Uploaded February 2018 | Updated September 2026, 1 week ago
Stalking For Love is a popular media trope where invasive stalker-like behavior is presented as an endearing or harmless part of romantic courtship. The hero will often go to extraordinary lengths to coerce, trick or otherwise manipulate his way into a woman's life.
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LIST OF STALKING FOR LOVE MOVIES:
letterboxd.com/popdetective/list/stalking-for-love
LINKS AND RESOURCES:
• Are Hollywood movies teaching men and boys that predatory behavior is OK?
latimes.com/opinion/opinion-la/la-ol-mcintosh-hollywood-predator-heroes-20180301-story.html
• Stalking, actually: Men who reject rejection are not romantic heroes
theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/sep/12/stalking-men-rejection-romantic-sitcoms-films-creepy-women-boundaries
• How Bollywood Plays a Role in Normalising Stalking
thewire.in/162417/bollywood-stalking
• Study finds romcoms teach filmgoers to tolerate 'stalking myths'
theguardian.com/film/2016/feb/03/rom-coms-women-stalker-myth-study
• Study: I Did It Because I Never Stopped Loving You
journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0093650215570653
• How Rom-Coms Undermine Women
theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2016/11/its-rom-coms-fault-too/505928
RECOMMENDED BOOKS
• All About Love: New Visions by bell hooks
amazon.com/All-About-Love-New-Visions/dp/0060959479
• The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks
amazon.com/Will-Change-Men-Masculinity-Love/dp/0743456084
FULL TEXT TRANSCRIPT:
http://popculturedetective.agency/2018/stalking-for-love-at-the-movies#more-6731
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CREDITS
Writer/Producer: Jonathan McIntosh
Motion Graphics: Jonathan McIntosh
Logo Design: Justin McIntosh
Outro music: Jonathan Mann
patreon.com/jonathanmann
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Stalking For Love is a popular media trope where invasive stalker-like behavior is presented as an endearing or harmless part of romantic courtship. The hero will often go to extraordinary lengths to coerce, trick or otherwise manipulate his way into a woman's life.
PATREON
If you’d like to see more long-form video essays focusing on the intersections of entertainment and masculinity, please help fund this series on Patreon:
patreon.com/popdetective
PAYPAL
If you'd rather make a one-time donation you can do that via PayPal:
paypal.me/popdetective
LIST OF STALKING FOR LOVE MOVIES:
letterboxd.com/popdetective/list/stalking-for-love
LINKS AND RESOURCES:
• Are Hollywood movies teaching men and boys that predatory behavior is OK?
latimes.com/opinion/opinion-la/la-ol-mcintosh-hollywood-predator-heroes-20180301-story.html
• Stalking, actually: Men who reject rejection are not romantic heroes
theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/sep/12/stalking-men-rejection-romantic-sitcoms-films-creepy-women-boundaries
• How Bollywood Plays a Role in Normalising Stalking
thewire.in/162417/bollywood-stalking
• Study finds romcoms teach filmgoers to tolerate 'stalking myths'
theguardian.com/film/2016/feb/03/rom-coms-women-stalker-myth-study
• Study: I Did It Because I Never Stopped Loving You
journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0093650215570653
• How Rom-Coms Undermine Women
theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2016/11/its-rom-coms-fault-too/505928
RECOMMENDED BOOKS
• All About Love: New Visions by bell hooks
amazon.com/All-About-Love-New-Visions/dp/0060959479
• The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks
amazon.com/Will-Change-Men-Masculinity-Love/dp/0743456084
FULL TEXT TRANSCRIPT:
http://popculturedetective.agency/2018/stalking-for-love-at-the-movies#more-6731
COMMENTS
YouTube comments are held for approval due to harassment of this channel. If you would like to participate in constructive online conversations about this video, please share it on your social media networks. When videos get popular it's not always possible to short through every comment but I do the best I can.
FAIR USE
All multimedia clips included in this video constitute a 'fair use' of any copyrighted material as provided for in Section 107 of U.S. Copyright law, which allows for criticism, comment and scholarship. Learn more about fair use with this awesome app by New Media Rights! newmediarights.org/fairuse
CREDITS
Writer/Producer: Jonathan McIntosh
Motion Graphics: Jonathan McIntosh
Logo Design: Justin McIntosh
Outro music: Jonathan Mann
patreon.com/jonathanmann
Help us caption & translate this video!
amara.org/v/fFaa
