TRYING BEINGS: From Lifes Origins to Total Jerks | Stumping Trumpists Part 7/9: Just 4 Moves! @jeremyshermanPhD | Uploaded August 2024 | Updated October 2024, 6 hours ago.
Disappointing rumpists, trolls, narcissists, gaslighters, cultists, maga and aholes with four simple tricks. And when and how to use them.
I’m Jeremy Sherman PhD, a strategic consultant since 1997, specializing in dealing with jerks and doubts.
For a free trial session, email me at js@jeremysherman.com
𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤: facebook.com/jeremysherm
DEALING WITH JERKS
jerkology.net
BLOG: psychologytoday.com/us/blog/jerkology
BOOK: What’s Up With A**holes? How to spot and stop them without becoming one.
https://a.co/d/6QDQwrY
AUDIOBOOK: youtube.com/watch?v=iLerthdU4Jw&t
DEALING WITH DOUBTS
adaptivestrategies.net
BLOG: psychologytoday.com/us/blog/ambigamy
BOOK: Negotiate with Yourself and Win: Doubt Management Skills for People Who Can Hear Themselves Think: https://a.co/d/brJpNli
Though I’m informal, I’ll argue that my approach is more scientific than what passes for science but is really abstract engineering—researchers claiming we’ve got this or that add-on feature without explaining how we got it. That makes for great engineering but it’s no more rigorous supernatural explanations.
For 27 years, I’ve worked closely with Harvard/Berkeley biologist/neuroscientist Terrence Deacon on developing fully scientific explanations for phenomena simply assumed by other researchers.
Some examples:
LIFE’S STRUGGLE FOR EXISTENCE: DNA and natural selection don’t explain it. We have a fully natural explanation for how self-regenerating beings (like us) could emerge from chemistry and evolve (by natural selection) the capacity to use DNA molecules.
MOTIVATION: Psychologists just assume it. When they see effort they assume a motivation which is like assuming a “soul.” We have an explanation for what effort and motivation are physically is: not something added to chemistry but the way chemistry can limit itself by channeling energy into work to regenerate itself.
NARCISSISM: Psychologists say that if you’ve got these symptoms you have a thing called Narcissism. I have an explanation for how humans having evolved language can imagine the ideal, see where we fall short, and self-idealize to compensate. It’s something we all do. I study how it gets out of hand and becomes addictive
My book on our research: Neither Ghost Nor Machine: The Emergence and Nature of Selves (Columbia University Press, 2017) https://a.co/d/9ZNyT7E
My PhD is in decision science. I’m a soulnerd with a deeply connected heart and head. This stuff is my non-spiritual path. I live and breathe my work. It’s not some abstract intellectual exercise.
Nor is it art. Science is a campaign to find natural explanations for all natural phenomena – natural, not supernatural about which you can believe anything.
Still, I try to make this stuff fun, intuitive, and useful. I’ve written over 1,100 blog articles for Psychology Today on practical decision-making and the stuff we all go through (11 million views). Their editor-in-chief calls it, “Mind Candy Who Aren’t Afraid to Think.”
00:00 Fashion statement.
00:29 It's OK to con a con.
01:21 1. Clone to own.
01:48 2. Block exit and whining.
03:45 First out advantage.
04:38 3. Ironic defense.
06:24 4. Sticky accusations.
08:16 Master excuses.
09:17 Be careful.
10:06 Irony is your superpower.
05:23 Block whining.
Disappointing rumpists, trolls, narcissists, gaslighters, cultists, maga and aholes with four simple tricks. And when and how to use them.
I’m Jeremy Sherman PhD, a strategic consultant since 1997, specializing in dealing with jerks and doubts.
For a free trial session, email me at js@jeremysherman.com
𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤: facebook.com/jeremysherm
DEALING WITH JERKS
jerkology.net
BLOG: psychologytoday.com/us/blog/jerkology
BOOK: What’s Up With A**holes? How to spot and stop them without becoming one.
https://a.co/d/6QDQwrY
AUDIOBOOK: youtube.com/watch?v=iLerthdU4Jw&t
DEALING WITH DOUBTS
adaptivestrategies.net
BLOG: psychologytoday.com/us/blog/ambigamy
BOOK: Negotiate with Yourself and Win: Doubt Management Skills for People Who Can Hear Themselves Think: https://a.co/d/brJpNli
Though I’m informal, I’ll argue that my approach is more scientific than what passes for science but is really abstract engineering—researchers claiming we’ve got this or that add-on feature without explaining how we got it. That makes for great engineering but it’s no more rigorous supernatural explanations.
For 27 years, I’ve worked closely with Harvard/Berkeley biologist/neuroscientist Terrence Deacon on developing fully scientific explanations for phenomena simply assumed by other researchers.
Some examples:
LIFE’S STRUGGLE FOR EXISTENCE: DNA and natural selection don’t explain it. We have a fully natural explanation for how self-regenerating beings (like us) could emerge from chemistry and evolve (by natural selection) the capacity to use DNA molecules.
MOTIVATION: Psychologists just assume it. When they see effort they assume a motivation which is like assuming a “soul.” We have an explanation for what effort and motivation are physically is: not something added to chemistry but the way chemistry can limit itself by channeling energy into work to regenerate itself.
NARCISSISM: Psychologists say that if you’ve got these symptoms you have a thing called Narcissism. I have an explanation for how humans having evolved language can imagine the ideal, see where we fall short, and self-idealize to compensate. It’s something we all do. I study how it gets out of hand and becomes addictive
My book on our research: Neither Ghost Nor Machine: The Emergence and Nature of Selves (Columbia University Press, 2017) https://a.co/d/9ZNyT7E
My PhD is in decision science. I’m a soulnerd with a deeply connected heart and head. This stuff is my non-spiritual path. I live and breathe my work. It’s not some abstract intellectual exercise.
Nor is it art. Science is a campaign to find natural explanations for all natural phenomena – natural, not supernatural about which you can believe anything.
Still, I try to make this stuff fun, intuitive, and useful. I’ve written over 1,100 blog articles for Psychology Today on practical decision-making and the stuff we all go through (11 million views). Their editor-in-chief calls it, “Mind Candy Who Aren’t Afraid to Think.”
00:00 Fashion statement.
00:29 It's OK to con a con.
01:21 1. Clone to own.
01:48 2. Block exit and whining.
03:45 First out advantage.
04:38 3. Ironic defense.
06:24 4. Sticky accusations.
08:16 Master excuses.
09:17 Be careful.
10:06 Irony is your superpower.
05:23 Block whining.
