBD4U3zZ16RZ - Build Unshakeable Self-Confidence With These 5 Tips
🪔 Meditate with me: insighttimer.com/terricole
📸 Instagram: terricole.com/ig
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
#selfworth #selfconfidence #selfesteem #affirmations #personalgrowth #innercritic
How to build self-confidence and self-esteem, and stop tying your worth to your wins. Learn why you feel "not enough" and how to heal your self-worth blueprint.
📝 Rewire your "Worthiness Blueprint" : terricole.com/guide
Do you only feel "good enough" when you’re winning, achieving, or checking off a massive to-do list?
I’ve been there. For years, I thought my value was tied to my last big accomplishment—until I realized that’s a recipe for burnout and low self-esteem. In this video, I’m diving deep into the "Worthiness Blueprint" to help you understand why you might be struggling with low self-worth and, more importantly, how to fix it in adulthood.
We’re breaking down:
🔸The Origins: Why your childhood "praise patterns" might be sabotaging your confidence today.
🔸The Symptoms: How to spot "compliment deflection," approval seeking, and the "compare and despair" trap.
🔸The Shift: Practical tools like the Baby Photo Exercise and Boundary Setting to help you internalize that you are worthy simply because you exist.
You don’t have to "earn" your right to take up space. Let’s talk about how to stop fighting for your limitations and start owning your power.
📚 Too Much Book: hfcbook.com
📩 Newsletter: terricole.com/newsletter
🔑 Ready to build healthier relationships? Join: terricole.com/tcm
Time Stamps
00:00 - Are you born worthy? (Spoiler: Yes)
01:03 - Identifying your "Worthiness Blueprint"
02:15 - The danger of being praised ONLY for achievements
04:20 - Symptoms of low self-worth you might be missing
06:57 - Why you struggle to take a compliment
09:15 - The "Tiffany Box" analogy for receiving love
11:50 - How "Compare and Despair" kills your joy
13:38 - 3 Actionable steps to rebuild self-confidence today
15:16 - The Baby Photo Exercise (Life-changing!)
17:45 - Taking a "Relationship Inventory"
If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos
youtu.be/Wksa1ulAIOo?si=8qLAADNXum-DEpJx - How to Build Self-Worth (Even If You've Struggled With it Your Whole Life)
youtu.be/O7ENEEeVOBU?si=C6FbMsdjMS32L0Zl - 10 Signs You're Self-Abandoning + What To Do Instead
youtu.be/kLS-NdgTwu0?si=TIp3UBD4U3zZ16RZ - Build Unshakeable Self-Confidence With These 5 Tips
🪔 Meditate with me: insighttimer.com/terricole
📸 Instagram: terricole.com/ig
About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free, The Boundary Boss Workbook, and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency.
For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.
She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over a million people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see terricole.com
BetterHelp: betterhelp.com/terricole
I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources.
terricole.com/gethelp -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger, the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help.
Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust.
#selfworth #selfconfidence #selfesteem #affirmations #personalgrowth #innercritic
