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Ed Frauenheim is senior director of content at Great Placeto Work—the research organization behind the fortune 100 Best Companies to WorkFor list
He’s Co-author of the book, Reinventing Masculinity; Theliberating Power of Compassion and ConnectionHe’s doing workshops on More Successful, InclusiveMasculinity at Work.
Reinventinmasculinity.com
Confined masculinity
and liberating masculinity Confined masculinity—dominant, competing, winning, no compassion or caring.More narcissistic, truncated imagination, myopicperspective, embrace of hyper-individualism, pecking orders and physicalaggression Treat everyone as a competitor, see themselves as superior(like narcissists)Fail to notice emotional cues (like autism)Authoritarian—either dominating or seekingdomination—tolerating and defending bullies Main roles formen—protector, provider and conqueror How does this confined masculinity affect the climatecrisis, politics, qAnon? Toxic masculinity How do confined men react to your proposals?How do women who prefer confined men react Soft Skills vs Hard SkillsChuck Robbins CEO Cisco systems saw homeless encampmentinspired himTEAL organizations Liberating masculinity more expansive, compassionate connected Polls—one 2018 poll found that 60% of men said society putspressure on men to behave in a way that is unhealthy or bad. Superheroes—expanding the visionAvengers vs Superman and Batman Media and stories: Sopranos, Breaking Bad, Game of ThronesJustin Baldoni of Jane the Virgin did a TEDX tal Bridgerton and Shonda Rhimes New masculinity in sports Demographics of people who are doing the worst and best Indigenous andpre-civilization “The lastseveral thousand years appear to have been an aberration” Role ofagriculture Sapolsky poisoned baboons Soul of men—three lenses. 160 Narcissism Sports talk avoids… What helps kids to learn to live liberating masculine lives? You’re working in the world of business. How do these ideasapply there? “For All Leaders?” Most companies feature hierarchical structures andimpersonal practices that mimic traditional masculine values. in business world it no longer works to be autocratic,cutthroat or emotionally unavailable. Discuss how this applies to women too, like politicians. Soft skills? I’ve heard of soft power and hard power. Four or five Cs. Curiosity Courage- emotions, acknowledging privilegeCommitment pledge to stick with it even when going getstoughCompassion caring for others and ourselvesConnection seeing ourselves as connected to all people andthings How do adult men shift? Connect with other men, with old friends, pay attention to your feelings,find role modelsHow do they deal with fear of being feminine
Ed Frauenheim is senior director of content at Great Placeto Work—the research organization behind the fortune 100 Best Companies to WorkFor list
He’s Co-author of the book, Reinventing Masculinity; Theliberating Power of Compassion and ConnectionHe’s doing workshops on More Successful, InclusiveMasculinity at Work.
Reinventinmasculinity.com
Confined masculinity
and liberating masculinity Confined masculinity—dominant, competing, winning, no compassion or caring.More narcissistic, truncated imagination, myopicperspective, embrace of hyper-individualism, pecking orders and physicalaggression Treat everyone as a competitor, see themselves as superior(like narcissists)Fail to notice emotional cues (like autism)Authoritarian—either dominating or seekingdomination—tolerating and defending bullies Main roles formen—protector, provider and conqueror How does this confined masculinity affect the climatecrisis, politics, qAnon? Toxic masculinity How do confined men react to your proposals?How do women who prefer confined men react Soft Skills vs Hard SkillsChuck Robbins CEO Cisco systems saw homeless encampmentinspired himTEAL organizations Liberating masculinity more expansive, compassionate connected Polls—one 2018 poll found that 60% of men said society putspressure on men to behave in a way that is unhealthy or bad. Superheroes—expanding the visionAvengers vs Superman and Batman Media and stories: Sopranos, Breaking Bad, Game of ThronesJustin Baldoni of Jane the Virgin did a TEDX tal Bridgerton and Shonda Rhimes New masculinity in sports Demographics of people who are doing the worst and best Indigenous andpre-civilization “The lastseveral thousand years appear to have been an aberration” Role ofagriculture Sapolsky poisoned baboons Soul of men—three lenses. 160 Narcissism Sports talk avoids… What helps kids to learn to live liberating masculine lives? You’re working in the world of business. How do these ideasapply there? “For All Leaders?” Most companies feature hierarchical structures andimpersonal practices that mimic traditional masculine values. in business world it no longer works to be autocratic,cutthroat or emotionally unavailable. Discuss how this applies to women too, like politicians. Soft skills? I’ve heard of soft power and hard power. Four or five Cs. Curiosity Courage- emotions, acknowledging privilegeCommitment pledge to stick with it even when going getstoughCompassion caring for others and ourselvesConnection seeing ourselves as connected to all people andthings How do adult men shift? Connect with other men, with old friends, pay attention to your feelings,find role modelsHow do they deal with fear of being feminine
