Uploaded November 2023 | Updated September 2026, 1 day ago
Constellations, also called family systems, is a way of visualising the dynamics of love that operate in any group that has to do with creativity or life.
A constellation workshop brings people together to look at predicaments with which people are wrestling, be they personal or organisational. The goal is to find a design that releases and acknowledges the love that yearns to find a way forward, though can be thwarted or become stuck.
In this conversation, Robert Rowland Smith and Mark Vernon, explore what in the constellations world is called the orders of love. They ask how love, because it manifests as a dynamic or spirit, is seen and fostered by rituals and gestures. The right distance between people may be as important as the right connection. The manner in which events and times are remembered or honoured can be crucial.
The dialogue suggests that love won’t be pinned down and that becoming more conscious and aligned with the field of love, within which we all live, is crucial. Seeing how this is so is not only expansive for the individual but vitalising for the whole.
Such collaboration is aided by principles akin to principles of design and which are discovered by testing and exploration, and proven by the beauty and truth released.
For more about Robert, including Simple Truths, robertrowlandsmith.com
For more about Mark markvernon.com
0:00 What is constellations?
2:10 The orders of love
4:52 The case of teenagers and parents
6:43 How the soul grows
10:34 Architectural parallels
13:10 The spatial and temporal design of love
15:29 Connecting to wider flows of love
17:55 Gestures and rituals of love
20:51 Finding unconditional love
23:55 Resisting the commodification of love
25:34 Ways in which love entangles us
30:50 Love as a process
33:50 Rituals that lead us
38:05 Sentences that reveal
Constellations, also called family systems, is a way of visualising the dynamics of love that operate in any group that has to do with creativity or life.
A constellation workshop brings people together to look at predicaments with which people are wrestling, be they personal or organisational. The goal is to find a design that releases and acknowledges the love that yearns to find a way forward, though can be thwarted or become stuck.
In this conversation, Robert Rowland Smith and Mark Vernon, explore what in the constellations world is called the orders of love. They ask how love, because it manifests as a dynamic or spirit, is seen and fostered by rituals and gestures. The right distance between people may be as important as the right connection. The manner in which events and times are remembered or honoured can be crucial.
The dialogue suggests that love won’t be pinned down and that becoming more conscious and aligned with the field of love, within which we all live, is crucial. Seeing how this is so is not only expansive for the individual but vitalising for the whole.
Such collaboration is aided by principles akin to principles of design and which are discovered by testing and exploration, and proven by the beauty and truth released.
For more about Robert, including Simple Truths, robertrowlandsmith.com
For more about Mark markvernon.com
0:00 What is constellations?
2:10 The orders of love
4:52 The case of teenagers and parents
6:43 How the soul grows
10:34 Architectural parallels
13:10 The spatial and temporal design of love
15:29 Connecting to wider flows of love
17:55 Gestures and rituals of love
20:51 Finding unconditional love
23:55 Resisting the commodification of love
25:34 Ways in which love entangles us
30:50 Love as a process
33:50 Rituals that lead us
38:05 Sentences that reveal
