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Why are so many women raising boys with feminist values… while still excusing harmful behaviour in men?
From “boy mum” culture and reality TV to the manosphere, Andrew Tate, Love Island, Married at First Sight UK and Bad Boyfriends — this video explores how online motherhood, gender expectations, and social media algorithms may be shaping the way boys grow into men.
Are boys being taught emotional accountability differently from girls?
Why do so many parenting trends reinforce gender stereotypes?
And what happens when motherhood itself becomes a performance online?
As a queer parent, I also wanted to explore how LGBTQ+ families often sit outside these rigid parenting identities and why that matters.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Gender performativity & social media culture
10:54 The Rise of the Momfluencer
16:32 “Boy mum” culture & gender stereotypes
21:52 Feminism and raising sons
28:29 Boys in the media, red pill culture & the manosphere
38:17 Queer parenting vs heteronormative parenting
47:29 What next?
VIDEOS / ARTICLES REFERENCED:
ITV: Olivia Attwood’s Bad Boyfriends
BBC News: Married at First Sight UK allegations- bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cp8pz1k4r2lo
Buzzfeed: Love Island UK criticism- buzzfeed.com/yiotademos/the-men-of-love-island-uk-this-season-are-some-of-the-worst
ACADEMIC SOURCES:
Butler, J. (1990) Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity
Douglas, S. & Michaels, M. (2004). The Mommy Myth
Dunn, J. (1988). The Beginnings of Social Understanding
Eliot, L. (2009) Pink Brain, Blue Brain
Fine, C (2010) Delusions of Gender
Gilligan, C. (1982) In a Different Voice
Golombok, S. (2015) Modern Families
Hays, S. (1996) The Cultural Contradictions of Motherhood
hooks, b. (2004) The Will to Change
Katz, J. (2006) The Macho Paradox
STUDIES:
Bos & Sandfort (2010) — Gender development in children of same-sex parents
Condry & Condry (1976) — Sex differences in responses to infants
Farr, R. H., Forssell, S. L., & Patterson, C. J. (2010) — Parenting and child outcomes in same-sex families
Fivush (1991) — Gender and emotion in parent-child conversations
Golombok et al. (2014) — Longitudinal studies on children in lesbian-parent families
Gunderson, Elizabeth A et al. (2013) — Parent praise to 1- to 3-year-olds predicts children's motivational frameworks 5 years later.
Praveen (2025) — A Systematic Review of the Impact of Parenting-based Social Media Influencers on Maternal Mental Health and Child Commercialization
INTIMINA. (2023) Does Social Media Make You Feel Like a Bad Mom?
Illustration by pikisuperstar on Magnific, Stock footage by pexels.com
Download Two Dots twodots.onelink.me/8e55/jessicakellgren and join their 12th Anniversary event for a chance to win $12k!
NO PURCHASE NECESSARY. Open to residents of 50 US/DC, CA (excl. QC), FR, DE, & UK for Physical Prizes; Worldwide for
Digital Prizes. 18+. Ends 10AM CEST 6/30/26. Max 10k entries. Skill-test for CA. See Official Rules for complete details:
https://zynga.support/TDSweetDozenPrizePot. Void where prohibited. Sponsor: Zynga.
Why are so many women raising boys with feminist values… while still excusing harmful behaviour in men?
From “boy mum” culture and reality TV to the manosphere, Andrew Tate, Love Island, Married at First Sight UK and Bad Boyfriends — this video explores how online motherhood, gender expectations, and social media algorithms may be shaping the way boys grow into men.
Are boys being taught emotional accountability differently from girls?
Why do so many parenting trends reinforce gender stereotypes?
And what happens when motherhood itself becomes a performance online?
As a queer parent, I also wanted to explore how LGBTQ+ families often sit outside these rigid parenting identities and why that matters.
TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Gender performativity & social media culture
10:54 The Rise of the Momfluencer
16:32 “Boy mum” culture & gender stereotypes
21:52 Feminism and raising sons
28:29 Boys in the media, red pill culture & the manosphere
38:17 Queer parenting vs heteronormative parenting
47:29 What next?
VIDEOS / ARTICLES REFERENCED:
ITV: Olivia Attwood’s Bad Boyfriends
BBC News: Married at First Sight UK allegations- bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cp8pz1k4r2lo
Buzzfeed: Love Island UK criticism- buzzfeed.com/yiotademos/the-men-of-love-island-uk-this-season-are-some-of-the-worst
ACADEMIC SOURCES:
Butler, J. (1990) Gender Trouble: Feminism and the Subversion of Identity
Douglas, S. & Michaels, M. (2004). The Mommy Myth
Dunn, J. (1988). The Beginnings of Social Understanding
Eliot, L. (2009) Pink Brain, Blue Brain
Fine, C (2010) Delusions of Gender
Gilligan, C. (1982) In a Different Voice
Golombok, S. (2015) Modern Families
Hays, S. (1996) The Cultural Contradictions of Motherhood
hooks, b. (2004) The Will to Change
Katz, J. (2006) The Macho Paradox
STUDIES:
Bos & Sandfort (2010) — Gender development in children of same-sex parents
Condry & Condry (1976) — Sex differences in responses to infants
Farr, R. H., Forssell, S. L., & Patterson, C. J. (2010) — Parenting and child outcomes in same-sex families
Fivush (1991) — Gender and emotion in parent-child conversations
Golombok et al. (2014) — Longitudinal studies on children in lesbian-parent families
Gunderson, Elizabeth A et al. (2013) — Parent praise to 1- to 3-year-olds predicts children's motivational frameworks 5 years later.
Praveen (2025) — A Systematic Review of the Impact of Parenting-based Social Media Influencers on Maternal Mental Health and Child Commercialization
INTIMINA. (2023) Does Social Media Make You Feel Like a Bad Mom?
Illustration by pikisuperstar on Magnific, Stock footage by pexels.com
